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Super Super long. I completely understand if you just skip to the link below and watch the slideshow! I wrote this versions for a journal I am keeping for Morgan.<br><br><br><b>EARLY LABOR</b><br>
Oct. 31, 2006. I have had strong B.H. for the past week. I wake up that morning thinking these are the same thing. I showered (shaved… HMMM did I know?) and got dressed. My mom got to our house around 11:00am and we went for a long walk through the neighborhood. I wanted it to be longer, but the mosquitoes were horrible and it was really hot! I silently notice that these B.H.’s are not going away. I can’t admit I am in labor though, because it might jinx it! Not sure where that fear came into play, but I was in sure denial.<br><br>
Mom and I decide to go to Schlotzsky’s for lunch. I realize at the table that these babies are still not going away – but there is also absolutely no pattern to them. Not that I was timing them or anything. That might stop them. At about 3:00pm I call my doula and tell her tonight MIGHT (key word) be the night. She says to rest as much as possible and call her back by 6pm for an update.<br><br>
I go home, send James an email saying he needs to check his as often as possible(he was deployed to Iraq for his 3rd tour back in early Sept), and then I nap on the couch. I wake up and realize there is NO WAY I can bring a baby home to a house in this state. The kitchen floor (which I became obsessed with the last weeks of pregnancy) was muddy w/ dog prints and dog hair, the shelves were dusty (what if I walked by them w/ the newborn and he/she sneezed and inhaled the dust), and the list continues. So my mom tackles the kitchen floor while I begin to dust the entire house, top to bottom. My mom says, “I know you won’t admit it, but some people might call this nesting.” My response, “You’re right, I won’t admit it.” The contractions are still coming at this time. But I can walk, talk, and function. Getting worried they might disappear. My doula calls at about 5:30 to say she and her hubby are going to dinner. Was I ok? I said yes, we might have gotten excited about nothing… I explain what’s happening and she says – it is odd to have ‘practice labor’ #1-during the day & #2 all day long! We agree to connect again before 10pm. (Still haven’t called my midwife). I send a text to my friend Cat who is standing in as my birth partner. The text said something like, “don’t get excited, but you MIGHT want to tidy things up at work. We MIGHT have a baby in the next 24hrs or so.” No idea why I can’t admit it. I send an email to James saying the same thing, but just in case check your email every hour or so!!<br><br>
My mom has pretty much decided tonight is the night and I can see she is not going anywhere anytime soon. (Which I am thankful of – because heaven forbid I ask her to stay). Her boyfriend shows up at my house after he gets off work and I decide I want spicy food for dinner. Just in case these contractions think about leaving – we’ll put a stop to it! So, off to Pappasitos Mexican Restaurant we go. Man it was good. I even had a contraction at the table that I had to think about. Not think or breathe through, but it definitely caught my attention.<br><br>
After dinner, we come back to the house (Cat, my mom, and her bf). I take yet another dose of L6W (again just in case these puppies want to quit – maybe the cohosh will keep em coming). We all sit around the table working on a puzzle trying hard not to talk about how Morgan (boy or girl) might be here soon enough. Mike gets tired and decides he’s going home. Call if anything exciting happens. Mom, Cat, and I move into the living room and put in My Big Fat Greek Wedding. I am getting frustrated with both of them (for no reason really), and tell them that the watched pot never boils! And leave me alone! Hahaha. Well, during the movie the contractions finally begin to build and make a pattern. Cat is napping on the couch next to me – my mom is napping in the chair on my other side – and that is why they kicked in. Everyone else was pre-occupied (i.e.…sleeping). I am silently timing them and realize they are 3-4 mins apart. Wow, really?<br><br><b>TRUE LABOR BEGINS</b><br>
I move to the couch in the other room and have my first real contraction. I have to actually concentrate on it and breathe through. FINALLY. I BELIEVE IT. I send James an email finally admitting it. Morgan is on his or her way into the world! I get the contraction-tracking sheet off the computer and bring it in to Cat. Everyone is so excited that I am admitting it’s time. I am soon on my hands and knees during contractions and lying down in between. It’s now about Nov 1, 2:30am and I realize I have yet to call my midwife. Oooops. I call her and she says I still have a while since I am still able to carry on a conversation. Rest, take a bath, and call her in a few hours. Well, why’d I call her anyway then?! I do all of the above. I am so excited and scared all at the same time. I move to the bed where I have more room to roll from my side into hands/knees position and back. My mom draws a warm bath for me and I love it. Went through a few contractions in the squatting position while in there. Wow was that intense. I had prepared a checklist for them earlier and I guess during this time is when Cat was making sure we had everything and was loading the car (without my knowing). I called my midwife back and she said I still had a while. Relax longer. OK – whatever. I have a baby coming. So, I go back in the bed and mom helps me during the contractions using a rice sock on my back and lower abdomen. That is where all my contractions are felt!! Right above the pubic bone, not the tightening of the belt that everyone describes (including me to my doula clients). So, at some point Cat comes in and says she spoke w/ the midwife and doula and we are heading to the birthing center. We are all worried about traffic (its an hour drive w/none) and I honestly want to just get there and get settled.<br><br>
The car trip was not so fun. I was in the backseat trying to labor. The contractions are about 1-2 mins apart by this point (which they stay at for another 12 hrs) and pretty intense. Main thing was I just felt confined and couldn’t get comfy. We arrive at the birth center and I make a b-line for the bathroom. My body has decided to rid itself or every morsel of lunch and dinner at once! Wow. I’m sure that helped w/ dilation some. My doula Jamie was there and I was so happy to see her. The one person who wasn’t “watching the kettle and waiting for it to boil.” Oh she was—she just did it from her house so I didn’t know!<br><br><b>THE BIRTH CENTER</b><br>
