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Hi mamas!! I figured that I would start a new thread and start being more productive on here since my life is finally starting to come together again ! It feels good to be back<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I know Spring hasn't sprung for everyone, but here it is in full bloom and beautiful! Have a great day, I need to get ready for Church.
 

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HI!!!<br><br>
Hevyne that's GREAT news!!<br><br>
I need to get ready for church too, I have to leave in about 45 minutes and I haven't even begun to get ready!!! See you all later!
 

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Spring?!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/cold.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Cold">:Not here! We are at the beginning of Mud Season, which is the lovely time of year between when the snow makes everything pretty and when things start to come back to life. It also brings terrible frost heaves in the roads and is brutal to your car's suspension. But the sun is trying to shine today, so that's good!<br><br>
We are having a nice, quiet, productive weekend. We had friends over for breakfast and I am making good progress on the Waldorf doll I'm making for Phoebe's birthday. The torso, head, and legs are done and I embroidered the eyes last night. I'll try to do the mouth today and get the arms stuffed. Phoebe's napping and I should be filling in report cards, but I need a break from schoolwork.<br><br>
I was talking to dh about Phoebe's birthday party, and we are realizing it's going to end up being a much bigger deal than we may have first imagined. What do you DO with a houseful of preschoolers and their parents? How do you keep frosting off the couch when there isn't enough room for everyone to eat cake in one room? What if it's raining or cold or too muddy (which is likely here in May) and we are cooped up inside the whole time? Am I nuts for worrying about this 2 months early? We realized there will be more people for the birthday party than there were for our wedding. Of course, there were only 20 people at our wedding and no little kids, but that's a lot!
 

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Hi mamas,<br><br>
just subbing for now, having ridiculous computer issues again, on my way to my apppointment!
 

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Hi mamas, I only have a second, but wanted to chime in about discipline. It makes me CRAZY when people are in an upheavel about time outs.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Yes, if I was spanking my child, and sending them to their room, I would get it, but having them go to their room, which is full of all their fun stuff to do, and having them take a breather is soooo not on my flame list, ya know? For myself, *I* need time outs!!! I love taking 10-20 minutes when DH gets home from work to go up to our room and just read for a bit, or take a bath. Why is that so wrong to have your kids do the same thing? Sorry, I'll stop. I certainly don't wat to offend any of my awesome May mamas, but I just don't see why time outs are so bad??? And I'm with you, Max, if I didn't implement time outs here, my house would be a zoo with 8 kids destroying it, and each other!!!!!!<br><br>
And Hevyne- Praise the Lord!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is wonderful, wonderful news!!!! I've been praying for you everyday, so I am thrilled that he's coming home!!!!!!!!!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"><br><br>
Ok, I'll try and post more tomorrow, I have sooo much stuff to do today, ugh.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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congrats Hevyne! Excellent news!!
 

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Hevyne, I didn't finish last week's thread and didn't realize I missed your great news! That's wonderful.<br><br>
Gotta go...time to squeeze in a shower.
 

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Amy, some thoughts about your party - I have been to one where when the table wasn't big enough for all the kids to sit at together, so they put a waterproof tablecloth on the kitchen floor & the kids sat there. It worked pretty well. Drinks were the biggest problem w/spills - so maybe sippy cups or juice boxes. I would just make a rule about all the food staying in the kitchen or dining room. Also, setting up a very simple craft area that kids w/an adult can make a fun project helps keep them busy, like a crown or hat for example. You have such a great outside space, hopefully the weather will cooperate & people can enjoy the outside. If it's a little chilly maybe a campfire would be fun. I'm sure you & dh will do a great job with it, whatever you plan.
 

