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I'm starting this because I know you all are out there, just not posting. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I feel like such a thread killer since I was the last to post on the MOC #2. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
What's going on with everyone? Kylix, Jeca, Chanibel, Yinsum (sp?)....? And what happened to Chaka and Dee? I miss reading your posts.
 

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Hi Mom2AliKat,<br>
You know every time I see your name I keep wanting to call you Alley cat. I finally have internet service and have officially settled into Arkansas(blech!). So I can post regular now. How's the preggo and the baby?<br><br>
Not much to post on. My babies are turning 2 and 6 this week and trying to give them a littleparty. Something that a boy and girl can enjoy(bdays are only 6 days and I want to give them one together this last time). Any ideas, anyone?
 

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I'm here...I wondered what happened to the last one.<br><br>
I'm not around as much anymore as I am mega busy. But it all comes in spurts so it should pass in time.<br><br>
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Hi everyone! Ive been getting ready to return back to school. Im looking forward to it and at the same time Im going to miss school when Im done. One step at a time though. Finally Ill have my degree! Plus it will be nice making a bit more money <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I cant believe its been two years since 9/11. My aunt lost a dear friend at the WTC and a friend of mine lost one on one of the planes. Makes you realize just how small and connected we are to one another.
 

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<whew> It's good to know you guys are still here. I was beginning to think I was alone! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Jeca, feel free to call me Alley Cat! :LOL I know it's probably not "right", but I've called my daughter that on a few occasions -- it's just a shortened form of her first and middle names, Alicia Kateri. Also, happy birthday to your kiddos and congrats on the move! Everything going smoothly now in your new place? BTW, if you don't mind me asking, where did you move from?<br><br>
Kylix....are you busy with something good? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Chanibell, that's so cool that you are finishing school. Best of luck and wishing you an easy semester. I didn't finish college and it's one of my few regrets.
 

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Hey gals,<br><br>
AliKat--No, I'm just busy with work. Neither good or bad...heh heh...<br><br>
I hate that this board isn't as active as it once was.<br><br>
Whatever happened to Chaka???<br><br>
Kylix
 

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Hi ladies,<br>
I went to the first day of my orientation and decided that I didnt want to work doing hospital records for a living. I was just doing it for the money and didnt feel like it was a good idea. Esp when I had taken out such a big loan. So Im just going to do some temp work. Ive always wanted to work for myself. Im thinking about a pet sitting business. Any words of wisdom?
 

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*oops double post! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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No words of wisdom just lots of encouragment!<br><br>
Good for you for turning away a job that you know you wouldn't be happy in! Starting a business sounds so empowering! I've pondered what kind of business I could start. Unfortunately, I don't do anything in particular very well so...<br><br>
Heh heh! But a pet sitting business sounds great! I consider myself an animal activist, and many ppl leave their pets alone for days at a time rather than getting a sitter. Good for you for starting a business to help solve that problem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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Hey Chanibell good for you !<br>
So many people are stuck in jobs they really don't like to do it's good you figured it out ahead of time. By all means start a pet sitting business, sounds like an adventure! And if it's something your passionate about you never have to dread going to work.<br><br>
I've been kinda blue since my sisters stupid dog(sorry chanibell) ate my righteous baby WIO diapers but I must move on!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br><br>
Alley cat have things gotten any better for you?
 

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Just Curious want some feedback.<br>
dd has turned one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"> which is great. Then it hit me she really doesn't have a playgroup. I had her brothers in weekly playgroups. It was alot of fun. But that was at least 6 years ago. So I have started to look for a new group of moms and babes. Here's my issue. I have found Mocha Moms that is as the name implies. I love it. For years I loved the other playgroups, although I hated being the only MOC. Which in turn meant my boys were the only children of color. Pardon the expression, but I'm tired of being the fly in the buttermilk.<br>
Parts of me feel like I am going from one extreme to the other. I'm not really sure what I am asking. I pretty much know my decision. I want my children exposed to many different people. Yet I want them to see themselves as part of the equation, not an exception or oddity. I am intersted in whether anyone else has felt this dilema.
 

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Congradulations on finding a mochamoms group in your area. I think it's wonderful for your daughter to go to a playgroup and see others just like her. Especially if you live in a mostly white area.<br>
I'm also a little jealous. There wasn't a MM group where I just moved from and there isn't one in this area I just moved to. I went online just a few days ago cause I was thinking of starting one in this area and wanted to see if there was enough of an interest but they are not taking new chapters right now and their chats and message room is down.<br>
I say good for you Yinsum and I know exactly how you feel.
 

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I was looking for yall! I saw something a while back! I am one! I'm black. Although if you met me and the folks around me beg to differ! :LOL I guess in the nature v. nurture, the nurture won, as I grew up in the white community. I also was treated terribly in school, so I really didn't go *running* to those in my culture!I feel like we are probably in the minority, (what else is new), here! But, that doesn't bother me, like it may bother some. It seems that in my experience the Apers are white. So, when I break out my AP ways, its gonna be interesting! :LOL I guess I should intro. I'm 29. I found Mothering when I was ttc #1 in WF, (omg, not ttc in WF, :LOL, as i re-read), when I went back to natural and organic food. We got <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/belly.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="belly"> in January and because I've missed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/af.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="aunt flo"> before, I waited until the next mo. Then a week later we realized our sweet baby, whom I believe; but, was not medically confirmed was a boy, Jordan, was gone. After some hard months, we are stepping back into the ttc waters. I am hopeful and a bit nervous. OH! I've been married since '98. I used to teach public school music, and I got depressed and left after four years, and felt the Lord calling me to music ministry. I am the worship leader and I head up the music ministry, at my mostly black, church, which has been interesting, since my musical style and background isn't gospel. They think I'm a freak, I'm sure! Can I ask yall with my texture hair a question? What are yall doing with your hair? I stopped perming; and pressed and then did braids this summer for surgery and *loved the freedom, and kept them until 2 weeks ago. I went back to pressing. My hair got *so big Sunday! And by Sunday night I had a fro! (fine for some; but, not my personality! it was *bad) I told my beautician, and she suggested a no (with actually less) lye and do it twice a year, and press the rest. Dreds or what are the short ones twists? are not my personality. Anyway, I'm not *thrilled about perming; but, its *less lye...and not a many times) What about yall?<br><br>
TIA! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Welcome Wannabmommie!<br><br>
You trying to make me cry with that introduction, I'm sensitive you know. I know it may be hard but try not to stress about TTC, just have fun trying.<br>
You've missed about 30 other pages discussing hair, introductions, etc. I wear my hair naturally curly as do a few other mamas on this thread. No chemicals(LYE yuck!). If you want you can do a search to catch up this particular thread has been slow but I have something interesting to discuss.....<br><br>
I was taking my mother somewhere last night and we stopped at this grocery store in a wel,l poorer kind of run down part of town. Mostly blacks and hispanics live there. You know how all stores have those little vending machines that kids put a quarter in and get some kind of prize. My son is obsessed with these machines and their cheap prizes BTW. So my mother goes over to one to pick him out a "prize" (DS not with us BTW). I walk over and just stare! The prizes in these particular machines are cheap little silver looking necklaces with charms attached to them. The charms are guns! pistols, machine guns, in all lenghts and sizes one of them even had a pistol with two grenades attached to them!<br>
Necklaces with guns attached to them targeted at children!WTF! What kids like these machines, ages 4-like8 or something like that right? So I go into my little tirade on how inapriorate that is and how stupid these people are for putting it here(I'm guessing the manager okay'd it to be there, right?)My mother rushes me out of the store. I continue all the way to the house about it.<br>
Well later my son comes around the corned with what around his neck? you guys it my ignorent ass mama actually got im one of those things! She says he's just a child and doesn't know thw way I'm looking at it. I asked her why she didn't show it to me at the store. "well you were already bitching about it". Okay my father, and I are telling her the problems we have with it but its' not a big deal to her. Trash is where it's at now.<br><br>
Here's my problems. Besides just being wrong to target to children period. The grocery store that we normally go to does not have such a machine. I can think of three stores taht we have been to that does not carry that kind of crap in their vending machines. But this one and another one I stopped at(just to see if it did and prove my point) does. These 2 stores in the poorer, blakcer parts of towns have this crap but the better neighborhood stores(white) don't. Can anyone explain this to me?
 

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Welcome wannabmommie. I'm a natural locken mama. Can't imagine going back.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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These 2 stores in the poorer, blakcer parts of towns have this crap but the better neighborhood stores(white) don't. Can anyone explain this to me? [/B]</td>
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In a word <span style="color:#FF0000;">SYSTEMATIC</span><br>
Have you ever wandered through those stores. Look at what's offered. My husband went into one to help a senior from our church. Would you believe there is a section for -previously refrozen foods? Sounds like a health violation to me. The grocers many times care about the green not the people.<br>
People would call me paranoid, but I believe there are $ign$ in the eyes of many companies: poverty pays. There are many systems that rely on the longevity of the impoverished conditions of people. Let me name a few- jails ( phone companies because somebody is making collect calls from behind bars), public welfare administrators ( I don't mean those working in the local offices. I'm talking about decision makers), local markets that spike up cost cause people have no options (not mom & pops that really are there to serve the community)<br>
Getting kids used to the "normality" of guns at a young age is no accident. The other problem is many times the parents are in such a state of being that the haven't the time or wearwithal to fight such marketing. They are trying to keep above water. In other neighborhoods, these companies know such toys are insulting and unacceptible. They would'nt even try it.<br>
So Jeca thank you for stepping out of your comfort zone to make a point about how unjust it is. That what we all need to do. WE need to speak for those that may not believe they have a voice, move out of our comfort zone and hear their concerns. We need to be willing to act up because those aren't other people's children, they are our children as well. We don't have to know the children's names to love them as our own.
 

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I got an email notify. I'm fine, mama. Just reading fertility advisor about my chart, early this Saturday am and checking email since I'm up......<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">; Well, I *could start on that bread I've been trying to make for weeks. This thread hasn't been active. Maybe the mamas have subbed and they will get a notify someone replied. I don't see u on the thread, unless u were in previous ones; but, just in case, I'll say <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome">.
 

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Hello! Yes, I have been in previous ones. Just get so busy and have no time for the computer lol! I guess with the holidays approaching, everyone will be super busy again. Hope all is well with everyone!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">
 

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Welcome wannabmommie!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Wow Jeca and Yinsum. Those were some powerful posts. I really do feel like it's the little things like those that truly make a difference.<br><br>
Hope everyone is doing well!!<br><br>
Kylix
 

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Hi Kylix<br>
Survived the family obligatory turkey day. But thats another story. I am thankful for dh and kids though
 
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