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I hope noone minds me posting this as a new thread, but I really wanted to talk about this book, without hijacking the other thread!<br><br>
I'm really interested in this book, and even just emailed my SO about trying to pick it up for us on the way home from work (LOL), I'm wondering what you got out of this book, how it helped, and what you really think about it in general?<br><br>
Anyone else read this book? Did it help at all?<br><br>
Mommy StormRaven, I know on the other thread, you posted the 'basic' list of 10 emotional needs for men and women. I'm wondering if those 'needs' in that book can go either way, for the man or woman? Cause I know some of the things on the mens list are my high needs, and I know at least one of the things on the woman's list is a high need of my SO, but one of my lower needs....lol (confused yet?)<br><br>
Anyway, just wondering if they are gender specific, or more interchangable?
 

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Thanks for asking!<br><br>
First of all - yes - the needs are interchangeable and they are not always in the order listed at all.<br><br>
What I got out of it... A lot. My own shrink recommended the book to me as one of those books that "anyone in any kind of relationship can benefit from" I beleive that after reading it!<br><br>
But, to be more specific... I saw what needs I really had and what I didnt' feel I was gettign from DH. But More importantly, I saw waht I wasn't givign to my DH and was able to begin making a more concious effort to try and meet his needs.<br><br>
I know that there are more benefts to be had fromt he book once DH and I start workign on the excercises that are int eh book but he hasnt' finished the book yet and we are going to start those excercises after he has finished it with our therapist so I'm sure that will yeild even greater awareness of what each of us is and isnt' doing for each other and enable us both to be better at meeting those needs for each other.<br><br>
Make sense?
 

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Well SO and I have actually been dialogueing about this already through email (he's at work, I'm home, we generally keep up through email during the day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ), I even showed him the list that you typed out from the book, and we've been discussing those things. I really think we're gonna be getting this book... It's helped us with talking already <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well SO and I have actually been dialogueing about this already through email (he's at work, I'm home, we generally keep up through email during the day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ), I even showed him the list that you typed out from the book, and we've been discussing those things. I really think we're gonna be getting this book... It's helped us with talking already <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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I'm SO glad to hear this! I think the book really is wonderful!
 
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