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Hevyne...that's wonderful news! Congratulations! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana">
 

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Hi guys! I'm writing in the midst of school and pg sickness misery...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Will this ever really go away!!! It's still not as bad as last time, but that doesn't make it any more fun!!<br><br>
Discipline: I have no idea what I think about discipline, (other than no spanking of course) even with Clara redirecting just doesn't usually work, she is too stubborn. (well, she DOES have RED hair!!) I have very sternly told her not to do things, I've taken things away, but nothing seems to work. Time out (in any toddler friendly variety) doesn't work either, she's just like "oh good, now I can play and get my way even more!" There is no consequences for her actions! I don't know how to discipline her!! Any advice? Will she outgrow this?<br><br>
On the upside, she's being super cute when she's not being a disaster!! Yesterday when we were getting ready for church I said "okay Mama's going to find her shoes so we can go!" I turned around and Clara had brought me my tennis shoes!! Then I said Oh thank you so much!! I think I'm going to wear these black shoes though. I finished packing the diaper bag and then she came and brought me another pair of my shoes, and they were black!!! I then changed shoes and wore the ones she brought me. It was precious! She found MY shoes, they MATCHED, and were the right color! All out of a big pile of all our shoes by the door!! She can also do puzzels really well now. I can't believe how grown up she is getting!!<br><br>
Birthday Parties: Well, we are probably having way more adults than kids. Since we have limited space and want to invite a lot of people, I'm thinking of having the party at the church building instead so we have plenty of room! I do like the table cloth on the floor idea for the toddlers though! I think that will work great! We will probably have a 10 yo, and 8 yo, a 6 yo, a 4 yo, a 3 yo, Clara, an 18 month old, and a 5 month old baby! (if everyone comes!!) I'm going to try to keep it simplier this year, last year we grilled hamburgers, YUMM<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Eat">: but that's not cheap, so I think we'll just do appitizers and have people bring their favorite finger food/appetizer! We do almost all parties with my church friends pot-luck style. We all like to cook and try new recipes, so it should be fun.<br>
Well, I better get back to my school work. I'm so bummed that spring break is over!!!
 

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YAY, Hevyne! I'm so, so, so happy for you - and for your DS!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><br><br>
So, in the example I gave about DS climbing on things, the problem is that there isn't really a natural consequence other than me getting mad. He has amazing athletic grace and ALMOST NEVER falls off of anything. I have no fear of him climbing - I just don't want him up there because a) that's where the stuff I don't want him playing with is (breakables) and b) then LO wants to do it, too (and LO is not as graceful.)<br><br>
Sigh. I think part of our issue is that he is SO smart and thinks he should be able to argue me out of anything. And *I'm* "so" smart and think I should be able to argue him out of things! And neither of us gives in very well. And he's persistent. These are great personality traits for him to have, but it's really hard being his mom when he's 4.<br><br>
Until very recently he was totally incapable of going to have a time out *by himself*. I'd have to sit with him, usually with him hitting, kicking, and screaming. It's getting better, though. Thanks for the suggestions.<br><br>
In other news, our dog bit the mailman last Saturday <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
Although this is terrible and I feel terrible about it, I'm pretty sure it doesn't mean my dog is a danger to anyone else (besides delivery people, I guess). The kids were playing around my neighbor's porch, the dog was outside our fence and with them, DH was right there, mailman tried to walk up to neighbor's porch to deliver mail, dog bit him on the ankle. In other words, he was defending his "puppies" and didn't go for the "kill". But still. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">
 

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MamaBeakley, oh no! Was your mailman really mad? My dad was a cable guy years ago and was bitten by dogs a few times. He would just use it as another story about how crazy his job was.<br><br>
Kathryn, that's great that you have a place to use for parties. The only place I could think of for us would be the school gym, which is a popular birthday party venue, but that seems like a little much for a 2 year old! We'll have one 8yo, one 5yo, three 4yo, two 3yo, three 2yo, one 1.5yo, and 19 adults if everyone comes. We'll probably do a potluck too, but on the other hand I think it would be nice to not have to deal with people eating a meal. There's another thread in toddlers about this and I like the fruit salad idea for the kids. I am WAY over-thinking this.<br><br>
I have nothing really to contribute to the discipline discussion. DH has much higher expectations than I do for neatness, so that's usually where we butt heads on it. Like yesterday during lunch Phoebe dumped her rice on the table and floor. DH said "NO!", leapt out of his chair, and snatched the bowl and as much rice as he could round up out of her reach. That drives me CRAZY. She's a TODDLER! Does he expect her to have perfect table manners? He certainly doesn't! I guess I'm just better at keeping my calm and redirecting and talking about things with her. I'll bet 10 years of teaching helps with that! Phoebe has been found sitting on top of tables a few times lately, which we are trying to discourage calmly, but it's tough. We are gradually realizing some of our antique furniture isn't well-suited to a little person.
 

