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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>yippiehippie</strong> <a href="/community/t/1343652/moms-with-babes-chat/20#post_16898010"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><p>TGIF!! It was DH's week back at work...so happy for the weekend! The week went so much better than I thought, we've only been out once - to the chiropractor last night. Otherwise, I've been trying to lie around and not worry about doing much (and that's hard for me, I'm usually a go, go, go, stress case, lol!), enjoying my babies and help DS1 adjust. Gradually I've gotten more tired, though, so I'm excited to sleep this weekend!! </p>
<p>I wish people would understand more what we're going through now, I've heard some places treat new mamas as delicately as new babes, which makes sense to me! The emotional and physical toll that 9 months of pregnancy, followed by the whole birthing experience, then feeling the afterpains and crazy emotions of the postpartum periiod...it's amazing we can function at all, much less take care of the baby's every needs and respond to others! I got in a little fight w/DH last night, after being in such bliss for weeks

It was stupid, he isn't installing the carseat to my satisfaction and he just started getting under my skin (he was trying to be patient w/me, I just couldn't take it!). So it pissed him off finally and me of course. I feel like I just need a few more weeks of sensitivity til I get back to normal self, you know? On sunday he swore I'd call crying on Mon., but I was really in a great mood until yesterday when he set me off! Grr. Hopefully he'll be the bigger person and come home happy and we'll be good to go for the weekend!</p>
<p>What's everyone else been doing for their babymoons? We've also had no visitors besides MIL (to take DS1 out only), which has been a dream! Though FIL got mad at DH on the phone about it. He wanted to bring some girl we've never met - no way I said! Absolutely I don't want a stranger in my home, holding my new baby, and how weird for DS1 too, no thanks. I didn't even want him here the first week. Sorry, bonding w/my new family. Am I incredibly rude?? (PS, no visitors has meant no food! Good thing I have freezer meals!)</p>
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I AGREE!!!! Today DD2 will be 1 week old and what a week., My parents are here, which has been helpful because DH could not take a week off and my healing has been painful. I did have 2 of my mama friends come over yesterday. The first week of DD1's life, no one entered our home for a week and it was blissful. Nothing but freezer meals, and us bonding with our baby. This time around unfortunately, I knew DH wouldn't have the time off (he was hospitalized in January and used up all but 4 days). So he took off half a day Friday when I was in labor and Monday to be with us but I'm grateful my parents are here. They've been a huge help with DD1 when she's amicable and DD2 when I need one-on-one time with DD1. They've also cooked so I can save my freezer meals for another week (phew). Anyway, that's my unique situation. But I've enjoyed just being home with the exception of one trip to the ped for both girls. (so silly, when I KNOW they're healthy beautiful and perfect....)</p>
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<p>So yeah, I feel fragile and I want to be treated as such. I don't want to be expected to get it all done. I'm still bleeding, still cramping at times, have stitches and swelling that ache and I'm exhausted. I'm nervous for when my parents leave Tuesday morning and I start to do this on my own. I'm really really really nervous. I don't know about going out. I don't know if DD1 will act out making things difficult? She's so easy when she's easy but when she's upset I need 2 hands and then some. I think I just need to plan on staying in next week too. I mean DD2 will only be in her 2nd week of life and this will give DD1 and I a chance to figure out how to juggle our new living and family situation.</p>
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<p>Emotionally, I still have a lot of tears that long to be shed and I cry over silly things because I'm not even sure what I want to cry about but it's some culmination of pregnancy, labor, delivery, new baby, older baby growing up, gratefulness for this awesome responsibility and beautiful family. Sigh... I'm rambling. Let me just send hugs and understanding your way and wish us all a lovely weekend of family and rest.</p>
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