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Woo-hoo! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot"> Can't stay long but my how time flies! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">: . Got stuff to say but gotta go wrangle the DS <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> . <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to the mamas with nursing woes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> . BBL!
 

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My lo has been biting too but not when nursing ( well rarely I should say) He has been biting when he wants the boob and sees cleavage and if I say not yet or in a minute he will lean over and bite it to let me know that he wants it now!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: He also bites down when something distracts him so he can turn to see what is going on and take the nipple with him..OUCH!! I have always called him my nosy nurser.<br><br>
thanks for the ideas on the gift bags MCB!! I did see bubbles at the dollar store and sidewalk chalk. I need cheap ideas too so if anyone can think of anything it is great appreciated.<br><br>
I am making my own cakes instead of a bakery basically b/c of the $. I did a trial cake and it was actually really easy and really good!! I am doing white cake with a layer of pudding and then a layer of rasberry preserves in it. Then I found a WONDERFUL recipe for pudding icing that is not too sweet and doesn't take away from the sweetness of the cake and the great thing is it only has 3 ingredients and takes 3 minutes to make!! I ordered 2 edible images (b/c I am having 2 cakes..one for bday and one for baptism) I could not feasibly do a full sheet cake w/ my limited talents so I am doing 2 half sheet cakes instead. We are having over 50 adults and 10-12 kids. So I am busy busy busy!!<br><br>
Have a great day!!
 

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Lizzie and max...sorry to hear you're having nursing problems as well. max, I can't remember...were any of your previous little ones biter, or is this a new thing?<br><br>
I'm curious how long everyone is planning on nursing. I was always intent on 2 years minimum and then take it from there to see if I was more comfortable with guided weaning at some point or CLW. A lot of times these days, though, I'm not sure how to make it to next week, let alone next year. Not that weaning is a remote possibility, even I wanted to (which I don't--mostly)--dd is still on pretty much no solid, no bottles, no drinking from a sippy, cup, whatever. I really don't want to wean before 2, b/c I don't think that either cow's or soy milk are especially good for baby humans...but I also don't want to spend the next 13 months of my life with gnawed, bloody boobs.<br><br>
So, I've been indulging in a massive pity party all weekend. I am just NOT enjoying motherhood these days. Bun and I have been sick, she's cranky and clingy and impossible, and all I want to do is crawl into bed and sleep. I'm also getting a little annoyed by the look of shock from friends who ask me, "So, what are you doing next year?" (as they go on the academic job market, begin their jobs at law firms, whatever). I'm doing exactly what I'm doing this year, thank you. Yes, I have a fancy Ivy League degree, a graduate degree, and I'm still STAYING HOME WITH MY CHILD. No, I am not wasting my life. I DO wish I had more time to work, but I don't wish it enough to put dd in daycare (which we couldn't afford anyway). It's weird to me...I don't have a single friend or relative who I think would even consider staying home with their children past the "3 month maternity leave" (well, that's not entirely true--I think my SIL and my cousin will, when/if they have kids). My sister (due any day now), told me she wants to go back to work b/c she "I'm not just going to sit home and do nothing, you know." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br><br>
Whew...well, that turned into more of a rant than I intended. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Note to self: misanthropy NOT a charming trait.<br><br>
I sent my swap gift on Friday...I hope my mama (and baby) enjoys it!<br><br>
Enjoy your Sundays, all!
 

