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Well this weekend is just getting worse and worse. I was 13 weeks on Thursday when I went in to see my midwife for the regular monthly visit. We tried for the first time to hear the heartbeat, which she couldn't find. She said that everything sounded healthy and that the uterus was growing so not to worry. We were obviously worried so she told us to book an ultrasound to check the dates. So ultrasound was booked for Monday. Saturday around 7:30 I went to the washroom and when I wiped I noticed vague amounts of brown on the paper. Ten minutes later I checked again..same thing. So I checked internally and a little more brown stuff was there. About an hour later I decided to have a shower, but checked again first. This time it was obvious pinkish/brown mucous, so I panicked and called my midwife. She said that seeing as I had not heard the heartbeat and that I was still early in the pregnancy that it was probably a miscarriage. She asked me how I felt and if I wanted to go to emergency now or wait til the appointment on Monday. So I went to emerg bawling the entire way. The doctor there tried for the heartbeat with the doppler again and couldn't find it, but wasn't worried. He said it wasn't uncommon to not be able to hear it yet. Then he did a pap. He said he couldn't see the cervix and there was no bleeding. When he pulled out the speculum it was covered in brown mucous. His diagnosis is that it is probably an infection (yeast possibly) and gave me a prescription (which I haven't gottenyet), but to come in on Monday as planned to check to see if the baby is still alive. Sooooo the brown stuff stopped until about ten minutes ago when I went to the washroom and wiped. There was a blob of EWCM with streaks of brown in it. Still no cramping and no actual blood. I dreamt about being pregnant all night but am resigning myself to the fact that there is no baby.<br><br>
I don't really know what I'm posting for. Maybe stories that this has happened to someone else and a normal pregnancy continued, my just a vent.<br><br>
I'm just completely depressed now and preparing for the worst.<br><br>
Thanks<br>
Jen
 

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hugs, mama. . . . .im so sorry you have to deal with this. but dont give up hope!!!! the amount of bleeding you are experiencing is NORMAL for lots and lots of women, and it is also NORMAL to not hear the heartbeat at 13 weeks. yes, it could be a miscarriage, but it is equally likely that everything is FINE. im sooooo sorry that you have to deal with this stress. im sending good, healthy baby vibes in your direction!!!
 

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What a hard thing to go through.<br><br>
I just wanted to share:<br>
everything I've heard on this subject says that cramping and spotting <i>together</i> are worrisome, but one without the other is far less so.<br><br>
It's so hard when they look for a heartbeat and can't find one. I saw both my midwife and my backup OB this week. I swear my OB poked and prodded around on my sore bladder for five minutes before I told him to just give it up. (I'm twelve weeks along) He decided my uterus was very anteverted (flopped down forward, practically under my pubic bone) and that's why he "failed." Now that I think of it, we had the same struggle early on with DD, and he said I was very retroverted that time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> (not that both couldn't be true, of course)<br>
Then, just a few days later, my midwife found it pretty quickly, up higher than OB had been looking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
When I miscarried in March, at 11 weeks: I started to worry when I noticed a very faint brownish stain on toilet paper, and over the course of a day, it gradually increased from faint brown to faint pink to less and less faint... I had a very bad feeling about that throughout that day, and by evening the cramps had set in, along with a sensation of heaviness and pressure in my belly/pelvis. I tell you this to show how I can definitely see why you are worried, but my experience was that things escalate and change with time. I've been told that that weird pressure is a big hallmark for impending m/c.<br><br>
So... it seems like there are explanations for what's going on, but the worry alone is so hard, too. I'm sorry you're going through this, on a weekend when we can feel so helpless. Take good care of yourself. Let us know how you're doing.<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
There's nothing worse than the waiting. Like the others have said, I think you're chances are equally good that all is fine as not. No cramping is a great sign. The first 16 weeks of this pregnancy were HELL for me!! AFter 3 miscarriages I had more spotting and cramping and pain this pregnancy than any other--and she's just fine in there, she's just practicing early at driving her mom nuts <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
At 12 weeks I had a major bleed and I mean gushing 4 pads in 6 hours, even that turned out to be fine, it was a separation of he amnion and chorion, but it's fine now.<br>
REST, put your feet up and be waited on this weekend. Talk to your little one and tell him you want him to stay. Monday will provide the answers and I know I will be sending you good vibes. What time is your U/S booked for??
 

