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okay to start with my stbx NEVER spends more than he has to ABSOLUTELY has to on Caleb. he never spends any of his money on me (this is since we got married in July) now we filed our taxes (we're getting approximately $530 back) and he wanted me to pay his phone bill for this month ($70) and his van payment ($100).<br><br>
I said I would try but it has been so long since I have been able to get the *little* things we all need that I have pretty much spent all our taxes since he said to spend it on the boys. I have to pay $100 for staying here and MY phone bill which is also $70 (we have the same carrier). I told him that I didn't think I would have enough since I have to pay my bills and I still have to buy Cayden's diapers. He told me to use disposables. I told him that I don't have the money to keep buying disposables and i still haven't managed to find a job at which point he said:<br><br>
"well don't expect me to support you too. You have NO REASON to not get a job...and I don't make enough to support both of us."<br><br>
now this really hurt and offended me as i'm nearly 26wks pregnant. I told him that and he said I should apply for ADC since i'm too lazy to get a *real* job. and then he just kept going on and on about how he wanted to use his next check and the check after fixing up the van so he could sell it so he could get a ford escort (a tiny car) and how he still needs socks and underwear and more pants and shirts etc etc. and I just feel like crying. He thinks that i should be able to support Caleb and Cayden (which doesn't bother me) and I should also give him money when he blows his paychecks on stupid stuff. which does bother me since he left me at the WORST time. and I've filled out at least half a dozen applications and always the same thing happens I ask for an application and the person (whoever it is) looks at my belly and back at my face and says "i think we've filled the position but you can apply anyways" it is so discouraging.<br><br>
I feel bad about it cuz i DID say i'd pay it but with him not giving me any money for Caleb for so long and needing new diapers for Caleb (since Cayden will use them as well) and MY OWN bills (I still owe $180 to the college) I really don't have any extra. I just wish he could understand that. I guess it's too much for him.<br><br>
sry if this makes no sense It just really bothered me. oh also i had him stop at the atm so i could get some money out for milk and he pulled up and i told him that i didn't want to offend him but i'm not giving him my PIN and he acted all mad then too. and he keeps referring to the tax money as *my taxes* just cuz he was the only one that worked (i did but got paid under the table) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
I said I would try but it has been so long since I have been able to get the *little* things we all need that I have pretty much spent all our taxes since he said to spend it on the boys. I have to pay $100 for staying here and MY phone bill which is also $70 (we have the same carrier). I told him that I didn't think I would have enough since I have to pay my bills and I still have to buy Cayden's diapers. He told me to use disposables. I told him that I don't have the money to keep buying disposables and i still haven't managed to find a job at which point he said:<br><br>
"well don't expect me to support you too. You have NO REASON to not get a job...and I don't make enough to support both of us."<br><br>
now this really hurt and offended me as i'm nearly 26wks pregnant. I told him that and he said I should apply for ADC since i'm too lazy to get a *real* job. and then he just kept going on and on about how he wanted to use his next check and the check after fixing up the van so he could sell it so he could get a ford escort (a tiny car) and how he still needs socks and underwear and more pants and shirts etc etc. and I just feel like crying. He thinks that i should be able to support Caleb and Cayden (which doesn't bother me) and I should also give him money when he blows his paychecks on stupid stuff. which does bother me since he left me at the WORST time. and I've filled out at least half a dozen applications and always the same thing happens I ask for an application and the person (whoever it is) looks at my belly and back at my face and says "i think we've filled the position but you can apply anyways" it is so discouraging.<br><br>
I feel bad about it cuz i DID say i'd pay it but with him not giving me any money for Caleb for so long and needing new diapers for Caleb (since Cayden will use them as well) and MY OWN bills (I still owe $180 to the college) I really don't have any extra. I just wish he could understand that. I guess it's too much for him.<br><br>
sry if this makes no sense It just really bothered me. oh also i had him stop at the atm so i could get some money out for milk and he pulled up and i told him that i didn't want to offend him but i'm not giving him my PIN and he acted all mad then too. and he keeps referring to the tax money as *my taxes* just cuz he was the only one that worked (i did but got paid under the table) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: