Mothering Forum banner

1 - 8 of 8 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,890 Posts
Discussion Starter #1
<span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';">I am sooo excited today I attended a baby shower and met the perfect mother's helper for our family. I am EXTREMELY picky and so is my 5 month old daughter... and I have been searching for some help.<br><br>
My dd is teething and there were more people at this shower then she has ever been around so the odds were really against us when this young woman asked is she could hold her. Since she was at my same table I said okay and sat there while she showed my dd so much attention and love. She stood up when my dd wanted to see, she held the teething toy in my dd's mouth, she took out anti-baterial hand soap and cleaned her hands and rinsed them with water right at the table when my dd wanted to suck on her fingers... I was so amazed and have never seen my dd so happy and content for such a long period of time with anyone other than Grammy or me... really not even Dad.<br><br><span style="font-size:medium;"><b>SO I HAVE FOUND THE PERFECT MOTHER'S HELPER!</b></span> This young woman is a freshmen in college, has a liscense but no car, has volunteered in the maternity dept. at the local hospital, has a mother that is a second grade teacher, she will mostly entertian my dd while I am nearby but will also watch her w/o me when I go to yoga and for the occasional date night.... <b><span style="font-size:medium;">WHAT SHOULD I OFFER TO PAY HER???? Any thoughts?</span></b></span>
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
8,322 Posts
Did you ask what she charges??
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,890 Posts
Discussion Starter #3
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Amys1st</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/7996844"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Did you ask what she charges??</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
I did and she said she would accept whatever I offer.... I just want to offer her a fair amount. After giving it some thought today I am thinking $10 - $15 an hour.... is that too high, too low?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,553 Posts
I think that is a good range.<br><br>
I have no idea what mother's helpers make, but I have TONS of experience with nannies. I can tell you that according to the International Nanny Association's Salary Survey for 2006, the national average wage for nanny is about $500/week based on 45 hours a week. That is about $11.00/hour.<br><br>
For a nanny.<br><br>
I think a young woman about 18-19 years old would be fine with $11-12.00/hour. One thing I'd like to suggest as a nanny-employer myself - don't give her the top of your range - don't start off giving her $15.00/hour. You want to have some room to give her a raise after 6-12 months, and give her little "perks" and bonuses from time to time. That will go a long way in building you up as a good employer in her mind. And, frankly, you don't want to spoil her. Believe me. It's better to hold back a little at the beginning and make sure things are going to go well.<br><br>
You can even say to her, "I'd like to start off at $11.00/hour for the first month while we have a "trial period". Then, at the end of that, if all is going well, I'll raise it to $12.00/hour." Then, be on your guard and really pay attention to how she is doing for you. If at the end of the month you feel good about how things are going, give her the raise.<br><br>
Also, these young women need that reassurance from time to time that they are doing a good job and that you are happy with them. Be sure to say thank you every day IF she did a great job. Give her a card every 1-2 weeks with a nice note about how happy you are. Remember her birthday. Surprise her occasionally with flowers, a gift card, some notepaper, etc.<br><br>
BUT - above all - make sure she is going to work out before you put your heart and soul into her. Don't fall in love with her yet! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Think of this as dating - you need to give her a good 3-4 months to see if she is going to be consistent and the person you think she is.<br><br>
Be careful with your heart! I've seen nanny-employers and employers of mother's helpers time and time again get too emotionally involved with their caregivers.<br><br>
I've had 6 nannies now, I know of where I speak!<br><br>
Best of luck and my goodness, I've been rambling! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,890 Posts
Discussion Starter #5
Wow thanks so much that input is GREAT!!!<br><br>
I offered her $10 an hour today and we will have an informal trial period between now and August since it is her summer break and she will be away most of the summer. If all goes well in the Fall I will have her 10 hours a week.<br><br>
Great ideas about her birthday, flowers, etc.<br><br>
I was thinking if she works out I would offer an annual raise of $1 or $2, a Christmas bonus and two weeks paid vacation (she can choose to use these as paid sick days instead).<br><br>
What are your thoughts on that?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
392 Posts
Morning!<br><br>
It's DH's birthday today. DD and I gave him his gifts this morning and he's about to leave for work. He is hopefully getting out early tonight too.<br><br>
Today is a cleaning day and I'm not sure what else.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,553 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>LoveOhm</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8010435"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">Wow thanks so much that input is GREAT!!!<br><br>
I offered her $10 an hour today and we will have an informal trial period between now and August since it is her summer break and she will be away most of the summer. If all goes well in the Fall I will have her 10 hours a week.<br><br>
Great ideas about her birthday, flowers, etc.<br><br>
I was thinking if she works out I would offer an annual raise of $1 or $2, a Christmas bonus and two weeks paid vacation (she can choose to use these as paid sick days instead).<br><br>
What are your thoughts on that?</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
First, a big question - are you going to be paying payroll taxes? You need to think about this now - you don't want to end up with the DOL on you.<br><br>
You ought to pay them, and if you do, you need to set aside money for them. That may mean that the raise is going to be $1.00 and the other $1.00 is going to go help pay the taxes.<br><br>
If you need direction on how to do this - go here - <a href="http://www.4nannytaxes.com/" target="_blank">http://www.4nannytaxes.com/</a><br><br>
I know you are calling this girl a "Mother's Helper", but you are getting into a employer/employee relationship if you really move forward with this. Reading this site on nanny taxes will just give you info and ideas about what to do.<br><br>
I also suggest that you create an agreement with her - a written agreement - detailing everything. You are talking about bonuses and paid time off, and that all needs to be spelled out. Again, you are not treating her like a 14 year old mother's helper - you are treating her more than that - and you need to ramp up a bit if you are going to do those types of things.<br><br>
You need to spell out your expectations from her.<br><br>
I'm going to give you a link to two very detailed nanny agreements - they are probably overkill for a mother's helper, but you can cut and paste them and re-work them to meet your needs.<br><br><a href="http://www.nannynetwork.com/Naniboard/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?/topic/2/2077.html" target="_blank">http://www.nannynetwork.com/Naniboar...ic/2/2077.html</a>
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,890 Posts
Discussion Starter #8
<span style="font-family:'Comic Sans MS';">We don't plan to file taxes for her... since she is in college it would have to be reported to her financial aid.<br><br>
I agree that it is important to file taxes and have things in writing but this is a pretty informal situation. She is a family friend's daughter and since I need some assistance it just seems to work out. She will be making under $5000 a year but I will have my SO check with our accountant to see how we can cover our behind w/o affecting her financial aid. (Maybe a scholarship in exchange for her help...?)<br><br>
We are allowing her to come *any* 10 hours a week that works for both her & I as long as we communitcate. She is really only free in the evening and on weekends, and she will be gone for Winter, Spring & Summer breaks so I won't have her at all then. I am only offering the vacation so she can have some sick days or extra money for the holidays...<br><br>
Even though I plan to be home 90% of the time I think having a guide in writing is smart so I purchased this babysitter's journal <a href="http://www.egiggle.com/category_product.aspx?id=19314" target="_blank">http://www.egiggle.com/category_product.aspx?id=19314</a> for handy reference.</span>
 
1 - 8 of 8 Posts
Top