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NYCVeg, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> first of all for all the trials you've been dealing with. I know that curl up and give up feeling you're talking about, and I'd venture to guess that every single mama out there, particularly those who actually invest lots of time and energy into their own kids as you do (and many of us too), has felt this feeling at one point or another. This too shall pass.<br><br>
So did you graduate though? Weren't you working on a PhD? Did you just stop, or have you already defended? I'm wondering why I'm working so hard for a PhD when I am not totally convinced this is what I want to do with my life.<br><br>
When I was preggo I thought for sure that I was just that much of a career woman that I'd go nuts at home with a needy babe for 2 months... I thought I'd be itching to be back in the lab after a month... Well I wasn't. Then I thought, oh, it'll get better at 3 mths... then at 6 mnths... then at 9 mths... and honestly lately I've been wondering if I'm ever going to choose school over being a mama again. I don't think I really expect my transformation back into hard core cancer researcher to happen at 12 months, although I know in the back of my mind that idea is still present.<br><br>
But I respect you for being with your DD, even if your friends don't, especially since she seems to be one of those kids that really benefits from the mama-baby contact. I have one of those too. I can't imagine what DD would be like if we had sent her to daycare. I am confident she wouldn't be the affectionate and independent baby that she is now.<br><br>
So now I see my (future) PhD as more of proof that I could have chosen that route, but that I found something so much more fulfilling, and a more valuable contribution to society than lonely nights in the lab and 80 hour weeks writing grant proposals in my office. I pity those people now.... HA! What they don't know they're missing!!!!<br><br>
I am torn between wanting to try to show them the miracles of science and learning that they're missing out on by not focusing more on their kids, and knowing that it's impossible to help someone understand all the intricacies of the bond that we have with our babies, particularly in non-mainstream households who are more AP-focused in their approach to choices about how they parent.<br><br>
I'm glad I had DD b/c I was one of those that would NEVER understand that raising a good and moral member of society is arguably MORE valuable than even the cancer research I am doing, as not only am I personally making a contribution to society, but think of all that DD will do in her life too, and her kids as well!! The lessons you teach this little one, will not just make her a good person, but everyone she'll affect in her life too.<br><br>
So sorry about being so long-winded, but I've really been running into this too and it gets me as mad as some of us have gotten re: not bf'ing!, even from my female advisor who had kids!!! There are a few people in my lab, male and female, that are realizing the current climate in academia is not what they imagined, and they're unwilling to sacricfice their family for science (or whatever subject they're in).<br><br><br>
A patent/book/method/etc... will NOT take care of you when you're old and senile, but your children will!!! ** shuffles off to find the Misanthropic Mamas Tribe**
 

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Hi, ladies -<br><br>
Well, I do not have a graduate degree nor am I working on one, but that is because I made a very deliberate decision that I could have babies now and go to grad school later, but the other way around would be harder. In my field, it may actually be easier in some ways to do it this way professionally, anyway.<br><br>
With DS1, people would always say how "nice" it was that he could come to work with me (always with a caregiver - DH or MIL, but at my workplace). It wasn't "nice," it was necessary. He was very high-needs and very attached to me (or at least, my breasts!). I could not possibly have left him in daycare. If I couldn't have taken him to work with me, I would have quit and found other work or gone into debt or on welfare or something. DS2 is much more laid back and I could have left him if it had been necessary, but I never would have by choice.<br><br>
ETA: I do NOT judge or critizize anyone else for putting their babies in daycare; our society is NOT set up to allow parents/mothers to spend their children's early years with them and that makes SAH very difficult unless one is fairly economically priviledged or willing to make significant financial sacrifices.
 

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Ah, BambooMama, an astute post as always. Yes, I had a friend recently ask me if I was going to the big medieval conference this year--it honestly didn't even occur to her that 1) my daughter might still be bfing and 2) that, if she was, I couldn't leave her for a few days (this is not to blame her--she's not a parent--it's just endemic of a larger picture). And, yes, I did have at least one prof (not anyone I'm working with) intimate that my dd should be in daycare by 3 months so I could get back to work.<br><br>
I haven't finished yet (ha!), although I did get my master's a number of years ago, which is what I was referring to. I go back and forth on the question of whether or not to finish. Sometimes I really want to--and then I get frustrated that I don't have more time to work. Sometimes I don't--and then I get frustrated with the time I've already wasted working. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Either way, I am fairly certain a career in academia is not for me. I know a number of young mothers who have also jumped ship. Young fathers, not so much. Things that make you go hmmmm.
 

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NYCVeg & Bamboomama, if you haven't read this person's blog yet, I think you'll find it very interesting: <a href="http://casaubonsbook.blogspot.com/2007/02/home-economics-sustainability-and-mommy.html" target="_blank">http://casaubonsbook.blogspot.com/20...and-mommy.html</a><br>
I was a teacher for 14 years (English, middle school level) before staying home w/my DD, & do not intend on going back. I think a person can have a series of different things that they can be, at different stages of their lives; I have other ambitions for my life, other than teaching - although since I intend to home school, that will be an element (although in a very different way than the traditional model - I'm afraid that I'd come to the conclusion that John Taylor Gatto (<a href="http://www.preservenet.com/theory/Gatto.html" target="_blank">http://www.preservenet.com/theory/Gatto.html</a>) is right.) Right now I'm "mommying" as hard as I can <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> & will doubtless be in the thick of it for a while yet. Yet, the kind of writing & artwork that I've always wanted to do are there lurking, as soon as "my time" & the "kids' time" are no longer a nearly seamless whole; I've enjoyed teaching, but went for the "safe" career, w/regular paychecks, retirement, & health insurance. I don't believe that knowledge & experience are ever "wasted", but that they may turn out to be useful in unexpected ways.
 

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Aaah, the eternal debate. How to balance babies and careers? And isn't interesting how it's (almost) exclusively women who have to ask themselves these kinds of questions??<br><br>
People keep asking me when I plan to go back to work and what I plan to do. I don't know! First of all, we're probably moving, so there's no point looking for a job right now. Secondly, where we end up will condition what I do. It is a huge priority for me that one of us be around or be on a flexible schedule when our kids are small (and even when they aren't so small) and I'm willing to make financial sacrifices for that. But I say that and people judge-- they obviously don't get why I went to all the trouble of going to a top-rated college and getting a master's to stay home with a baby. Why can't mamas be educated??? Why would anyone consider it a waste? My life experience, including my education, enriches me daily, and therefore enriches the life of my child.<br><br>
Ok, on a totally different note, we're really, really struggling with sleep. Geo is up 4+ times a night, which wouldn't be a problem, but he's been needing to be rocked back to sleep each time. And I am losing.my.mind. I seriously feel such intense rage sometimes that it scares me.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: I think he's on the verge of walking, and that's what this is about, but it's so awful. I haven't had a stretch of sleep longer than 3 hours since he was 3 months old and I feel like there's no end in sight. I don't even care about STTN, I just want 4 uninterrupted hours of sleep.<br><br>
On a lighter note, during the day my baby is sooooo charming. He is such a smiley, good natured boy. He makes friends everywhere we go, it's adorable. He's also a huge daddy's boy-- when his baba is home, I'm seriously like chopped liver! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He's started singing "Old McDonald"-- he goes "Eeeeaaaaeeeaaaeeeeaaaeeeeeaaaa" (he hasn't figured out the "o" yet!). It's adorable!<br><br>
Well, this has been a long post! I hope all the May mamas and babes are well, and I hope I have more time to check in this week. I do always read along, even when I can't post, though!<br><br>
Hugs to all!
 

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Mamas, Mamas, Mamas, I so feel this whole work/home thing. The closer it gets to me starting school the more I just want to stay at home! We have an insane amount of school debt, and Dh's career doesn't allow for things like insurance or any kind of benefits, so I must work for at least health insurance and to pay off the debt. Which means going to school and becoming a nurse. I am very interested in being a L&D or postpartum nurse, I'd like to become a lactation consultant, and eventually a CNM. I feel passionately about these things, but I also feel passionately about my LO! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: What to do??? I want to stay home, but it just isn't possible, at least not for a long while. This is why we wanted to wait to have kids!!! Being a nurse is a lot of bang for your buck. Great benefits, great pay, great flexibility in hours and location, you can work in tons of different fields. This is great for someone wanting to primarily stay at home, but it isn't the same<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> . Okay enough pouting for me!<br><br>
Clara has taken a few steps by herself!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: I'm so proud! She's been almost walking for about 2 months. She just won't let go! The only time she's walked un-assisted is when she's distracted and doesn't realize she isn't holding on to anything! She sings too, she tries twinkle twinkle, and ABC. She is also talking a bit more. She still doesn't say a whole lot, but she's saying daddy, mama, eat, uh-oh, and finally, finally learned how to clap!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I don't know why she couldn't do that for so long! She would try, but she'd just grab her hands together!<br><br>
Well it's a BEAUTIFUL day here (FINALLY!!!) and I'm going to go make the most of it! Y'all have a great Sunday! We'll figure out all of this Mama/career stuff eventually!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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bbl<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/kissy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="kiss">
 

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Just a quick pop-in before we go to the playground <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> .<br><br>
Hevyne I think that was max that had all the great gift bag ideas <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . Though I was looking for some myself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> . I don't think we can afford gift bags this time around though. Maybe next year <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> .<br><br>
On careers and babies, my life is totally open to so many possibilities but for now I'm just enjoying focusing on this season of caring for our DS and any future kiddos <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> .<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you Mary. The getting to the walking <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: trust me, I feel ya!
 

