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Why do you choose to work?

  • Not working would require a major decrease in our standard of living

    Votes: 41 35.7%
  • My career serves the public good, and I think it's important to continue

    Votes: 12 10.4%
  • I want my DC to see the benefits of work.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I didn't think I could get back into my career if I stopped entirely.

    Votes: 7 6.1%
  • I wanted to be able to provide extras for my DC, like college savings, music lessons, etc.

    Votes: 7 6.1%
  • I need a break from my DC to be the best mother I can.

    Votes: 8 7.0%
  • I enjoy my work and wanted to continue to do it.

    Votes: 22 19.1%
  • I spent a long time training for my work, and didn't want that to be wasted.

    Votes: 4 3.5%
  • Other

    Votes: 14 12.2%
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I thought I'd start a survey for those mamas out there who choose to work, to discuss their reasons.<br><br>
I've been feeling kind of bashed recently <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: and wanted some positive support.<br><br>
As for me, I suppose I *could* have stayed home if I wanted to. We could've sold our home & moved into a small apartment; sold a car; not contributed to Ds's college account or our retirement...but I just didn't think that was in anyone's best interest. Plus, I didn't think I could take time off from my career & then go back at all.<br><br>
So, anyone else want to chime in with reasons of why you chose to work, and how that's worked for you?
 

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I wanted to make the poll the kind where you could choose more than one response - could a mod change that, pretty please <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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Why don't you start over and post this as a multiple-response poll? You've got some great answers up there and many of them apply to me.
 

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Well I am trying to get into university to become a midwife. If I do, I will be in school for four years, and then working after. That is what I want to do. I have felt bashed sometimes for choosing to work, but what can you do. For the poll, all of the answers, except one and four four would fit my situation. Also, if we can afford it when I become a midwife, my dh might take time off or just work part time because he would love to stay home with our dd (and any more we may have by then.)
 

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My answer is not up there. I am the main breadwinner in the family, and the provider of benefits and retirement funds. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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A decrease in our standard of living and providing extras is why I work.<br><br>
Yes, we could sell our horses and antique car and everything that makes us happy and I could stay home but then what. We wouldn't have money to do anything like swim lessons and tumbling classes and sports when he's old enough. We are certainly not rolling in the dough (living paycheck to paycheck) but we are happy with all that we have accomplished so far and have even bigger dreams for the future.
 

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Oh - I wish this was a multi-option poll. I work for so many reasons. For $ to maintain our standard of living (sure, we could move into a tiny cabin without water, instead of our house), because I don't think I could make up the time lost in my career if I quit now, because I have a wonderful job right now that wouldn't come 'round again if I quit, because I truly enjoy working....because I *do* want dd to see me work, and to realize that she has so many options and choices. I don't feel guilty about working, except for the rare days when I hear dd had a rough day at daycare.
 

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Yeah, there are so many reasons, I want to chose more then one.<br><br>
I'm like Kristi, I'm the main breadwinner and benefits provider. My husband farms (but no benefits) and I teach during the school year while he's at home during the days with ds. It works well for us, I love being home thru the summer, but the long, snowy winters here drive me crazy. Keeping busy teaching gets me out of the house and sane. Although I'd love to work part time, if the benefits thing could be worked out...
 

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Umm..<br><br>
I DO like my work, it serves the puiblic good, I spent a long time training for it, it provides extra's and helps pay the mortgage. I had an existing business and have been lucky enough to work from home which I feel will be good for my dc too, as well as seeing the benefits of my work. Anyhow most of the above! I love working from home and being with my dd all the time and am lucky enough to have the best of both worlds. I love my work as a holistic vet and am blessed with some incredibly loyal clients who have stuck with me through all this so feel I need to be loyal to them too.
 

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Cant choose just one....<br><br>
- Im smart and good at what I do goshdarnit and Im not afriad to say it<br>
- I want my daughter to know that, too<br>
- I know that when I finally get my carrer going I will contribute to the world in a way that will make it better<br>
- I had to beg and borrow to go to college and I dont want my child to begin her adult life strapped with student loan debt<br><br>
What else....<br><br><i>I am more than the sum of my parts</i><br><br>
challenging myself intellectually on all levels makes me a better mother <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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This is me too, though I also feel it would be hard to get back into my career (research) if I stop entirely. But to me, things like health insurance are necessities. It helped that DH was willing to stay home with dd half days. We will soon become a family of two part-time parents, so will take a bit of a hit in benefits contribution for a few years (meaning I'll pay quite a bit more), but it will mean no daycare and more time with dd, and I will gladly lower my standard of living for a few years if it means being more involved with dd's life.
 

