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Hey mamas! I thought I'd get us started on a new thread. New month and our old thread was pretty long!

I need more than a pea sized brain somedays b/c I can't remember what was being discussed on our old thread.
One thing I can remember loud and clear was KKmama squashing my second time weight loss theory like a bug. Phooey on you. :LOL Good for you for losing the weight quickly! You must be blessed with good metabolism,, or you are waaay too busy to eat! I only have about four more lbs to lose before I hit my pre-pg weight. I don't care about the numbers so much as the way I look. I've been walking every night with K in the Bjorn and Sarah in the stroller. We have some pretty good sized hills in our neighborhood, so its quite a workout. Always feels good to do it though.

Renae-have a safe and happy trip to Cali! I'll be thinkin' of ya!

Nursing bras-I've gotten some nice ones from http://www.motherwear.com. Pretty good prices, and decent selection, and their return policy is pretty good too.

My lil' Katydid is so cute these days. I called my Mom on the phone and left a message on her answering machine of Katie talking. I'm sure my mom has played it a hundred times at least. Yesterday morning, dd was awake, and was a little squirmy while she laid next to me in bed, so I kept getting her to try to latch on, since I honestly couldn't remember when she had eaten last. But she wasn't hungry. So I picked her up and reclined on some pillows and she conked out on my shoulder. DH walks in the room 'cuz he had just showered and dressed for work and thought it was so cute. So this morning when she woke, he told me maybe she wanted to snuggle, but nope. Not so lucky. I love holding ehr when she's sleeping. SOOOO relaxing.

Well, gotta go. Hope y'all have great holiday weekends!

ETA: Link to our old thread http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...4&page=1&pp=20
 

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Sherri, thanks so much for starting a new thread! I thought about starting it this morning, but couldn't quite get myself back to the computer to do it. And thanks for the link on nursing bras -- out hard drive crashed and I lost all of my bookmarks
, so the motherwear reminder is really helpful!


Mia is waking up (that's what I get for sitting down with her in the sling!
) so I I gotta run. But I did post twice in one day - it's a record!


SeanaRain - of course you can join us! The more the merrier!


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:LOL I have to laugh at myself for saying that I posted twice in one day.... becuase I DIDN'T! The post I supposedly did first today was actually done LAST NIGHT, not today.

Brain no workie so good.
I must need some ice cream... yeah, that'll fix me right up.

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thanks for the new thread!

welcome seanarain!

meg--I'll have some ice cream too!!

just wanted to subscribe to the thread so I can keep up! only have a sec--we're in the middle of a growth spurt it seems!
 

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Oh gods, we leave tomorrow!!
I should be in bed but I wanted to wish you all a wonderful long weekend, and a great week! MIL is bringing her laptop so I may sneak on sometime, but well we'll see.

We dropped off my Julio with a friend's mother who lives nearby and I miss him so much! But he'll be well taken care of while we're gone.
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I know what you mean about sitting with the bebe sleeping in your arms, Sherri...Rowan has taken to falling asleep on my shoulder after a feeding sometimes and oh my goodness, it's the most precious thing. Nursing and sleeping at night has been going much better too. We should be in bed now but I had to come here first!

He's so sweet and wonderful...and I am praying this trip goes well! Wish us luck, everyone.

Take care!

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Hey ladies,

Maybe KKmama you are one of those people who strangely don't care much about food or eating. Is that it? *There must be SOME excuse!!!* I say to myself.

I'm reallllly struggling with bureaucracy down here in Mexico...Sol was born at home, so I have a thingy from the midwife, which I take to the Civil Registry to get her birth cert, and one of the REQUIREMENTS to get her birth certificate (without which we cannot travel, or exist, y'know..) is her vax record, and I will not vax much at all, and especially not this early!! I am in a pickle!! It's not a *law* to vax your kids but they make it impossible to get around it: the charts are only available at the Centro de Salud, not your private doctor, all shots given through ONE source only to control us all further (mooooo)...so hard to get around. My only hope is the horrible yet wonderful cultural concept of the "mordida": bribe. It gets around the stickiest situations.
Wish me luck.
ARrrrrgh.
 

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Happy weekend!

Elsanne, sorry to hear about your birth cert. woes. It's always something, huh? Good luck w/ the mordida; I don't blame you one bit. BTW, I think it's cool Sol and Lily have the same b-day!


Renae - hope your trip goes well; good luck and have fun!

SeanaRain - Welcome!

I love it when Lily falls asleep on me after nursing. Except maybe when I really have to pee...