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Thank you for the replies, it means a lot to me. It's 10:30pm and I haven't had any more odd coloured cervical mucous since the little blob at 1:30 this afternoon.<br><br>
My ultrasound isn't until 4:00pm tomorrow so I've still got a bit of a wait.<br><br>
Thanks again for the replies.<br><br>
Jen
 

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Please let us know after your US! I'll be thinking about you. The wait is so hard...<br><br>
I had some soptting like that in my daughters preg, but also during a preg that I miscarried, so you never know! Hoping all is well!
 

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I just wanted to post a hug! I understand what your are going through. With DD I had 1st trimester spotting, alot. I agree, as long as there is no cramping, try to relax. Take Care & let us know how everything turns out.
 

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Probably already covered but you could have a sensitive cervix. When I'm pg even a strong cough or sneeze caused me to spot.<br><br>
Don't check you cervix anymore! The more you touch it the more it can get aggitated.<br><br>
Spotting/bleeding is normal in pg. I never thoguht it was but it is more common than you think. I normally spot till around 18 weeks. Some of us are just bleeders!<br><br>
GL tomorrow!
 

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I understand the worry. I have a 2.5 year old son and have since had 3 miscarriages. The last one I was 11+ weeks when I went for the ultra sound that declared there was no fetal heart beat and that the baby had died at 9 weeks gestational age. I only spotted once, before going to energency for that ominous ultrasound. No cramps, no loss of pregnancy symptoms - the tiniest spot of bright red blood (like you pricked your finger) and it was bad news for me.<br><br>
Having said that though I am now 9 weeks pregnant and have had both spotting and heavy cramping but all tests come back ok.<br><br>
It's out of your hands sweetie, just do your best to rest and eat well and be kind to your pregnant self.<br><br>
Women that neglect themselves can still have healthy babies just like women who are health freaks can still have miscarriages.<br><br>
Miscarriages in the first trimester are usually related to the fetus being abnormal and I have heard it said that m/c's "are blessings in disguise" I don't know if it feels like a blessing at the time ... but chances are you'll have a healthy baby and that this spotting is nothing to worry about. Stay positive and think good thoughts. Sending you loads of 'baby dust' and will check back to see how your ultrasound went.
 

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Omg I hate waiting!!!! I started "spotting" again early this morning. Still no red just brown stuff. I had "cramps" I guess, last night, but they felt like the normal stretching I've been having throughout, but who knows. The worst though was the dreams. I must have had 20 miscarriage dreams last night..one right after another all night.<br><br>
In regards to the sensitive cervix suggestion.. I had thought of that as well. Early last week we had sex and during the deed, something was hit and hurt pretty bad for a minute or two. But again that was probably about 4-5 days before the spotting.<br><br>
I don't know, this is probably the most frustrating event I've gone through. Doctors don't have a clue, statistics tell me it'll go either way, and I've still got 5 hours to wait. I bought a video tape last week to tape the ultrasound with, but I don't think I'm going to bring it. Dh has been very supportive says it's okay we can just try again. Well that's nice and all but, this has been the longest 3 months of my life. Do I want to go through that again wondering if it's all pointless in the end?<br><br>
Anyways I'll stop moping now, I promise to update the minute there is some definite information.
 

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Jen,<br><br>
much hope goes out to you. keep us posted. so sorry you have to go through this. warmest thoughts and hugs.<br><br>
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Any news yet?? We're here for you either way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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After a horrible experience at the hospital where they wouldn't let my husband in for the ultrsound I finally got a call back from the midwife with the results.<br><br>
The baby stopped growing at 7 weeks, the sac is measuring 12 weeks. There is no heartbeat.<br><br>
I'm going to let it happen naturally as I'm getting cramping now.<br><br>
Thanks for the replies.<br>
Hope you all have a better Christmas than I.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm so sorry, mama. Please take care of yourself.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I am so sorry.<br><br>
Thinking of you.
 

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I am so sorry. Hugs to you. Take care of yourself.
 

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I am so sorry!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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oh momma..im so sorry for your loss.. be gentle with yourself.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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