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DD's sleep was never good, but at almost 1 year it seems to have gotten worse than ever. As many of you may understand, I would do anything for her to only wake up 2x per night and to get 3-4 consecutive hours of sleep. She has been waking up on an average of every 1-2 hours, for the last few weeks. The last couple of nights, she won't even let me put her down, and I've been sitting up while she sleeps in my arms. This is what I was doing almost 1 year ago when she was a newborn!!<br><br>
I wish I could stop nursing, but it's almost impossible right now. Because of my experience with a high needs nurser and feeling resentful, I wonder if we had another baby if I would skip nursing altogether. Cosleeping saved my sanity for several months, however I get severe joint pain since she needs to be latched on all night. And once she started crawling she crawled right off the bed in her sleep. We still cosleep for naps on the carpet in her room, but she flips over about 10x before she calms down and dozes off.<br><br>
I don't see any teeth coming through (she's gotten 7 teeth in 4 months), however, we've noticed lots of developmental changes in her this past month (she says lots of words, she's cruising, walking with a walker, eating so many new foods, giving hugs and kisses, saying her name).<br><br>
DH used to be able to soothe her sometimes and get her to sleep by bouncing her. SHe won't let him anymore and her screams have gotten worse. I swear if we ever do just let her cry for a few minutes or I refuse to nurse her b/c I am tired of nursing I feel like I just beat the poor baby by the way she cries and the guilt sets in. CIO never worked for us, maybe we weren't consistent, but I don't expect it to work anymore, since she just stands up in her crib now, and doesn't seem to know how to lay down on her own anyway.<br><br>
She is up at 6am every morning, regardless of what time she goes to bed. The good thing is that her naps are a bit more consistent and a little longer than they used to be (instead of 30 min, she sleeps for 45- over an hour.)<br><br>
I have to say that motherhood has been much more rewarding since she was about 7 months old and that is the only thing that erases all the torturous nights. She is a beautiful little girl, when she's happy and playful, DH and I are in heaven. When she's fussy, well you know.....<br>
She has gotten more affectionate, everyone compliments me on my mothering and she is the most vocal/verbal/communicative out of her peers.<br><br>
How do I eliminate the feelings of wanting to run away?? To be honest, I've even wished for my milk to dry up, or to end up in the hosptial for a week so that I can get a break! Is this crazy or characteristics of a high needs mother?
 

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nak<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
oh yes here i am..i just saw this thread..i am with you. i'm burnt out. so when she does cry near the end of the day i'm like whatever i NEED a break or my head's gonna explode. and i toootally know what u mean about how great it is when she's happy and when she's not...LOOK OUT!<br>
we've always had sleep problems and i thought they were getting better, turns out i had a few good days <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
anyway no advice, just hugs and support and hoping things get easier soon
 

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OMG, I'm right here... I've never had such a high need kiddo before. I can't even put Adam down... oh, crap, there he goes again.. gotta go! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I really feel for you. My ds was a high needs baby and now at three he is so incredibly happy, sensitive, smart, friendly and well adjusted. We went through a lot of what you describe until he was about 18 months old. At that point he became less clingy (though still a bit clingy) and by two he was sleeping on his own and weaned. I found that I went through phases where I could barely take it anymore and then I would be okay again in a day or two -- ebb and flow. I remember seeing someone's signature line here that said "The days are long but the years are short" and for some reason I found that so comforting and revitalizing. With another high needs babe who recently ended a severe case of colic, I have made that my mantra. ALl I can offer is to focus on the positive. Look at your dd and see what makes her different as positive attributes. My ds tells me he loves me about 20 times a day now and he is so sensitive to other people. It does get easier, I swear. Hugs!
 
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