[Destinye]

Hi I have an amazon gift cert and would like a good GD book for toddler age (DD is 16 mo) that is clear and easy to read for DH (who hates to read) with practical ideas. As I posted before DD is very strong willed and DH wants to use time-outs and want to find a book that he will relate to that has other options and clearly explains why time outs DONT work.

Thanks for any ideas! I have Dr Sears Discipline Book but he recommends time outs, especially for high needs/strong willed children, so thats not much help! I also have The Spirited Child and The Natural Child.

 

[sagira]

I know we're similar in the fact that we don't want to use time-outs and we're both committed to an AP, GD way of life. So I can safely tell you that I recommend "Positive Discipline: The First Three Years". However, I do not recommend the whole book for you.

The infant section is not very helpful nor useful (however, you're already beyond that). Also, skip the section on Sleeping. It's not compatible with my beliefs and I bet not with yours.

However, the best and most useful chapters for me in parenting my toddler were "The Miraculous Brain: How Children Learn"; "Autonomy vs. Doubt and Shame"; "The Value of Autonomy: 'Me Do It"; "Temperament: What Makes Your Child Unique?"; "Understanding Developmental and Age Appropiateness"; "Social Skills in the First Three Years"; "Discipline in the First Three Years"; "Building Healthy Self-Esteem Through Encouragement"; and finally "Bonding, Feelings and Language Development".

The chapters on Eating and Toileting are also good. Basically it has some good suggestions for toddlers and has helped me tremendously.

Best,

 

[nonconformnmom]

I don't know if this book strictly adheres to GD, but I really love "Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline : The 7 Basic Skills for Turning Conflict into Cooperation" by Becky Bailey. She suggests a disciplinary framework called loving guidance. Her insights help parents learn powers of self-control, which include acceptance and intention. Next, parents exercise basic discipline skills, such as empathy and maintaining composure. The goal is to teach kids values for living, including respect, compassion, and responsibility.

I have been trying to apply its principles with my 2.5 year old and am finding it quite effective.

 

[maya44]

Every DH I know liked "The Secret of Parenting" by Anthony Wolf.

Short easy funny with lots of practical advice. Plus a "get tough" approach with NO PUNISHMENT appeals to many DH who reject AP. But even most AP mama's can live with their DH disciplining this way.

 

[Destinye]

Thanks for all the great suggestions and I ordered Positive Discipline: The First Three Years from Amazon and ordered Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline from the library. I will look at The Secret of Parenting too it sounds good for DH. Just have to convince him now that GD is HIS idea lol!