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this is the first time I'm posting in this forum, but have read a lot of what you mamas have to say.<br><br>
The situation...dd is almost 4 & she whines & yells for me if I'm not in the same room with her. This is driving me crazy. I know part of this is the age & my own low tolerance for this particular behavior, but are there any ways to deal with this?<br><br>
I go to the basement to put a load of laundry in, tell her where I'm going & then she'll yell for me the whole time I'm down there. She's coloring upstairs & I'll go downstairs to load the dishwasher, tell her where I'm going & she'll yell for me. It is like nails on a chlakboard to me. She's capable of coming to me & doesn't. I've tried to talk to her about it. I've tried to ignore it. I've yelled & said I don't like it when you do that to me.<br><br>
I went back to school full time this semester, so I know where the issue probably stems from, but there is nothing I can do about that.<br><br>
Any suggestions?
 

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My son and your daughter must share a personality <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Ok the same thing happens here so I'm no help so I'll be reading and taking notes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I hate the "ds I'm going to go to the bathroom", I get in there, the door flings open, "MMMOOOOOMMMMMMMM", "yes" "ummmmmm"........ you get the idea, why can't I even pee in peace.<br><br>
I've tried the talking the ignoring the explaining......... doesn't seem to get me anywhere.
 

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I feel for you, my 4 yo ds does it allllll the time, doesnt matter if i am even right next to him, he wants me to do EVERYTHING for him, this morning while at my sils house, he was standing next to me, I had a cup of coffee and he dropped his baloon RIGHT in front of his feet and started screaming for me to pick it up for him, I looked at him and explained to him, he droppped it, he wanted it back, he needed to pick it up, I would help him if he really thought he needed help, but... he had to ask me nicer than that, he looked at me, laughed and said, no... you do it!!! That is his answer to everything, no, you do it. I know it is his age and a stage I hope he grows out of fast, but he has been like this since he was 2, gotta love it,lol.
 

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OK, my six year old still does this AND I remember doing this to my own mother when I was a child - lol. I think this is a totally normal kid thing. But, I know it is irritating. I just keep stressing to my son that I am not going to talk to him by yelling from room to room. He needs to come into the same room that I am to talk to me. He sometimes remembers, sometimes not. It's a slow process.
 

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We have a house rule that nobody is allowed to shout for someone else from another room (unless there is an emergency.) We all have to walk to the room where the person is (find them if necessary) and talk to them in a normal voice. They forget sometimes, but if they don't get an answer from me, they figure out why because they know the rule.<br><br>
However (ahem) I am often caught breaking this rule. Its a *really* hard rule for a mom to follow. (I.e. -- walking away from food on the stove to call everyone to dinner is not acceptable. But neither is shouting for them!!!!!) But modeling is really important, even if its harder for me, and it makes a BIG difference if I remember and follow the rule too.
 

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Ds does this. He will yell "MOOOMMMMYYYY" and I yell back, "yes DS, i'm in here" and he will yell again "mooomyyy", so I know he is "just doing it"<br><br>
So, last night, I didn't reply the second time, and he kept yelling "moooommmyyy" and when he didn't hear my reply, he <b><i>came looking</i></b> for me and said "big hug".<br><br>
I don't know if that will work again though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Until 6!!! I don't know if I can hold out that long...sigh.<br><br>
I'm trying really hard not to let it get to me, but sometimes I just have had enough, iykwim. I also don't know why this one behavior just really bugs the crap out of me. I'm generally really easy going about most things & this one gets me.<br><br>
I've tried not answering & it doesn't work, nothing I've tried seems to work.<br><br>
It's a tough time here all around right now & I know it's not forever, and by far not the worst problem to have, but still one I'd like to fix!
 

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My kids just started doing this...well a couple of months ago. And while they still do it, we've cut down on it dramatically.<br><br>
With ds I just don't answer. He'll call once, maybe twice, realize that I'm not answering because he's supposed to come and get me instead of yell for me and he just gets up and comes.<br><br>
If I do this with dd she'll yell for me all day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . With her it's helpful for me to run into the room and ask her in an out of breath way "What happened? What's the matter? Do we need to call and ambulence??" and when she says "no, I was just wondering if you'll babysit my kids for me when I want to take a nap when I'm a grown up" or something else crazy like that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I say "Oooooooooh, well you were yelling, and since the rule in our family is that there is no yelling room to room unless there is an emergency I was worried something was wrong".<br><br>
I<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: also have a problem breaking this rule. It's not always out of necessity (like dinner might burn) either. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sheepish">: In my house growing up there was alot of yelling back and forth and I really hate it, but it's a hard habit to break.<br><br>
But my kids remind me and I think I might be doing better remembering, too<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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