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Oh and Erin's doing fine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> . Life's just been super busy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hang.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hang"> . I sure can relate! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 

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Hi all. What an interesting turn our thread has taken this week! Since I am a little older <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/whistling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="whistle"> than some of you mamas, I feel like I am in a different place re: the career/SAHM debate. I got my masters right after undergrad, worked for almost 10 years in my profession, was married for 6 of those years, then we had our first. I tried to go back part-time after my first was born, but it was way too stressful. He was a very high needs baby & being away from him was torture to both of us. The rest, as they say, is history. I am totally comfortable & in fact, relishing being a SAHM for the foreseeable future. I am fortunate that my dh has a really good job and I am able to focus on the kids. Big hugs to you mamas trying to work it all out. I can see how stressful that is.<br><br>
NYCVeg, a very big hug to you. Mama, you have done the most amazing job of anyone I know conquering all your nursing challenges. You are so entitled to any feelings you are having about it.<br><br>
You asked about my little biter - yes, she is my first one to bite repeatedly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"> And about how long we plan to nurse, I nursed my other three from between one to one and a half years. With LO, I envision between one and a half to two years. I am thinking about night weaning, but may wait until after the summer since we are going to be camping a lot. I think she will sleep much better if I continue to nurse her then.<br><br>
I wish I had time for personals. I'll try to be bbl.
 

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I don't know! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I've had two completely different nursing relationships with my older boys and I can probably see Simon nursing until at least 2--maybe 3. We'll see I guess.<br><br>
All this talk about mommyhood! Before we were "surprised" by Simon, we had it all planned out. I was going to finish my degree, then we were going to move to Indiana so I could get my Masters & PhD. Once Simon was in the mix, we thought we'd wait until dh was done with his degree before moving to Indiana. Then his father passed away and our plans were pushed back even further so we can be here for my MIL & help take care of the grandparents. Indiana in on indefinite hold right now and dh plans to get his Masters here (he finally finishes his BA next May).<br><br>
In the meantime, people ask me what I'm "doing" with my music degree and I just tell them that I'm perfectly happy where I am in life. I didn't expect Simon to be as high needs as he is, so having voice students would make home life a little more difficult than it needs to be.<br><br>
So...I don't know where I was going with all this.<br><br>
ANYWAY!<br><br>
Simon's been a sleepy sleepy head the past two days. He took two LONG naps yesterday, a four hour nap this afternoon and now he's back in bed. I think that when he finally wakes up, he's going to be six feet tall. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Amanda, I think I'll nurse for at least 2 years and then see where things take us from there. I've never been able to imagine nursing an older toddler, but that doesn't mean it wouldn't happen.<br><br>
I feel really lucky with my job. I love teaching and don't feel bad at all about leaving home for 4-5 hours a day (anymore--it was really hard at first). I'm going to work part-time next year too. I am looking forward to summer vacation, though, although I know I'll need to make sure I get out by myself sometimes or I'll go loopy.<br><br>
Today was the last day of my school vacation week and a gorgeous day, so we went to Acadia National Park. We did lazy sightseeing because dh and I are SO tired this weekend, but it was wonderful to sit on the rocky beach and let Phoebe play with smooth tumbled stones and seaweed while we sifted through the rocks and picked out sea glass and shells. Now that Phoebe is pkaying outside, she smells different. She smells like fresh air and dirt and not so much like a baby!<br><br>
Shahbazin, thanks for that blog's link--I was just reading some of it and it's really interesting. And did you mention you were a teacher before and I missed it? Middle school kids are an amazing species, aren't they? Sometimes I miss teaching middle school, but dh says I'm mellower and happier when I teach younger kids.<br><br>
Kathryn, hooray for the walking! Phoebe can't quite stand on her own yet, but when we hold her under the armpits she takes a few steps and laughs so hard while she's doing it!<br><br>
Mary, we are struggling with sleep again too. We had a really good week, but the last few nights have been pretty rough. Phoebe's asleep now, and even though it's not even 8:00 I should join her.
 

