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Welcome to March and welcome to the newcomers!<br><br>
I'm Katie, wife to Andrew who is an officer in the Army. We're at Fort Bragg until next year. We're originally from upstate NY. This is our last full month of deployment!
 

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we found out we should be here until June of next year, so that gives us a little more time than we thought originally. Apparently dh is staying right up until the base closes. He's also got a TDY coming up in May, for a month. He's been at home for nearly two years, so this will be a new experience for me and Robbie. BUT I think we've decided to go ahead and jump on the TTC wagon in April. Robbie was an oops pregnancy, so it's sorta exciting and different to plan this time around. Dh has already started talking about names!
 

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We're contemplating having MIL move in w/us. Does anyone know/know where I can find info on whether she would qualify for dependent benefits?
 

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I have no idea where you can get that info, but my husband's grandma was a dependent of my FIL's for years and she lived with them, so I know it can be done.<br><br>
Subbing to the new thread. We are 5 months into our deployment now. 3 months till R&R. I cannot believe it's March already!!
 

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I can't remember where you'd get that info. It can be done, though, because we looked into it for my father after my stepmom died. He refuses.<br><br>
For us, money is really tight right now since we're having to pay for 2 households. Every budget I've figured out ends up being wrong and we end up short every month. What a PITA!
 

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I'd go to JAG as well as DEERs. They can point you in the right direction. It can be done, but you have to prove that you provide for the majority of the person's needs. A GF of mine has had her mother as a dependent for the last 5 years or so. She just had to show that her mother didn't work and she provided her housing and food.
 

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Ft. Bragg here too! Sadly displaced New Englander. Probably here until 2016 or 2019, I forget which <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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At Fort Bragg, too! We should have an outdoor Fort Bragg playdate soon since we're starting to get some warm days here.<br><br>
I'm Leslie. My dh has been AD Army for over 6 years. Only one year left until he gets out. His plan is to join the Reserves after that and reclass to a different MOS. I'm a SAHM for now, but I'm looking to rejoin the workforce after dh gets off active duty. We have one 4-year old son.
 

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Hi there! It looks like I'l be joining you all soon. My DH is pursuing a military career. I'm not sure what he plans on doing, but he is looking at the Navy or Army. So, what is military life with kids like? Any info, the good and the bad, that you can give me would be appreciated!
 

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Brand new to mothering, highly experienced in the military and subbing!<br><br>
My hubby is an AF officer. We're currently "vacationing" in Newport, RI while he is at the Naval War College. Headed to Germany in June!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"> Welcome to you both!<br><br>
Military life with kids is interesting. A lot of it depends on your outlook and coping skills. In can be difficult, you often play the role of both parents a lot of the time in the physical sense. You wear many different hats. As far as children are concerned, I think they can develop a lot of resilience and independence due to the uniqueness of the experience. They can learn to adapt quickly to change, not all do, but I think many can. As my DH puts it as a former Army brat, kids in the military are either really outgoing or they don't adapt well at all. You have the opportunity to move often, so new experiences are a plus. It really can go several different ways, not all of them good, but for us through the good and the bad I think we've learned to appreciate the small things and the importance of a close bond and togetherness.
 

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I think the most important thing in the military life is to be flexible. Things can change in a moment and many times you have no choice or control so you have to accept it.<br><br>
Have you all seen the Amber Alert for the Ft Bragg area? I think that's where it was. I couldn't hear the entire message.
 

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I couldn't hear it either, it cut out in the middle. Thanks for reminding me, I'll see what I can find online.
 

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<a href="http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/7163775/" target="_blank">http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/7163775/</a><br><br>
This was my old neighborhood <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I hope the poor girl is found quickly.
 

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Well, at least for now, they don't think the girl is in danger. It's scary to think those women could get on and off the base to take the girl.
 

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Getting on is very easy, I'm sure the dad didn't have reason to suspect they'd do something like that. All they have to do is show ID and have their car inspected. Hammond Hills is pretty close to several gates off post, and it really depends on who the witnesses called and how fast it got through to the correct people. I think we live under the veil of security but in reality we have just as much crime as anybody else, if not more. I do hope they find her quickly and that she is safe <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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You don't have to have a military sponsor and get a day pass to drive on base? You do here.
 

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Nope, just have to have ID. I think there are 4 or 5 gates that you can go through as long as you have ID.
 
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