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I've been in your shoes in a similar way. I lived across country and only visited about 3-4times a year. I am more tolerant to some things when I'm at Grandma's house tho - diet, tv etc - I figure that it IS only a few times a year, IMO its not goint to ruin what we have taught them - we just taught the kids that Gramma and Grampa do things differently than we do, and that if Gramma chooses to watch tv that is her choice in her own home - WE choose not to in OUR home.
They have learned the difference and they see a loaf of white bread and say "That's what Grampa eats, but its not as healthy". They see tv's and say Grampa loves TV but I love to play with my cars.
Its amazing how when you let go a little bit you see what you've taught your children showing up. Its hard to let go tho. I was also amazed at how my parents began to accept MY ways more and not disagree with me as much when I started to give a little at their home. Then when they come to visit me, I find they respect my rules more so at my house in return...kwim? Of course everyone is different, but I thought I'd share my experience.
Just a curous question - when she comes (if she does) to visit you in your home - do you allow her to bring her own foods into your home if she doesn't eat what you do? Do you allow her to bring a small tv and watch it in her room for example?
I hope you're able to come to a middle ground with your Mom some day! And I'm glad you have this place so you don't have to end up saying things that could be regretted later on!!
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They have learned the difference and they see a loaf of white bread and say "That's what Grampa eats, but its not as healthy". They see tv's and say Grampa loves TV but I love to play with my cars.
Its amazing how when you let go a little bit you see what you've taught your children showing up. Its hard to let go tho. I was also amazed at how my parents began to accept MY ways more and not disagree with me as much when I started to give a little at their home. Then when they come to visit me, I find they respect my rules more so at my house in return...kwim? Of course everyone is different, but I thought I'd share my experience.
Just a curous question - when she comes (if she does) to visit you in your home - do you allow her to bring her own foods into your home if she doesn't eat what you do? Do you allow her to bring a small tv and watch it in her room for example?
I hope you're able to come to a middle ground with your Mom some day! And I'm glad you have this place so you don't have to end up saying things that could be regretted later on!!