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My husband, although very supportive about breastfeeding in general, is starting to question how much longer Anya (almost 16 months) should nurse. After learning at my first La Leche meeting (when Anya was 5 weeks old), that there is no reason to stop at a year, I decided that I would nurse Anya as long as she wanted to and it was working out for both of us. I still feel that way.<br><br>
My husband feels that at this point, Anya doesn't really need the milk for nutritional reasons since she eats solid food. I told him that breastmilk provides immunological and other benefits that cow's milk and solid food can't provide. I told him that the AAP recommends nursing till at least a year and as long as possible/wanted and that the WHO recommends nursing till 2. I have Mothering Your Nursing Toddler and said I would show him stuff on the LLL site, but he said that he wants to read medical information about breastfeeding after a year and past two, not just "propaganda from La Leche." Even info on Dr. Jack Newman's site didn't appease him- he wants to see medical studies. Can you direct me to some medical info that I can show him? Also, what are the benefits provided from nursing past two years?<br><br>
Danielle
 

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Check at <a href="http://www.Kellymom.org" target="_blank">www.Kellymom.org</a> (or is .com?). Breastfeeding.com might have links to studies. LaLecheLeague's website should have informational links too.<br><br>
What is he looking for? From whom will he trust information if not from those whose careers focus on breastfeeding, like Newman? Does he really think that the formula companies are going to do studies to prove how unnecessary for most their products are?<br><br>
I'm not sure how many studies are even being done in regards to nursing over one year, because it's so stinking rare in this country.<br><br>
You might want to reword some of your concepts though.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Drop the "until" part of the AAP recommendation. It's "At least" and for as long as mutually wished. They also released a statement in 2005 to the effect that there is no evidence of harm from nursing into the third year and beyond.<br><br>
WHO recommends nursing for AT LEAST 2 years, not until 2 years. You're stating 2 years as a maximum when they're stating it as a minimum. Big difference.
 

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Some references from <a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-refs.html" target="_blank">kellymom</a> (.com!). Not all relevant, and some might qualify as LLL propaganda, but there's some good stuff here. You might want to look some of these up if you have access to a university library, since they're not all linked here. PM me if you'd like me to check for you--I do have access to a lot of this stuff.<br><br>
Out of interest, why does he care so much? Does he think it's more nutritious to drink cow's milk? Or does he want "you" back?
 

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It sounds like something else might be at play here with your husband. If both you and your daughter are happy with the breastfeeding relationship, why does he care? Seems like the onus should be on HIM to find a reason to stop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It sounds like something else might be at play here with your husband. If both you and your daughter are happy with the breastfeeding relationship, why does he care? Seems like the onus should be on HIM to find a reason to stop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"></div>
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Well said. My thoughts exactly!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It sounds like something else might be at play here with your husband. If both you and your daughter are happy with the breastfeeding relationship, why does he care? Seems like the onus should be on HIM to find a reason to stop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"></div>
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Definitely. What you are doing is normal. If he wants you to do something <b>ab</b>normal (notice I didn't say <i>common</i>), then let HIM do the proving.
 
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