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Hello,<br>
I am a mama to 3 busy boys ages almost 5, 2 and a half, and a wee 7 weeks. My boys are all healthy, we are Attachment Parents despite the initial wishes of our extended family members, and our third son was born at home (we had an unplanned UC before the midwife arrived....quick labor, WONDERFUL family experience, more on that for those who are interested).<br><br>
Anyway, although my first 2 boys were born without any interventions, yet we did vaccinate (although we delayed some). I am not planning to vaccinate my new baby, and I would love some support or suggestions from the experienced mamas on this board. I will spend some time scrolling the board to learn about others' experiences.<br><br>
My pediatrician is supportive and respectful of our birth and parenting choices, and I really like her, and she loves my boys, but our baby's 2 month appointment approaches, and I know that vaccinations will come up. Any tips on how to firmly but kindly decline? My children are homeschooled, so I don't have to worry about the school argument, but I have enjoyed a great relationship with my pediatrician and her entire staff, and I want to maintain it while not allowing anyone to stick my babies!<br><br>
Thanks for letting me introduce myself...I look forward to getting to know you all.<br><br>
Mocha
 

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congratulations on your little one!<br><br>
My own opinion is that you do get too much into it with your ped. I know you have a long relationship with her and you will feel like you owe her more but really you don't. I think I would find your most casual voice and your most casual tone and say, "You know we're going to delay the vaxes this time."<br>
And if she says for how long, say, again, in a casual voice, "We aren't sure."<br><br>
you will be tempted to explain your reasons but even if you guys have a beautiful relationship she will be inclined to 'school' you. And you will be the student...not the other way around.<br><br>
But there is not much anyone can say when you say, 'delaying for now." Again, find your casual voice. That will help.<br><br>
by the way if you need more info here is my cheat sheet:<br><br><a href="http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=57794" target="_blank">http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...threadid=57794</a><br><br>
good luck and welcome to Vax.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I agree. I should only provide the pediatrician with as much info as she needs to know, and nothing more. I like your suggestion, too. I will use it. Honestly, she is not even the one who administers the vaccines, her nurse does, but it is such a busy office, she may not even notice until our next visit.<br><br>
THanks again, though. I will employ your streategy!<br><br><br>
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I agree with Trabot!<br>
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Here is another thought...<br>
Why go at all? The main reason for the visit is to vaccinate. The exam is cursory at best (approx. 5 minutes).<br><br>
Here are some links to previous discussions:<br><br><a href="http://216.92.20.151/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=78596&highlight=well+baby+check" target="_blank">http://216.92.20.151/discussions/sho...ell+baby+check</a><br><br><a href="http://216.92.20.151/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72888&highlight=well+baby+check" target="_blank">http://216.92.20.151/discussions/sho...ell+baby+check</a>
 

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That is true. All that is done is weight, length, etc. and then a brief period of "so, how's it going" chit chat...<br><br>
I guess I don't mind going to the office because I am one of a handful of patients of hers who co-sleeps, nurses for longer than 18 months, uses positive guidance, cloth diapers, homebirths and such. My children are received warmly, and in the past I have liked the fact that being one who does things contrary to the mainstream, I am in some way teaching her staff that there is another way to do things, and that because of my parenting and birth choices, I have healthy, beautiful caring little boys.<br><br>
You make a great point, Carla. Why bother? My little ones are not lab rats, why put them and myself through the hassle if I have to agonize over the vaccine?<br><br>
How many others here forgo appointments altogether?<br><br>
Thanks for giving me another point to consider<br><br>
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With my dd I took her in on my own schedule.With my ds I followed the more traditional WCC schedule.With dd(and the old ped) I was a lot more nervous about getting hassled,not just about vaccines.<br><br>
Now I go just to show how healthy my born at home,unvaccinated,ebf-ed kids are. I like to talk about the alternative methods I use to treat/support the body.So far though he is just a conventional meds type doctor,but still a nice one.<br><br>
Congrats on the UC! Aren't those the most awesome births? My first was UC.Gotta go dh and the kiddos are up.<br>
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And Sara, we all loved the UC...it was actually unplanned, but once the midwives arrived, we were all able to have birthday cake and toast my new little one!<br><br>
I think I am going to cancel the appointment tomorrow....I am ashamed that I wasted so much time with my other boys, but pleased that I came across this board so that now I am more informed!<br><br>
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late as usual, but welcome to the board <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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