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Not working is not an option. We discovered that when DH lost his job and went back to school. My job pays for all of our medical on a really good plan as well as the retirement and other things including tuition benefits. If I were to leave, I could probably find another job doing something similar, but I don't want to work that hard to get back to where I am now. I am up for tenure in 05. That is not only a huge achievement, but a nice pay raise. With all our bills from his going back to school, we need every penny.<br><br><br>
I also spent many years in graduate school and have worked very hard to get where I am. I am actually known in my end of the profession.<br><br>
I have to admit that after being home with ds from last Tuesday until yesterday, I rather enjoyed myself. Dh was home too and we had a ton of nice family time. But I am ready to be back even though it is stressful these days.
 

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Me, too. My dh has no benefits and makes about 1/4 of what I make. But even if that weren't the case, I'd still want to work part-time. I love my job and feel I make a contribution to society.
 

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Can't choose just 1. Lots of them apply. I work not so much for our standard of living (like things, vacations, etc.) but for our financial security... saving for retirement, college, a catastrophe, etc. to ensure that my children and family are taken care of.<br><br>
I also work b/c I'm damn good at what I do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> And without giving away a lot of details, I feel like I get to have an impact on public policy issues that matter a lot to me.<br><br>
I also work because I feel I will be a good role model to my children, especially my daughter, with regard to being a good mama AND being able to have a career that doesn't kill my family life. (I stayed home for a year and still only work part time).<br><br>
Oh and for my laptop, but I swear that's a distant, distant reason. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I work for many reasons, extras, college savings, what i do helps the public good, i love what i do, It shows my kids that I can do things outside the domestic arena. I have the added support of my kids....they think what i do is very cool, and love it when my cell phone rings that special ring that i programmed for the hospital.<br><br>
They are pushing me to do flight nursing, so they can tell all their friends their mommy fly's in a helicopter <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br><br>
I also provide health benefits and a nice 401k. I contribute to my own SS account. The dental plan rocks.<br><br>
We are a team. It never occurred to me that i couldn't work and have babies.<br><br>
My kids are happy and emotionally healthy. My marriage is intact. I am self sufficient and not dependent on my husband.<br><br>
I could go on and on.<br><br>
I love what i do.
 

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If I stopped working it would mean a major decrease in standard of living. Sometimes we can't afford to pay our bills now so I wonder how we would manage if I didn't work. Dh and I pretty much split the expenses. We would have to sell our house and would defiantely not be able to afford things like organic food.<br><br>
I also really enjoy my job and the work that I do. I make the world a better place for other women. I would love to work part time and be home part time but even that would mean selling my home. And I couldn't do the job I have part time.<br><br>
I wish my job were closer to home or the hours were more flexible but it is a really good job and I get to use the skills I learned in graduate school and this is important to me--at least until I pay off my education!<br><br>
Retirement and SS (if it still exists when I retire).<br><br>
I can be a good mother and work. I prove that to myself every day!
 

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There is another interesting thread about this in Parenting Issues:<br><br><a href="http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=217781" target="_blank">SAHM vs. Working -- Impact on our daughters</a>
 

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I work for a variety of reasons. If I didn't it would be more than a decrease in our standard of living. We just bought our first house and moved out of a crappy apartment in a neighborhood that was next to a recycling plant. DD had a constant runny nose, which pretty much went away when we moved into our house. We live about 2 paychecks to 2 paychecks, drive old cars (or cars given to us by my parents).<br><br>
I also like my job, like my employer, I'm good at what I do. I have excellent benefits and can take almost as much time off as I would like (paid)<br><br>
We can save for retirement and college for our kids.<br><br>
We can afford to eat locally grown, healthy food.<br><br>
We can afford to heat our home, wear decent (although mostly second hand) clothes.<br><br>
None of this is possible with just dh's paycheck. We've tried it already.
 
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