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I just wanted some back up here...<br>
My MIL is in town and she made this very comment to me this past weekend. Ds has been a bit off this week, fussy and kind of needy. He's 2 1/2 months, give him a break. He was NEVER fussy before and everyone comments on how mellow he is. Well, she said "you think you are holding him too much?". I said "no way, I don't believe in that idea at all. Babys who are held more cry less therefore they learn more...bla bla bla...". Sometimes I feel like a goof ball mom though. Sometimes I need free hands and I don't know how to wear him in the sling very well. I had mastitis 3 times last month and he's 16+ pounds and he really squashes my boobies! So I have to put him in his bouncy seat or his crib to check out his mobile sometimes when I have to get something done. I feel guilty some times. He really enjoys that mobile I'll tell you what! Some times I feel like he would rather be there for longer. But yes I carry him alot I guess. I don't like him to sit in his crib/bouncy seat for more than 15 minutes at a time. He doesn't sleep at night in his crib so I want him yo yhink of it as a happy place and not some place I dump him off at.<br><br>
Anyway, Dh and I believe in holding our baby! Apparently some people think it causes behavior problems. I don't get it. Oh, my best friend is of this same mentality.<br><br>
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Sounds like you are doing the right thing for you and your baby, don't worry about what other people think.
 

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you can never hold your baby too much! trust your instincts and your heart! and please don't feel guilty when you do set him down! he's got to get his exercises in too!
 

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You and your Dh are doing the best for your child. Holding him will only make him more secure. Do what you and your DH feel is best- the heck with your MIL!!!<br><br>
I know how you feel, my inlaws are the same way <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Stay strong and follow your insticts!!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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ughhhhhhh, I had this from my Mom too !<br>
Anyway Colic in some babies doesn't even show up until the 2nd mo.<br>
Good gravy, why do people think such a tiny baby should be independent ?
 

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You are doing absolutely fine! Wonderful in fact. My babe is 6 months and we hold him all the time! It's great for him, he loves it, and everybody comments on what a happy baby he is. Babies need to be held-but you already know that.<br>
And don't feel bad about putting him down sometimes either. As long as baby is happy, there's no harm I think. Mine loves to play on the floor for a while, or sit in the swing and watch me take a shower. That's good for them too, as long as they are enjoying it. Good for mamas back, too, lol. I also have a chunker and sometimes you just need a break for a minute.<br>
You sound like a great mom, don't let anyone make you question it.
 

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Maybe he is fussy because your MIL is making you tense! This is what happened to me when my ds was that age and people made comments like that to me. I'd get so stressed out and I know my ds picked up on it. He used to be inconsolable in the presence of my dad's girlfriend. Just try to laugh it off - she'll probably come around by your second or third kid!<br><br>
Even my dad's (now ex-) girlfriend recently sent me an email telling me she'd changed her mind about criticizing me for holding ds all the time. She can see from his photos that he is rapturously happy. She says now that she can see how having him close to my heart has been good for his development. (!!!) I couldn't believe it - I never even bothered trying to convince her. . .<br><br>
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