Julie (student midwife who I want to catch Morgan) asks if she can check me. I said no because I was so so so so scared she is going to tell me I am at 2cm or something. Fine, but we at least have to get your antibiotics started. (for gbs+) They just did a butterfly, ran the bag, and took it out. I was never tied down by an IV line or anything. Suddenly, I hear my phone and its James’ ring! “Get it” I scream – “Its James.” Oh crap, I realize I never sent him an email saying we were heading to the birth center. He was just calling to check in. Good freakin’ timing! I told him to get the computer up asap! I need to see you my love. (we had been planning to webcam through the birth). I finally allow Julie to check me and I’m at 5-6! YIPPEE!! Not so shabby. Then she says, “Oh Shannon, I think that is a butt though.” I am immediately petrified! NO! I do not want to be transferred to a hospital for a breech delivery. Well, the actual midwife (Kat) comes in and says it is just a head w/ a very pronounced bag of waters in front. Thank freakin’ goodness. Everyone is rushing around trying to get the webcam up, the videocam set up and all I know and care about is my bath is ready!! Yes! I was scared to get in at first because it might stall labor (here we go again). I am reassured it will not and if it does just get out! Oh, the relief I felt when I got in. I had not realized just how much I wanted to be there! In the water. Warm, calm, relaxing. I labor there for quite a while. Mostly on my hands and knees, but swaying also. My moans surprise me at first, but I get over the embarrassment of them and learn they help. I have intense back pain and still have that lower abdomen ache, but am handling everything well. I got out a few times to use the bathroom and would labor a few contractions standing just outside the tub. All the time with Cat, my mom, and Jamie taking turns holding my back or the rice sock on my lower belly. I remember saying more than once “get my back!” Julie and Kat decide to put some saline solution just under the skin on my back in four spots to help w/ the pain. It hurts like hell, but does end up helping!<br><br>
Julie checks me again after a while and I am at 7-8cm! Hooray for me. Well, then I find out we are having webcam issues! What? How? What’s wrong? NOOOOO! I started to worry. I need him. How is it that his camera in the middle or the desert (Ramadi, Iraq) was working and ours in the wonderful technological USA was not? Needless to say – I stalled out. I was at 7 for hours! Laboring, Laboring, Laboring. Then I started getting a really bad pain in the front lower belly. I was told it was just the baby moving down but I didn’t think so. I try to believe them and move on. Julie convinces me to allow her to break the bags of water! They are bulging quite a bit and if the head is directly on the cervix maybe I will start moving along again. I’m getting tired! OK! About this time the webcam is finally up. I can hear and see my husband, my best friend, my James. My water is broken and the first couple contractions are really intense. I ask Jamie to help me through them. She makes great eye contact and tells me I can do it and to breathe! It helps a lot. I also can hear James telling me how wonderful I’m doing and how much he loves me. I get a hang of these contractions and we are cruising along. At one point Julie told me to put my hand in and feel the baby. The next contraction was coincidentally VERY strong. I looked her directly in the eyes and yelled “You tricked me didn’t you?” I was sure she had told me to do that only to kick everything up a gear or two. HAHA. How the brain works in labor.<br><br>
Then the pain begins again. It is in the lower front abdomen. Just above my pubic bone. I am once again told it is just the baby. I keep stating I don’t think so. It feels like a charlie-horse in my gut. Also, I can feel the baby behind the pain. It is NOT the damn baby. It keeps getting worse until finally it is unbearable. I am screaming, writhing around like a mad woman, and asking “How do I get control?” “Please help me.” They finally decided maybe its something else since I have handled my contractions so well until now. UM HELLO? I somehow (with lots of help) get out of the tub and onto the bed(in mid-transition mind you). The minute I lay down everyone realizes I have a very large, distended bladder. It has gotten so bad that when flat on my back, my bladder is inches above the belly. Whenever a contraction occurs bladder spasms, causing the ‘charlie-horse’ symptoms. So, they do a foley catheter and empty the bladder. It was too late though. It had gone on so long that even after being emptied – it would still spasm during a contraction. O-well, going to have to bear through it. At some point while on the bed they ran another bag of antibiotics also.<br><br>
I am still laboring on the bed (pulling poor Cat’s arm out of socket) when I hear James say how good I’m doing. Then he says, “Wow babe, I can see her head.” I was so far in laborland that I am very confused. The computer was right next to my head and I was certain he could only see me/my face (through the computer screen and not the camera). I simply couldn’t grasp how he was ‘down there’ when I saw him ‘up here’. Hahaha. More funnies…<br><br>
I waddle back to the tub (with a crowning baby) and am so happy to be back there! Now it is finally pushing time. I am sad though, because so many woman love when they finally get to push. I wanted to be that girl! I wanted to love it. But my bladder (if that’s really what it was) was spasming so often, that I couldn’t enjoy it. I could feel the ring of fire, the urge to push, all that. And I think I could have handled it all so much better if not for the spasms. Ugh. O-well, finally Morgans head it almost out. I am asked to stop pushing and breathe her head out. She is coming out a little crooked (the first thing we saw was an ear!). James is breathing w/me, Cat is holding my hand, and Julie is giving a little perineal support. Oh wow, its almost over. I can hold my baby soon. I breathe out her head and wait a couple contractions. I try pushing out the rest though and she doesn’t move. Finally my midwife (Kat) tells me to reach down and pull/push my baby out. I remember someone saying “It’s the biggest push of your life Shannon.” “Come on baby,” from James. OK-- I reach down and catch my baby. I bring precious Morgan to my chest and look into the camera. “We’re parents baby!” I don’t think there was a dry eye in the room. I did it! Everything I rant about, all my trust childbirth speeches paid off this day! I hear James ask, “Is it a boy or a girl babe?” I was so excited to have a baby on my chest that I had forgotten we didn’t know. I checked, looked directly into the camera, and said, “It’s a girl baby. You have your little girl.”<br><br>
Morgan Adyson 11/01/06<br>
8lbs 4oz (not one single little tear)<br>
21in<br>
9 then a 10 on apgars<br>
Unmedicated labor and delivery with daddy watching via webcam.<br><br>
Heres a link to the pics/slideshow<br><a href="http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=229ae4cfef16b0f27b28c6&skin_id=0&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url" target="_blank">Birth Show</a>
 

