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Hello mamas. Thought I'd start a new weekly thread. We've got Feb. vacation starting tomorrow, so I will have a busy week keeping everyone happy & occupied.<br><br>
I was wondering if you mamas would like to talk about how we take care of ourselves while all or most of our energy is going towards mothering our children? Our recent threads have been filled w/exhausted, if not burnt out mamas (me included!), so I thought maybe we could share some ideas about how we take a little time for ourselves, what works, creative options, etc.<br><br>
One thing that I have been doing, which has turned out to be a nice break for me, is when I nurse littlest to sleep at night I watch DVDs in my bedroom while dh tends to the other kids. I used to try to nurse her to sleep, then get up & have a few minutes to myself, but that never worked - either the older kids would need me, or littlest would wake up as soon as I got involved in something. It was just more stress. w/our new system, if she wakes I just nurse her to sleep while I enjoy a movie. I actually look forward to that quiet time now. How about the rest of you?
 

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I only have one baby so i tend to get alot of time to myself (he is always asleep by 9pm and sleeps til 8am) of course he still wakes up 2-3 times a night to nurse but i co-sleep so that isn't really a big issue!.. after he falls asleep i like to relax by watching a DVD or coming on to MDC! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Anyone else have a walking may baby? How do you keep them from almost killing themself and scaring me half to dealth 30 times a day!?!? I baby proofed the best i possibly can but he still is just a nut! He is walking but still falls quite a bit and its always on to a toy or into a wall! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br>
just thought maybe some wise mama had some tips?<br><br>
also mann i have been dealing with some temper issues with DS! He wants what he wants and NOW!! I'll admit sometimes its almost cute.. the other day i was cooking breakfast and he saw the avocado on the counter and kept pointing to it and freaking out yelling! So i gave it to him and he bit into it and tried to suck out the avocado! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> its pretty funny.. he says "Avo" when he wants to eat one.. cracks me up...<br><br>
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Hi everyone! DH's opera tonight was SOOOO good, they did better than on Friday! Clara went with a new family while I was at the show, (I know them well, they have grandkids, etc, but she's never watched Clara before) They said she was so good! Usually she isn't her fun self when we aren't there, so I was so glad to hear she did so well!<br><br>
hmmm... what I do to feel better I eat massive amounts of chocolate, get on MDC, and write lists. I am a complusive list writer, if I have all of the lists that are in my head written down, I feel better! I also like to go run errands by myself, that's huge, it feels so good to get a lot done in a short amount of time b/c I don't have dd with me. Most people wouldn't think this is relaxing but I really like it! (It drives DH crazy that I don't know how to relax!)<br><br>
Ducky-Clara's temper is showing (she's a red head!!) and while it is cute, it's hard to deal with too! So I feel ya!<br>
I think our lives will be a bit more like normal since DH's show is over! I'm looking forward to getting everything back in order! Have a great night ladies!
 

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Good question Max!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Some things I do...<br><br>
~ Audio books in the car (For me...not the kiddos. I'm way into Law of Attraction/The Secret stuff right now. SO inspiring.)<br>
~ The jacuzzi at the YMCA while the kids are in the daycare (Ahhhhhh...)<br>
~ Waking up early to write in my journal and do a little yoga-stretching<br>
~ I have 2 hours of babysitting a week and I've been using that time to take myself on a date! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
~ And...I'm really focusing energy on DH and our relationship because that makes all the difference for me. When we're really connected, I feel like I have SO much more energy!
 

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Well, I've been feeling better since DH started parenting DD for a 2 hour stint on the weekend! (He actually *changed a diaper* - for the 1st time - today!) I've been using the time to shear sheep (did the last 2 today, hurrah!), since I blade shear by hand, I'm preg. & they're preg, I'm kinda slow. DD likes to be held a lot, so I take her for walks outside, visit the critters, water plants; I'm on line a lot, she likes to sleep on me then. Next weekend, I'll actually go somewhere *by myself* for the 1st time since DD was born - DH will watch her at home & give her lunch while I'm out showing my dog. Except for napping on me, DD doesn't often sleep during the day, & tends to sleep at night from around 10PM- 7 or 8AM (plus nursing 2x), so I'm sleeping when she is - too tired to do anything else. Chocolate is a good friend, particularly by late afternoon when energy's flagging.
 

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I don't do nearly enough for myself.<br><br>
I stay up late and knit. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I started the GSE on my boobies today. I also have been "dipping" them in cups of vinegar and water the past 2 days too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> They feel better already.
 

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Thanks for the question Max- its a good one! I also stay up late and knit- having a project (or six) on the go has been central to my mental health since ds was born. I also write in my journal, read, have looong showers when dh is watching ds, and blog. I only have one babe though- not sure how things will change when there are more in the picture!<br><br>
Ducky- I can't believe your ds is walking and saying "avo"! my ds would love to walk- all he wants to do all day long is to have us hold his hands while he toddles about- but I think it'll be awhile before he can manage it on his own. And nothing resembling a word, though he makes lots of big sounds!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I still only have one as well. Sometimes when my dp is home, which is not often (he works on the Trans-AK Pipeline), he'll watch Orion for me while I go out at night for a few hours with the girls. But usually it's just me and the boy, so after I nurse him to sleep I watch TV and knit, write, read, or surf the Internet. Orion still wakes up every two hours though, plus he's teething pretty badly right now (just cut his top two front teeth, and I think he's getting more, he cries inconsolably at night, poor thing), so badly that I've brought the paci back only at night when the boob won't take the pain away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Poor guy.
 

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Hi all. Just wanted to let everyone know I PMed MCB & she got right back to me. She and her babe are well. Their family is just super busy right now w/a lot of different things going on. She says she tries to read the threads, but we all know how long they get. I'm glad to hear all is well there.<br><br>
I love reading about how everyone takes care of themselves, even if for just a little bit. Maybe talking about it will help us to remember how important this really is.<br><br>
Ducky, I like to chill out w/DVDs at night too. I have been watching some HBO series like Sopranos & Six Feet Under. I am also a Survivor addict! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag"> Seen anything good lately?<br><br>
TxMom, I am a list writer too! I know exactly what you mean about once you write it down, then you can stop worrying about it. And, errands on your own - ahhh, relaxing. I like to listen to a book on tape (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> dharmama) when I am in the car alone - productive & relaxing.<br><br>
Dharmama, I knew you'd have some great ideas. Sounds very peaceful.<br><br>
Shahbazin, I have always turned to caring for my animals when things are stressful. Animals are way easier than people! Shearing sheep sounds so cool. I think I was a farmer in another life. Good luck at your dog show! Oh, and how are you feeling these days?<br><br>
Cheryl, taimarie & alaskaberry, I am so envious of knitters. It's something I have always wanted to learn. What do you both like to make? I am glad you are feeling better w/the thrush Cheryl.<br><br>
When the weather is nice taking walks is big for me. I like to listen to books on tape then also. Right now, I can barely walk to the car - it's been around 20 degrees constantly here. Brrrrr!
 

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quick question before breakfast<br><br>
is anyone else still having trouble with car rides? ds still screams during car rides <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I don't know what else to do.. I sing to him, clap, talk, put on music, have a little platic mirror with music and lights that he can see himself and still he screams in the car.. i stay home as much as i can but sometimes i HAVE to get out! he really enjoys going to story time at the library but the crying/yelling all the way there isn't worth it anymore.. the only thing helps is if i buckle him in his car seat and nurse him until he falls asleep then leave.. and that is fine i do not mind doing that at all but he will only do that if its already naptime.. so i either have to plan everything around nap time or hear him sceam! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: i thought he would outgrow it but i guess not!<br><br>
the ONLY car ride he didnt cry was that first car ride home from the hospital! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> its been downhill (car wise) since!<br><br>
the other question i had is what is your dc eatting?<br>
its hard to find new things for him to try it seems like he eats the same things almost everyday<br><br>
Okay that was really long! off to eat breakfast!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Jackie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Screaming in the car is no fun at all (Rem went through a phase, thank G-d it was shortlived!) Some of the LLL mamas were talking about that at our last meeting... their solution wasn't one I'd advocate, tho (getting a DVD player in the car -- we're not doing children's DVDs at all.)<br><br>
What do I do for me time? My favorite is my yoga class (once a week). Secondly, I love my baths. I don't get one every night (and sometimes I share them with Remy, by bathing him with me) but I love the water and it refreshes and recharges me. Thirdly, I think Erin hit the nail on the head: the more connected I am to my DH, the better I feel I am doing.<br><br>
I love knitting, too, but I really don't make too much time for that. I should, but I find the internet sucks that time away...<br><br>
Remy still hates food, so I have no answer to that question.
 

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No solids here really either. A taste of this or that once in a while but he mostly just spits out anything I offer. He does eat O's at least once a day...mainly just as a distraction so I can get something done...but he doesn't even really like those. He gags on them a lot, which scares the crap out of me.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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It does sound peaceful, doesn't it. So why am I always feeling like <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Hey mamas, I was looking up ear infections the other day on here and I found a great thread <a href="http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=406779" target="_blank">http://mothering.com/discussions/sho...d.php?t=406779</a> I had to manually type it in for some reason b/c it wouldn't let me copy it. But it this doesn't appear as a link it is in health and healing under How can I get rid of ear infections w/o antibiotics? I found a lot of really great ideas I thought I would you guys would find interesting.<br><br>
My babe has been walking for about a month now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> So I am chasing 2 toddlers.....right now his favorite thing is raiding the cabinets and pulling everything out. There is no doors on my main one so I can't keep him out. He says a few words...mama, dada, gar (he calls the cat that), and no.<br><br>
I don't get a lot of free time but when I do I surf the internet or watch stuff I recorded on my Tivo.<br><br>
I am still struggling w/ him waking up every hour at night to feed. I am so tired. I have tried not feeding him but he just cries. He only comfort feeds to fall back asleep not really having a meal. Any ideas on how to stretch it out?
 

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Hi mamas, this is a great topic. I'm not a meditation type of person but I'm taking this great parenting class and she leads meditation at the end of the session and assigns it as homework, too. I'm going to try to be more consistent doing that. I absolutely love my class, it really energizes me and makes me motivated to be the most loving mom I can be. I wasn't going to take the class because it's expensive, but now I'm so glad I did.<br><br>
Ducky, I know what you mean about the food thing. Seems DS eats the same things too. Squash, beans, cheese, pears, plums, mangoes, cheerios, banana, toast....I need to give him more variety.<br><br>
We are also struggling with sleep, well I am. The baby seems just fine! DS wakes up about five or six times a night. I keep telling myself this won't last forever.<br><br>
Glad to touch base with all the May mamas.
 

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I'd love to hear more about your class. Sounds wonderful. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I am a pretty new knitter. My friend got a bunch of us mamas started in November. I have made many scarves, a few hats, a sweater for dd and I am currently working on a pair of longies.<br><br>
I had the best compliment yesterday. DD2 was wearing a hat I knitted for her, and a lady came over and said, "Where DID you get that adorable hat?". I was beaming with pride to tell her that I made it myself.<br><br>
Oh yeah, aspiring knitting mamas...I learned a lot of what I know from the videos at <a href="http://www.knittinghelp.com" target="_blank">http://www.knittinghelp.com</a><br>
You'd be surprised at what you can teach yourself with the internet as a resource.
 

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Gaah. I totally lost most of the last thread. Usually I can at least keep up with reading! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
It was a busy week.<br><br>
I'm at the library checking email and left both my babes at home (!). So I'll BBL this week. Just subbing.
 

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We've started letting Clara eat whatever she can off our plates <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: in addition to baby food squash sweet potatos carrots and pears mixed with oatmeal. I also feed her pieces of pears and peaches. She pretty much passes those whole in her diaper, but she likes practicing eating! She also eats those baby puffed foods when we're out or she's very restless and needs something to focus on! She still has NO teeth<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: so it's especially hard to let her eat all of the stuff she really really wants to eat!<br><br>
Clara doesn't really mind car rides anymore, she actually enjoys them then falls asleep, if she's really tired she'll cry for a bit until we get going, then she'll konk out! (is that how you spell that???)<br><br>
We had another great sleep night last night! Clara slept for 4 hours straight in her crib!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce"> I slept for 3 of those hours, then she had 2 more decent stretches 2-3 hours (I was too tired to look at the clock!) I am very excited!<br><br>
I have a CD ? I tried out a mother-ease diaper last night to see how it would do, this morning the entire diaper was soaked, is this normal? Are the diapers usually completley soaked? Or is this one not absorbant enough? Also it was pretty bulky, any suggestions for a less bulky diaper? I've got a few other different kinds coming, so hopefully they'll all work out and I can just start using them and eventually stop buying sposies then DH will just have to live with it! Becuase heaven knows he won't go shopping for sposies (or pretty much anything else) on his own!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Have a great day mamas!
 

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Happy Presidents day mommas!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It was a weird weekend, Brad had the stomach flu on Friday ALL DAY LONG, poor guy, he was sooo sick. Saturday my mom took the older two girls for an overnight visit, they went bowling, out for supper, they had a blast, so it was just DH, Alayna and myself, so nice! About 3:30 my brother called to say my dad was enroute to the hospital, as he was feeling faint, and his heart was racing.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> All of my dads uncles, grandpas, and dad have died from heart disease by the age of 55, and my dad is 55.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It was a very scary few hours not knowing what was going on with him. They found out he has a condition where the top of his heart beats faster than the lower half of the heart. If they cannot get it regulated, he will have to go on meds, but so far, he is feeling much better, thank God!! Then, Saturday evening, Mom calls to say Emma threw up all over.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> So, poor little punkin had the stomach flu too. I felt like <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: all weekend!<br><br>
On the plus side, I set up all my scrapbooking stuff in the family room, and scrapped all day Saturday, and alot on Sunday, while Alayna played. She is so fun right now, and plays sooo good! So, as of right now, we are all healthy.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Oh, and of course I was soooooooooo excited to watch the Daytona 500!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Any other racing fans????<br><br>
Hevyne- THANK YOU for that thread! I still think Alayna has her ear infections, and we are on round two of ABX<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
Max- I scrapbook, that relaxs me, takes my mind off any stresses I might be having. I also eat 4 pieces of Dove chocolate and have a Diet Coke everyday, I so look forward to that!<br><br>
Ok, must go, but I'll BBL to post personals...
 

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I have a CD ? I tried out a mother-ease diaper last night to see how it would do, this morning the entire diaper was soaked, is this normal? Are the diapers usually completley soaked? Or is this one not absorbant enough? Also it was pretty bulky, any suggestions for a less bulky diaper? I've got a few other different kinds coming, so hopefully they'll all work out and I can just start using them and eventually stop buying sposies then DH will just have to live with it! Becuase heaven knows he won't go shopping for sposies (or pretty much anything else) on his own!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
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This might be a stupid question -- but I have never used a Mother-ease diaper, but...Is is a diaper that needs a cover (but doesn't have one)? That's the only thing I can think of that would make it soak ALL the way through. Although, for nighttime, I do use a diaper doubler for extra absorbency.
 
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