[treqi]

My MIL gives alot of dfferent types of advice, everthing from being supourtive of bfing, but not extended bfing to making sure we knew hard shoes were the best to help dd learn to walk

: (i guess that was the thing in the earily 80s). So she gives pretty run of the mill bad advice with some good nuggets if you dig.

Now for my question. Yesterday we were talking and I mentioned how DD is bumping her head alot lately when shes tired and looses her balance crawling and she said you have to be careful in the first 2 years because the brain is developing and lots of bumps can cause permenant damage. Now I'm not really to worried cause I'm pretty sure this is not one of the good nuggets and if it is I'm SO clumsy and it looks like shes following in my footsteps(I've sprained my ankle waking in the mall). So should I really be worried or will she be like me doing lots of dangerous stuff(my mom found me chewing on a glade plugin at my gmas) and never being seriously hurt worse than a few stitches or a brace.

 

[angie7]

If that were true, my twins would be messed up by now

I personally think that bumps and bruises are part of growing up and never really "protected" my children. When I say protected, the rooms they play in are baby proofed but they can still walk around the coffee table, push the dining room chairs around, etc. They do fall, and they do get hurt (nothing major so far) but like I said, I think it is part of growing up, almost like a right of passage...

If you are really worried about it I have seen these special helmets made for babies who are crawling and walking so if they fall, they dont hurt themselves.

 

[treqi]

Reassure me!!!

 

[ledzepplon]

Not true. All kids bump their heads a lot--we'd have never survived as a species if we couldn't take some lumps as toddlers. In fact, we are actually MORE resilient as kids.

 

[gabysmom617]

I think she's kinda

on that one. In my experience, my monkey always get extremely clumsy when he was trying something new. He would get clumsy right before learning to crawl, right before pulling up, right before walking, and now, right before running. I think it's all normal. I mean, you can't walk behind them 24/7 with pillows.

 

[treqi]

Quote:

Originally Posted by gabysmom617 I mean, you can't walk behind them 24/7 with pillows.

I think this is what she did with her boys. She always makes me feel like I'm doing stuff wrong, not that I care about her opnion about my parenting. I'm glad I live thousands of miles away.

 

[2 in August]

It's completely normal for kids to get bumps and bruises. It won't hurt them long term if it's just the general day to day bump.

 

[MissMommyNiceNice]

Please! My DS has started smacking his sweet little face & nose on everything! In rythmic patterns, ugh! I was worried, but now see he is terribly close to crawling, and it's part of learning. (EEK! He's only 5 1/2 mos old!)

My MIL is similar. She asked us if we were getting rid of cats. LOL! Ha, no. Tried to explain that this was one of the oldest and untrue old wives tales, and cats could care less about dc. Plus, helps him not have allergies. (What if he has allergies? she asks!) But on other things she's been good, even if she is still trying to get us to circ the boy!

 

[mrskennedy]

Bumps are normal. You can protect your children, which I'm sure you do, but not over-protect them, as your MIL seems to think you should. Next time, ask her where she gets her info. If she doesn't have a reliable source, but you think it might be somethihng, research it yourself. Otherwise, just let it go in one ear and out the other--I'm great at this with DH's family! Oh, and I wacked my head on a table at 2 and got a fork stuck in my foot shortly afterward...and I'm ok. Well, depends on who you ask, but physically speaking... LOL!