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Hi mamas,<br><br>
Today was loooooooooong! Selah is doing some weird sleeping thing where she goes to sleep at her normal time and then is really restless throughout the night and wakes easily, and then stays up for a couple of hours before finally going back to sleep, DH sleeps right through it all so I get to be up with her, I was super grumpy mama today, and all this not sleeping is turning me into a mess. I was rinsing our lunch dishes and DH asked me something totally benign and I just burst out crying. Needless to say, I ended up taking a nap right after that.<br><br>
Regarding nursing- I nursed Seth until he was 25 months, and the last 4 months of him nursing I was in agony, I was pregnant with Selah and every time he nursed I felt like needles were coming out instead of breastmilk. I had expected a bit of a fight when I told him we were done because it just hurt too much, and he was annoyed and whined for a couple of minutes and then was just like, "okay, I can live with this" and just accepted it. He was really easygoing about nursing in general, he took to it like a champ and only bit me once the entire time, he was sweet and gentle and silly me, I expected it that way with Selah. So not the case! I plan on giving her 2 years too, and will probably be willing for more just because she's our last and it's just such a significant milestone in my mind when they stop nursing. If she decides to stop sooner then we'll stop, but we haven't had the greatest time nursing, she pinches my nipples & breasts, bites, slaps, and in general treats them like she's trying to tenderize meat. I just keep telling myself that it's super good for her and that someday she'll be older and I won't have a nursing babe, so I need to appreciate and try to enjoy it while we're in the middle of it.<br><br>
Now, regarding working/finishing education- I had always planned on being a SAHM, DH knew from the get go, and I actually thought I was finished up with school before the kiddos, I have 2 BA's and a MLIS, and worked a total of 11 months full time before my pregnancy with Seth decided it wasn't going to be an easy one. I like librarianship, I like the ideas behind it and the actual work, I was academic reference, but whenever I do actually go back I might try some cataloging too. To me, work was so much easier than being at home, I feel like I was never groomed to be a housewife, and really don't like cleaning and cooking, at all. This feels so much harder to me, but there's no way as long as it's economically feasible (as poor as we are) that I'll work full time, my babies are going to be little for such a tiny amount of time and I feel like I need to be around for all of it. Between them I did work around 10 hours a week and I felt like it did wonders for me, I felt more like my old self, and not so much like a failure since I'm not good at the stuff you traditionally do when you're a stay at homer. I don't know what I'm going to do, I feel like we need money but there's really not a time right now that I could be gone, Selah is fairly high needs and her bedtime is when she needs me the most, so I was actually looking into trying to find something I could do from home. I didn't work long enough to be qualified to do virtual reference, for either academic or public libraries, but the thing is, I don't think I'd want to do it anyway, because I need something that I could start and stop when she's restless and fussing, and she can't be scheduled, ykwim? Anyway, I guess one of the good things about my having my kids when I did is that 4 of my friends from library school also had kids right around the time I was having mine, and all have decided to stay home with them, so they understand what I'm doing and I don't get asked when I'm going back from people I know in my profession. The annoying thing is that I get asked by my extended family all the time, my uncle is always asking me why I'm wasting my education by taking care of my kids, I used to get really hurt, but now I'm just annoyed and tell him that I'm not wasting it- I'm educating my kids too, and leave it at that. I don't know, I think I digressed a bit, and had intended just to check in and sub. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Anyway, I'm going to crochet a bit and tweak my pattern I'm trying to write and then I'm down for the night! Talk to you tomorrow.
 

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Real quick...so sorry max for taking away your party idea credit <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Congrats Clara on your first steps!!!!<br><br>
I am trying to get a part-time job to pay some of these relocation court expenses. I plan on letting Lukey self-wean so I don't want to go back to work until then...at least.<br><br>
Well, I have got to get outside and enjoy the day!!<br><br>
oh, whoever sends my gift can you pm Erika and let her know when you send it. The post office is in town and we only go once in a while....I don't want to miss the pkg. and have it sit there for a few weeks <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (Yes, I live in the boonies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )
 

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Aack, I can't get the coupon code for threesisterstoys to work now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Does anyone else know of any good coupon codes? I haven't been doing much buying lately since the budget is so tight. I love being a SAHM, but I can't wait to get out of debt- I miss the paycheck, a lot.
 