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Giving us a bump from page three!!!<br><br>
It's a snowy morning here, I'm actually happy to have the snow! We have a fantastic sledding hill on one side of our house, but it had melted, so there wasn't much to do outside, now we get to go sledding again!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> The kids will be thrilled.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
Did everyone have a nice St.Patty's Day? We had a lot of fun, I had the kids make leprechaun men out of toilet paper tubes, and then we made a huge rainbow cookie for snack, and the "leprechaun" left little money bags for the kids.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Then I got my hair cut and highlighted! Today there isn't much going on, so that will be nice. I still have to make it into town one of these nights to get all our stuff for Easter.<br><br>
Mamabeakely- I have that problem with Alayna, so now I buy thick rubber bands and wrap them around the door knobs on the cupboards so she can't get in there.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Makes me crazy though, so I feel your pain.<br><br>
TxMominCt- I do kind of feel like at this age, there isn't a whole lot we can do discipline wise. If she is doing something that is harming someone, I will take her hands and get down to eye level and say No. But I just don't think they can get that concept quite yet.<br><br>
ecoteat- We are doing a coloring birthday for Alayna. I am going to find butcher paper to cover the tables with so the kids can color, or maybe just have printed coloring pages out. Although, it will probably be nice out so we won't even be inside.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Alright, time to start my day, have a great Tuesday!!!!!!!
 

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I have nothing really to contribute to the discipline discussion. DH has much higher expectations than I do for neatness, so that's usually where we butt heads on it. Like yesterday during lunch Phoebe dumped her rice on the table and floor. DH said "NO!", leapt out of his chair, and snatched the bowl and as much rice as he could round up out of her reach. That drives me CRAZY. She's a TODDLER! Does he expect her to have perfect table manners? He certainly doesn't! I guess I'm just better at keeping my calm and redirecting and talking about things with her. I'll bet 10 years of teaching helps with that! Phoebe has been found sitting on top of tables a few times lately, which we are trying to discourage calmly, but it's tough. We are gradually realizing some of our antique furniture isn't well-suited to a little person.</div>
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Oh man, I've given up on trying to keep her off the table!!! That was a never ending battle.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It drives DH nuts though.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Morning <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Lukey has slept through the night for 5 nights in a row now!!!!!!! This is the first time ever for him, so I am very excited to sleep through the night...except for last night b/c dd has a UTI and had to get up to pee. DS & DH COME TOMORROW!!! I haven't seen them in like a month!! I have been here by myself with the lil ones while dh finishes business in PA. It hasn't been that much of a problem except now my mom is in Alabama b/c my grandfather is really ill so I am taking care of my house and my parents house and my lil ones and my father who is still recovering from cancer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
A lil' stressed but that is ok. My baby is coming home<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> even if it is just for a few days.<br><br>
I like the ideas of the parties you mamas are planning. The coloring party scares me though...the thought of lil ones having access to crayons and walls....have some of those magic erasers on hand just in case <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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The mailman seems to be pretty chill about it, actually. I talked to him yesterday - we wanted to give him a gift card, which he adamantly refused, and I saw his leg, which looks like it's healing well. He also said he's been really distracted because his marriage is breaking up and just really didn't seem mad at us at all. I guess maybe he just sees it as a part of his job.<br><br>
I've got to get started on my work for the day.
 