Yesterday was good and bad. We had a great time at a playgroup and at lunch with a friend. But then came the dreaded ride home. She had fussed a little on the way there, but going home was a nightmare. I had planned on doing one more errand, but she was screaming so hard I turned back toward home. I actually stopped before we got home to get her out and comfort her, try to nurse, etc., but she wouldn't calm down and we were on a busy street, so I had to put her back in the seat (*sob) and raced home. She was screaming so hard; when we finally got home she was bright red and soooo sweaty. I felt so horrible. She calmed down right away at home, nursed, and then we took a super-long nap - 2+ hours. I felt really guilty. But then when she woke up she was fine, happy and smiley again. I guess no permanent damage
. I think I just won't go anywhere in the car alone w/ her for a while. She's usually okay if DH is there and one of us is in the backseat with her.

What do you all think - is it worth going out occasionally in the car if she hates it so much? How do I balance my needs - to get out of the house and see friends, and do necessary household errands - with her fear of the carseat? Will she "grow out" of her fear if we never put her in it? But if we do put her in it, and she gets used to it, is that equivalent to CIO
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On a brighter note, we got up early (she got up early
) this morning and *walked to a nearby restaurant for breakfast - fun!

Happy holiday weekend, everyone.

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Thanks for the new thread! (but now I forgot what I had to say before, lol and just kidding)...

thanks for those w/the kind words about the weight. I lost 4 lbs from last week.
bf'ing bubba surely is helping.


re: night changes-2-3 per night here, and (note to self) NO MORE wool soakers for bed!!! grrrr and ick!

Amy-good to see you back, but I'm sorry about your arm pains.

SeanaRain-WELCOME, and jump on in!

Sarah-it is hard when they fuss in the ride b/c unless there is another parent, there is nothing we can do but pull over (if it is safe) or just not drive (which isn't always feasible).
I always tried/try to be sure babies were just fed, changed, and hopefully sleepy before drives alone w/them, and then only took/take necessity drives.

Wow, elsanne, Best of luck w/your situation!

We're enjoying a mommy & baby weekend here.
dh took the boys to the IL's for the weekend so I can catch up on sleep. things are going well except for ridiculous bb leaks (I might as well not even be wearing nursing pads-bras and shirts get soaked) and Zach being so sweaty in his sling, which calls for more shirt changes.
: uggghhhh-I'm soooooo sick of laundry!!!! (and that would be my vent for the day, lol).

Renae, you're probably already gone by now, but good luck with your trip.

Everyone be safe and enjoy the 4th if you celebrate it!
 

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Hi all,

Sarah, I've wondered the same thing about forcing our son to cry in the car (or anywhere) when I just couldn't be there to instantly attend to his needs. I've not had the same experience with him in the car seat while driving, but often he gets purple mad when we go for walks with the stroller. I have to use the stroller because my back is really starting to hurt from the slings (I'm just out of shape and have to work my way back into it) but we usually get about halfway through a walk before he starts to really freak out. He can only stand the car seat for a short period before freak out mode is initiated. I always stop and carry him the rest of the way and he settles down, but I can't stand to see him turn so purple upset. But there are times when I just can't stop everything I'm doing to make him stop fretting, and that is so difficult. I hate to say this, but perhaps for now you might need to modify your activities even more. I know that I can nurse our boy anywhere, but he seems to only really settle after a good and long session, so I try to take him out for very brief trips so he can nurse at his leisure at home instead of in the car on the run. That means I can usually only get one errand done at a time, which is a major drag. But this is only a short time in our boy's life and I think I can make this adaptation for the time being. ALso, by taking shorter trips he doesn't have to sit in the baby bucket for quite so long.

hard.

Our boy tried drinking from the bottle yesterday for the first time in preparation for me going back to school in the fall and back to work this summer. I didn't want to do it, but I sort of felt like it was time. The good/bad news is that he didn't like the nipple at all! heh. so back to the boob for awhile. good.
 

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Emmalola--I know what you mean about it being good and bad that your babe doesn't want the bottle. We tried it and failed, and I was happy about it.

Sarah--aaarrrgh about crying baby in the backseat! IT's awful, isn't it? Sol will scream when I put her IN the seat, or stroller, but it's the motion that does the trick. If we can get moving fast enough (this goes for the sling too) we're okay, or she'll scream. Just the last couple of days she has allowed herself to be put in these conveyances without crying too much....maybe we've turned a corner. My recommendation would be for her to "get used to it" (sounds so toughlove) but upon reading Emmalola's response, kind of agree with her now. You know, in your gut, what is okay for Lily to live through, and if you perceive it's truly traumatic, don't do it.

