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Originally Posted by Emmeline II 
It sounds as though it was unattended; were you even planning to HB? Have you thought about trying to find a midwife that is nearby?
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It was a planned UC. We originally had a midwife, but ended up that we couldn't afford her. If we'd still had our midwife, though, she lived an hour away and would not have made it to the birth.
My husband's fear is not exactly rational, and he is aware of that. If we'd been planning a hospital birth, that wouldn't have changed anything. (Well, except we wouldn't have been as prepared.) No way we could have made it to the hospital on time. But I think that if we had a homebirth, even with a midwife and even if everything went smoothly, the baby being born at home would remind him too much of our daughter's birth and freak him out. He just doesn't want anything resembling that. I know he's not the one giving birth, but he is the father and this is just as important to him as it is to me. If I were having the fears he has, even if I knew them to be irrational, I would want him to respect that. So I'm giving him the same courtesy.
BTW, I called Jackie Griggs and she told me that she cannot do a VBA2C in the birth center, even if I have previously had a VBAC. She offered to do a homebirth, but obviously I can't do that.