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how do you 'see' your babies, when they are rear facing??<br><br>
We have all three kids in the 3rd row, and my oldest daughter sits in a captains chair in the second row.<br>
Only problem .. even when Abby is not in the van, is actually seeing the boys.<br><br>
Are there mirrors large (wide)enough for two bucket seats together?? We tried the one we had for Rachel, which didn't work.<br>
Also ... are my eyes bad, or does it just seem like those mirrors don't magnify anything??<br><br>
Tell me what you all have done ... I'm open to suggestions from you wise women. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I didn't bother with mirrors in the minivan.<br><br>
To be honest, it was a bit of a driving distraction/danger since my Odyssey is very nimble when it comes to handling (I'm used to rougher handling cars) and so if I was squinting trying to see someone I didn't want to veer off the road.<br><br>
And I couldn't reach the kids anyway, so it's not like I could hand them a toy or whatever.<br><br>
I put the boys in the captain's chairs, their toddler sister in the back. So she was pretty much my mirror, I'd ask her who was crying and she'd tell me, ask her if anyone fell asleep, ect.
 

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We used mirrors we got at BRU, but I don't think I'd have been able to see both with one mirror. We had them in the 2nd row of the Odyssey, and each had their own mirror. I can't remember if there are 2 or 3 headrests back in the 3rd row (ours is currently folded down) - if there are only 2 I guess you could just shift the kids around and put the twins in front of the seats with headrests and your 2 y.o. in the middle?<br><br>
I do feel that while I liked having the mirrors, they were somewhat useless, particularly when they were in bucket seats. Basically all the information I could glean from glancing back was "Yep, there's a baby in that seat!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I put the babies in the middle row, and the other three kids in the back row, and they'd help entertain or keep an eye on the babies if one needed anything while we were driving.
 

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I never saw the babies when they were rear-facing. Our toddler sat in the far back and I would just ask him to tell me how they were doing.
 

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Yep, my oldest sits next to the babies so he tells me what's going on back there. He's the plug replacer for Claire. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> When they're older he can be the toy hander-outer as well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Our babies are in the middle row. The two olders in the third row. We don't have mirrors this time. They are still rearfacing and I do sometimes ask my older children who is crying/sleeping etc. I can't really reach the babies and drive anyway, so it seemed to me that seeing them wouldn't help too much.
 

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We put our twins in the second row of our van. When they were rear facing we did have mirrors that were nice & large and didn't bounce all over the place when the car was running. Those worked nicely. Now that they're forward facing (and still in the 2nd row) I just use the rearview and conversation mirror that our van came with. I can see back to the 3rd row with the convo mirror pretty well too. Not that you asked but we put the twins in the 2nd row b/c if they're in the 3rd row and need something there's no way we can help them. The older kids don't need this type of attention.
 

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Our twins are also in the 2nd row with two older siblings in the 3rd row (who are very concerned with what the babies are doing at all times, so we get up to the minute updates--"L is awake, H is asleep", etc.)
 

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I never used those mirror things either.<br><br>
I had an Odyssey and I MISS IT! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
However, it was an 05 which is the only year that has only 3 tethers, and we have four kids. (All other years either have more tethers, or you can retrofit.)<br><br>
So we have an 01 Windstar with like 2345236 tethers. But it's not as nice.
 

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I never used the mirrors because one of my cop friends explained what they could do to your baby if you are ever in an accident, (shudder) I will spare you. I put the boys in the second row, and removed the headrests from that row so My DD could see them from the 3rd row.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I never used the mirrors because one of my cop friends explained what they could do to your baby if you are ever in an accident, (shudder) I will spare you. I put the boys in the second row, and removed the headrests from that row so My DD could see them from the 3rd row.</div>
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Don't spare, share! I never understood why they are supposed to be dangerous. They're light weight, not even real glass. Seem unlikely to even come off in an accident if there is enough velcro. So what gives?<br><br>
That said... we have an 8 passenger Sienna. All 3 kids are in the middle row. My 4 year old keeps us informed of what's happening.
 

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we have a Sienna, too, and love it!!!<br><br>
Guess what I did???<br><br>
Actually drove the boys somewhere in the van .... by ourselves (just me and the boys) .... a few days ago!! Woo hoo!! Sounds like a small accomplishment, but trust me, for us, it's HUGE!!! They usually cry, and stress me out to the max, but they were pretty well behaved that day!
 

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Oh, Nice Dianna!! Congrats on the accomplishment!<br><br>
I have yet to have a good car experience w/ the babies........I am dreading the fall when school starts-- we have a 50 mile round trip to get to school.....Yup, that is 100 miles a day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I didn't use mirrors. They have different cries than each other, so I could call out the name of the crying baby and try to verbally soothe her. At that age, I couldn't really do more than that anyway. My twins are front facing now, but currently, I have them split up. One of my sons sits in one of the middle seats (and can hand things back to the other son in the back seat if necessary) with a twin in the other bucket. The other twin sits in the back with the other son. In addition to having a way to hand things back, this has been nice to reduce tensions between the boys (who seem to get more competitive in closer quarters). I may try putting the twins in the middle row together again, but I'll probably keep this going for awhile first. I try to keep the three I have to buckle in in the easiest to access places--for me, the drivers side middle and back and the passenger side middle (my older son can buckle himself).
 

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I also put the babies in the 2nd row and my DD in the 3rd row. She is very good at entertaining and letting me know who is awake or asleep. I can also tell who is crying by the sound of their cry.
 
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