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A quick pop in to say hi! I feel like I'm a bit crazy right now trying to run around getting things we need before we go, and trying to remember not to forget anything, and ever present laundry.<br><br>
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Laundry?! Crap! I put diapers in the wash last night and completely forgot to put them in the dryer. They probably stink. Oh, well...I guess they could use another run through anyway; they've been starting to get funky.<br><br>
Today I picked Phoebe up from the babysitters' and it was the first time she didn't cry as I dragged her out of there. She happily fell asleep in the car, let me carry her in the house without a peep, and is asleep again on my lap. I hope she wakes up soon so we can go for a walk. It is so beautiful out today, if you can ignore the mud. Maybe I'll dig the stroller out for its first trip of the season. I don't want to slip wearing Phoebe on the icy patches of the driveway.
 

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Hi all. Not a lot of time here - dh is away for a couple days w/work, and I am flying solo. So far so good, but I do worry a lot when he is away. I am just trying to stay focused on the kids, being peaceful & fun w/them, and if housework gets done then that's a bonus! I know some of you have dh's that travel - what are your survival strategies?<br><br>
Amy, did you get your walk in? The weather is warming up here too, but they say it might snow tonight. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hopmad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hopping mad">: I want spring!<br><br>
Mia, where are you going again? Was it a big car trip? Whatever it is, I hope you have a fun, safe trip.<br><br>
Mamabeakley, glad your mailman is being cool about the dog bite. That's so tough, bc you know your dog is just doing his job protecting your family, yet you certainly don't want him to bite anyone. Our dog is a big rottweiller mix, who is very protective and barks a lot. She scares the hell out of people from behind our fence - and I am perfectly ok w/that. No one's going to mess w/her, or us as a result.<br><br>
Hevyne, yay for sleeping through the night! And yay again for your Easter visitors! I am so glad things are working out for you.<br><br>
Sydnee, how was sledding? I bet the kids loved it!<br><br>
Kathryn, I hope you are feeling better soon mama. It's gotta be a challenge to deal w/school & morning sickness at the same time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
NYCVeg, how goes the dissertation work? And plans for the big move? I hope all is well w/you.<br><br>
Blue Lotus, how's the art work & jewelry making going?<br><br>
Gotta start getting the kids ready for bed. Talk to you all tomorrow. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/blowkiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Blowkiss">:
 

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Evening mamas, it's an unusually quiet evening here.:yawning:Rachel had to go to bed 15 minutes earlier than normal for putzing around this morning when DH was trying to get her going for school,<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: and her sweet little sister couldn't bear the thought of Rachel going to bed alone, so she went early too.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Emma is such a softy, soooo much different than Rachel.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> And Alayna was ready for bed at 7:30, so here I sit!!!!!!!!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
I feel crummy, almost like I have a nasty head cold on the way. I hope not, but it wouldn't surprise me either, one of my daycare moms has been sick since Friday with the flu. It's running rampant here. I've been downing Emergen-C like it's candy, and tonight I'm going to use the neti pot in hopes of clearing out anything trying to attack me.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Max- We had a blast sledding this morning!! But by this afternoon, most of the snow was gone, bummer.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It was such a beautiful day! DH sometimes has to be out of town ervery other month or so, and it's usually for a couple days. I actually look forward to having some alone time.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Usually we will order out one night, as a special treat for us, I fuigure when he is out of town, he is living the high life, eating at fancy restaurants, so this is my treat.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I just try to make it super low key, mainly we'll just hang out in the evenings and play games, nothing too exciting!<br><br>
ecoteat- That was one of the reasons why I quit cloth diapering, I could never get the smell out, I tried different detergents, vinegar, baking soda, etc. But I could never get the poop smell out?? Plus Alayna's bum was always red from the dipes, bummed me out, because I love the idea of CD'ing.<br><br>
Mia- When do you leave??<br><br>
Hevyne- So DS is only coming home temporarily? I was thinking it was permanent?? Either way, it's so wonderful to *see* you so happy!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Ok, I've gotta get my craft ready for daycare tomorrow, we're making tissue paper eggs. Today we made lambs to symbolize the "Lamb of God", they were so cute, just cotton balls glued onto an empty toilet roll.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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