as some of you remember i'm in the process of splitting up with dh. i have no romantic feelings for him as his language and behavior really has turned me off in the last couple of months. so there was this co-worker who i truly adore. he does not know about my marriage finishing. i'm truly attracted to him. he is smart. funny and neat. it has gotten to a point that i want to cut out the coffee and conversation and have sex with him. i propositioned him about 2 months ago. i called him up and told him i was really attracted to him and that my dh was going to central america and could him and i get together for something. i guess when you get to be my age you don't want any song and dance. are you following me so far? i wrote about this in an earlier thread titled "should i have an affair". be for i propositioned him i had been flirting with him non-stop. so anyways, he said no but i don't know why. i mean, is it because i'm married on paper or because he is not interested in me? i don't know. so today, i drop dd off at school and he is working in her classroom . all last week i wanted the courage to ask him out . we are standing alone and i say"what are you doing tonight"? "I'm meeting a friend after work". "I want to go out with you" "I can't tonight" I say "what about tomorrow night"?(can you see how desperate i am for male company?) he says "Oh i don't know." so by that time my ego is a little hurt and i say "I"m never bringing this up again" and i said good bye to dd and good bye to her other teachers on the other side of the room. i should say i work with him. not directly but at the same site. it will be uncomfortable, but manageable . to back up, he said no to sex because i lived with dd'sfather and we are still legally married. I feel like i want to know why he doesn't want to go out with me. is it because of dh or is he truly not interested? and how do i find out without digging myself a deeper hole. All i have to say is it is his loss. It was fun entertaining the idea. any advice would be appreciated. thank you guys! I just adore the hell out of him.