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At first, when me and my husband looked into adoption, we had our hearts set on a baby. We have two girls, 13 and 9, and a boy, 4. We didn't want to go out of birth order so we thought a baby would be great for our family. Now, we're thinking more of a sibling group. We would be open to children of any ages, and a group of 2 or 3. Are sibling groups harder or easier to place and is it a longer/ harder process to go through than with just one child? Any experience stories would be greatly appreciated as well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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We aren't BTDT yet, but we are looking to adopt a sibling group as well. Our classes don't begin until August so we have a lot of waiting left to do.<br><br>
There is a mama on here that recently adopted a group of 5 I believe. I'm not sure if she is around much anymore (I imagine she is really busy!!) but maybe she will see this and share some of her experiences.
 

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Generally sibling groups are much harder to place. In our experience ( as well as having heard the same thing from some other parents) siblings groups are more difficult because the oldest child has been the caregiver and has a hard time "handing the reigns" over to a new Mom.
 

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Also adopting siblings when we can get a response to our inquiries<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">:. Right now we have a sweet baby boy as a foster placement but are really pursuing a group of 3 in another state.<br><br>
We were told that generally it's quicker to have siblings placed but that's also gping to depend on if you are finding kids in or out of state and also what sort of transition they need. We were told that if TPR is already done and the kiddos are free & clear than they will all have the same adoption hearing. However, where we are, it's not uncommon for TPR to only be completed on part of the group so they would be finaliized at different hearings/dates.<br><br>
As a previous poster stated, siblings are not always an easy route with relearning behaviors and how to be kids. It also helps if you're ok with some level of openess. If they have siblings/reletives that they are allowed to maintain contact with it will really help if you can see that through. There also could be future siblings as well that may go into to care. And, if the siblings haven't been living together than there is the adjustment of them living together as siblings but also siblings that are already in your home.<br><br>
So yeah, not a BTDT yet but I talk to everyone I can find & there is a mom in my town who has adopted siblings multiple times. Hope your journey is short and sweet!
 
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