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I've read every birth story on the first page, and yours is the first one to actually make me cry. I love it.
 

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Tears in my eyes, mama! I'm so sad your dh couldn't be there for the birth, but I guess webcam is the next best thing! Congratulations <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 

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Thank you all so much!! It was a wonderful experience, and I think we are so lucky to have had the webcam! It was super tough w/out him physically there to touch and feed off his strength -- but the camera (and hearing his voice through the speakers) was better than nothing at all!!!<br><br>
3 daughters-- No, he hasn't met her yet!! We can see the light though. He is expected home mid-April to mid-May!! YIPPEE... That will be a slideshow all of its own! Can't wait till the day my family is truly <b>COMPLETE</b>!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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That is a wonderful story! I got the chills watching your slideshow! Awesome!! You got some GREAT birth pics!!!!! I want another one now!
 

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Wow--beautiful, mama! You are so brave and tough to be able to get through this with your honey so far away. I wish him a safe deployment and a speedy reunion for you all.
 

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i had tears in my eyes reading about when she came out and then watching the slide show... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">:<br><br>
YOU ROCK MAMA!
 

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Same here. Maybe because I'm part of a military family and know how hard it can be. That was so great he could participate via webcam. Wow!<br>
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I'm so happy your dh could at least see this. Beautiful.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">3 daughters-- No, he hasn't met her yet!! We can see the light though. He is expected home mid-April to mid-May!! YIPPEE... That will be a slideshow all of its own! Can't wait till the day my family is truly <b>COMPLETE</b>!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"> Can't wait to see that slideshow. I'm tearing up just thinking about it!
 

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I am sitting here trying to eat, and just WEEPING at your slideshow. Birthing without your husband must be the hardest thing you've ever done. I cant wait til he's home with you!
 

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So happy that the web cam worked, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/praying.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="praying">: prayers that you will be united soon.....great job, beautiful story, pics are priceless.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbsup">
 

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That is a beautiful story!! She is beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing. And the pics are great! What a wonderful thing to be able to have your hubby watching and supporting you even though he couldn't be there in person. Congrats!
 
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