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<span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';"><span style="color:#0000FF;">I didn't quite know where to post this at, so I am trying here.<br><br>
Me and my dw was wondering exactly why can you not have sex after giving birth for 6 weeks. Does it make you more likely to get an infection ? Is it possible when it is comfortable ? Or will something just "pop" inside ? hehe<br><br>
Thanks for the info.<br><br></span></span>
 

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With both mine we were DTD by 17 days pp. Would have been sooner but I was still bleeding heavy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> The rule I follow is if i feel like doing it we go for it. For me waiting 6 weeks would have killed me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
Make sure to take things super slow. And using Ky would be a good idea. if it hurts to much stop. Be prepaired tho for discomfort like the first time you ever had sex.<br><br>
As long as things are gentle there shouldnt be a problem.
 

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Yes, infection is the concern. But many people don't wait six weeks -- that's an arbitrary figure based on the timing of the usual OB follow-up appointment, where the OB gives you the "go-ahead". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Generally speaking, if the bleeding isn't heavy *and* if it feels right to the mother, it's probably fine. We had sex one week postpartum with all mine and it was fine. My midwife told me that most of her clients start again much earlier than the six-week mark and she's never seen an infection. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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I think we waited about 2 weeks...this was after a 2nd degree tear that I did not want stitched as I wanted it to heal on its own. no pain, no infection, etc blah.<br><br>
if it hurts mom, there is a reason for that. if not, then it is fine.
 

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Under normal circumstances you absolutely can way sooner than 6 weeks if she feels ready (gently). I didn't really tear at all so I was ready after 9 days. If there is a tear you have to give it time to heal first.
 

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OMG ! ! ! Me and my DW were sitting here (it has only been one week and 2 days since) Loving all over each other w/o the sex. It is killing us. But now......you all have shed the light on our world.<br><br>
Thanks for your answers. It has helped us out soooooooo much.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> have fun <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I wanted to wait because of the epis/stitches I had down there, and b/c I didn't know what to expect. I would think it might be a bad idea if you have some stitches down there, at least until the stitches fall out and it's pretty healed up because you wouldn't want to rip it open again or something, but aside from that... I know lots of people who did it much sooner than that.
 

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My midwife said to wait until 3 days after my bleeding stopped. I think we waited 2-3 weeks.
 

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We end up waiting an average of three weeks. Then we can't wait anymore.
 

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We tried at 3 weeks when I thought things were normal and ended up waiting another couple weeks because it was apparant fairly quickly that I wasn't as healed as I thought. After DD2's birth I wasn't ready until 10 weeks pp. There really is no magic number. Healing can take time or it can be a fairly quick process.<br><br>
Mostly, it's important to just allow the woman to take the lead and listen to her cues.
 

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We did on day 11, I had stopped bleeding on day 10. BUT, looking back I was pissed, I didn't want to and DH was begging due it being over 2 weeks from the last time. He feels bad about that. I have had a hard time with desire ever since DD, she's now 4.5.
 

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One thing I've noticed about medical recommendations for postpartum sex: they never distinguish between actual coitus, which can be a health risk if done too soon PP, and other kinds of sex which don't involve penetration. Even if it's too soon to safely have intercourse, you can still have "outercourse."
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i think as long as mama has the desire, then all is well! whether it is two days or two years, it's very individual.</div>
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what does DW want? and how does it feel? any stitches or tears that haven't healed all the way? there is also some concern about no birth control-most likely not so soon but by 4 weeks a consideration for some...
 
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