I think it's cool too that Lily's a Beltane Baby!!!

So proud of my friendly baby..we did a lot of socializing today (fair scene) where Sol smiled & smiled for just about anybody...love that!
 

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Sarah & elsanne: Even though our babe does reasonably well in the car (the motion thing and some music on relatively loud seems to do the trick, especially on a full belly and a little sleepy), when he's done being in the car, he's really done being in the car and cries really hard. When it starts to turn to whimpers, I know it's time to stop the car and have a cuddle and some mama's milk. I agree with whomever said that you have to trust your instinct about what is best for your babe, and if that means limiting your car driving to the barest essentials and only when two adults are available, it's just for a short time (relatively speaking). Even though he's barely 4 weeks old, I've adopted a habit of announcing to my babe what I'm going to do before I start and asking for his cooperation (keeping his legs still when I'm changing his diaper/clothes, to enjoy the car ride and when we get somewhere I will cuddle him, etc.) I read about this practice in a book and my friend uses it in her nursery school with great success.

We are having a good day thus far today. It's nice to have Bill home, even just for the adult conversation. We have to go out and run errands later in preparation for our big drive down to California for my friend's wedding next week. We are leaving Monday morning and giving ourselves 2 days to drive the 700 miles, staying for 4 nights, and have 2 more days to drive back. I think the trickiest part will be in southern Oregon/northern California where there really isn't much of anything by the highway.

I may or may not be on much in the next week, depending on internet access availability in South Lake Tahoe, but I look forward to catching up with everyone when I return home next Sunday!

warmly,
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I was just talking to my husband about the CIO/car issue and he had a really good point. He was saying that there is a big difference between having a baby cry in a car in the middle of the day while you are desperately trying to get yourself and your baby home safely and leaving your little infant alone in a crib in a distant room in your house all night in the dark. He was pointing out that at least in the car you are there and probably talking or singing or trying somehow to soothe the baby, even if you can't drive and nurse/cuddle with your baby. When the baby is CIO in her nursery in her own room somewhere, there is nobody there to comfort her. Sometimes the baby has to cry, and we do what we can to make the baby aware that we are there and available to the best of our capacities for the moment.

I had a similar issue where my husband had to go out of town this past week for 4 days. I am having trouble with walking and holding the baby in certain positions, and as a result was having trouble going to the bathroom because I couldn't find a good way to take him in with me. I decided that it would be better for both of us if I left him safely in a baby seat for the few minutes that I had to pee/poo, even though he hated every second of it and screamed. But (and I almost can't believe this) I had to make that decision after about a day of discomfort!

Is anyone else having back problems from carrying their babe around? This is new for me and a real big drag. grrrrr.
 

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Am I the only one who hasn't driven postpartum yet?
I'm partly worried about being alone with her in the car, but also we only have the one car so everywhere we go DH is doing the driving.

Sometimes even with me right beside her in the backseat offering a pinky she is still not amused by the car. I think it's partly because she finds the straps so restrictive--she likes to flail her arms about a fair bit when awake.

Emmalola--I think you and Dh have a good point re: not being so much like CIO even though it feels horrible. It also seems to me to be similar to times she cries during diaper changes, bathing, dressing, etc. I also talk her through it and say out loud that I know how unhappy/frustrated/etc it's making her. I even keep it light and joke with her about how slow mommy is being getting her diaper together/getting her snaps done.

Claudia--I really like your thoughts on explaining things and preparing the babe for what to expect/asking for cooperation. In conjunction with the above I think I instinctively do a little of this, but it definitely sounds like a helpful approach!

Well, time to try and rest before Camille wakes. I'm guessing it's a 6wk growth spurt? She's been feeding almost every 45 minutes or so throughout the day and not sleeping as much. I'm exhausted and getting irritable with DH even though I don't mean to.
I really don't function well w/ less than 6 hours (total) sleep. Hoping for a better night tonight!
 

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Thanks everyone for your replies - good to know I'm not the only one. I've been limiting my driving alone with her anyway...we'll do the grocery shopping on the weekends, with DH, and do a lot of walking. It's good for me anyway!