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I too, deal w/ the struggle btw going back to work and staying at home. Last fall, it was my plan to return to teaching in January - but in Sept. I decided i wouldn't be ready, so I extended my childrearing leave through the end of the school year. In spite of my gripes about the BS some kids had posted on the net, I do look forward to teaching again in the Fall. I recently learned that they aren't going to overload me after all next year, and I will have almost ALL new students (I will have 17 older students, but about 80 new ones.) So I have been chipping away, trying to get the next year planned out, creating new projects and activities in the classroom. I want to have a dynamic classroom next year, but I will not let it interfere with my home time with the girls. I have vowed not to live at school like I used to -- and with fewer preps I think I will be able to get closer to finding that balance.<br><br>
On the nursing front, I have a biter too. I just cut her off when the biting stops, and then try again in 10 mins or so. Usually, it does the trick.<br><br>
I went to see my 94 y/o grandmother yesterday. She is very old and frail and I asked her to teach me how to crochet. It made her day. I was nursing the baby and she told me, "Don't you wean that baby 'til she's good and ready!" (I don't have plans to wean anytime soon, but she's aware of the culture we live in.) It was nice to hear some affirmation from one of my elders.<br><br>
Mary -- I meant to say, I feel your pain on the middle of the night wakings. For little while, both of my girls seemed to take turns getting up...always once i fell back to sleep. I have felt that rage that you describe and that's when I put the baby down and tell dh that he needs to take care of the baby. It's so ironic, most ALL of the time, I am the one who does the nighttime parenting, since I am not getting up for work, but there was one particular weekend when we visited the ILs and DH was tired (not from physically getting up with the kids, but from being woken up by us). MIL said something about, "well, tonight, you are going to have to take turns getting up with the kids..." implying that DH had been up a lot with the kids -- hence his tiredness. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: (BTW -- I DO get along very well with her, but I was soooo sleep deprived that I was totally ticked off at that statement.) I don't think he had really been up with the kids at all that night...ugh.<br><br>
Anyway, I hope that all the tired, sore boobied, torn-btw-work and kids mamas find peace and painlessness soon!
 

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Sorry to hear of people's nursing problems <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I've been lucky so far, gone through some periods of discomfort & have had to supplement since 8 months, but DD is still nursing (4-6x/day). I'm not sure how this tandem thing is going to work, but I do want to do CLW, so am hoping to be nursing at least another 2 years.<br><br>
I enjoyed teaching middle schoolers - it's an interesting time- they're really poised between being little kids & being grown up, so you can really do some interesting projects, yet they're not as set in their ways as high schoolers. Little kids always made me nervous <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> ; I wasn't sure how to deal w/them, never having any experience w/them (I'm an only child, never spent any time around small children - DD's 1st soiled diper was the 1st one I ever changed!) Frankly, until I had my own, I wasn't all that charmed w/babies, either <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
DD has *8* teeth now, can walk if she holds on to something w/one hand, doesn't say much except "ma ma", "gee" (doggie), & "ahh? ahh? (while pointing). She makes a lot of cute trilling burbling noises when she plays. She loves flipping through board books, (& can point out stuff- "Where's the bunny? Where's the giraffe?") & likes to take rings off her stacker (but doesn't put them on yet). Here's a couple of new pics of her:<br><a href="http://shahbazinanatolianshepherds.com/images/yellowsorter4470.jpg" target="_blank">http://shahbazinanatolianshepherds.c...sorter4470.jpg</a><br><a href="http://shahbazinanatolianshepherds.com/images/situp4454.jpg" target="_blank">http://shahbazinanatolianshepherds.c.../situp4454.jpg</a><br>
She's sleeping well - often goes to bed late (around 10 pm) but once she's down, only wakes once to nurse - I'm dying here though, as between heartburn, no bladder capacity, & hip pain, I'm up every 1 1/2-2 hours - aack! I think I actually got *more* sleep after the baby was born, last time, than during the 3rd trimester. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Hurry up July!
 
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