Heather, I didn't drive anywhere for the first month, but then I tried it one time while DH sat in the back, and it was actually better...Lily hardly ever cries when he's back there. Maybe it's because she doesn't associate him with food? And he can almost always get her to smile, anytime...he's the entertainment king. But I'm thinking about trying the nursing-while-in-carseat thing, in which case I will need to sit in the back
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Emmalola - occasionally I get a sore back or a cramp if I've mistakenly put her to sleep in a position that's bad for me, and then I can't move for a while
...but it's short-lived. For long naps, walks, etc., the sling works well and is very comfortable for my back. Are you using a sling, and if so, what kind? It may not fit correctly or something? FWIW, I also use the bathroom with her in the sling if she's in it already.

Okay, funny story...speaking of swings and EC, Lily now thinks the swing is the potty :LOL. I don't know why, but every time we put her down in the swing (every now and then, when I have to pee or something - she loves it!), she poops! It's happened about 5 or 6 times now. The first couple of times it seemed like a fluke, but yesterday and today we started doing it on purpose, and we're going to try to slowly transfer her to the real little potty. My little AP baby has finally found a good use for the swing! :LOL

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Okay, DH has Alex right now, so my hands are free for some quick typing.


My name is Aleyna. I am Mommy to a lovely little boy named Alexander and wife to DH, Steve. Alex was born May 27. The past five weeks have been some of the most interesting of my life!

We live in the boothell of Misery (that's the bootheel of Missouri for those who actually like it here). Our family doesn't quite fit in with the standard mindset of the area. That's why we are actively working on getting out of Dodge as quickly as possible.
Right now we are looking at St. Louis or Columbia. But honestly, I think anywhere is better than here.

Most everyone rolls their eyes and gives me the "well, you'll see" attitude when they learn of my family's parenting choices. They all thought I was nuts when I drove an hour to see a midwife. (We won't talk about the OB who "fired" me when I asked too many questions.)

Anyway...DH is an attorney. He's a county assistant public defender. Poor man has some truely odd people as clients at times. And at times I honestly worry for his safety because of other clients. I work as a dealer at my local casino. I deal craps, roulettle, blackjack, and a few other games. I missed out on learning poker for our new poker room because it is happening during my leave.
Oh well.

That's enough about me for now. I'm looking forward to getting to know you ladies a bit better. I have a tendency to not post very much, though. Maybe you guys can help me get over that.
 

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Aleyna, welcome, beautiful name! I giggled when I wondered if you and DH ever had some of the SAME clients...

Sarah, totally my babe does the same thing! We don't have a swing but we have a little infant seat and that is her "Pupusera", that's where she goes poop! I used to try to "catch" them ECstyle and when she pooped a lot that was easy, but I want her to relax and enjoy, not with me impatiently holding her over a sink or something. The good part is, that it's teaching her that there's a PLACE to go poop, where she can relax and enjoy...later on, we'll transfer her to a potty chair when we think she's gotta go.
 

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Welcome SeanaRain!!! Glad you joined us!

HOw was everyone's holiday weekend? Ours was great. Got lots done in the yard. We planted some flowers and dh put up some lattice under our front porch. I always feel so good when we get a lot accomplished! Then we went to my friend's for a bbq. Sarah had a blast. As soon as we got there she went straight for their little kiddie pool. My other friend came and got me so she could put dd's bathing suit on. Both girls crashed last night when we got home, and so did dh andI! Busy weekend.

We're still battling thrush around here. I think I'm going to the health food store this afternoon to pick up some Gentian Violet. I have to do some research on how to use it tho. Any advice is welcome. I'm going to start on Acidophilus too to prevent it in the future once we get this cleared up. How much do I take and how often? I know some of you take it already, so it must be safe to take while bf.

My dd has gotten somewhat better in the car lately. Most times she's fine as long as we're moving, but as soon as we stop she starts to fuss. I hate red lights more than ever now!

OK, off to research thrush...
 

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Sherri--sounds like a great weekend! It looks like thrush has made a return here too.
: I just finished 3 wks of Diflucan plus nystatin for her even though she doesn't have any spots. Grrrr...off to research some too--going to see where I can buy some Grapefruit seed extract/ I've also been upping my dose of primadophilus and I'm really hoping to get some relief (for good!)

It was a quiet weekend around here. DH's family is actually coming over at 4pm today for a BBQ since they all had off work. We really wanted a weekend to ourselves and we got it! Both days we went to two diff. malls to walk. I got lots of interesting looks for the sling--pretty funny! I don't think people knew quite what to make of it, but she loved it and seems to love mall-walking--just not when I slow down to try and shop!


Off to rest a bit before the relatives show up!
 
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