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<p>I’m so frustrated!</p>
<p>I moved mid-pregnancy, at about 30 weeks, and have been rotating through the dr’s at the new practice so I can at least meet them all before I deliver. (They won't let CNMs deliver VBACs here). I met the last of them today. They did an u/s last week to estimate size, because my babies are big, and during the u/s the tech noted that there were two EDDs listed on my chart, 1/1/11, which is the date I’ve been going with, based on my LMP, and 12/22. The tech told me she’d go with 1/1, since that was what I thought, but that the dr would have to sign off on one of the dates.</p>
<p>I asked the dr about the dates today, and he said it was listed as 12/22, based on my August u/s (at 20 weeks). I don’t want to be antagonistic (before it becomes necessary) but I went back and forth with him a few times, because like I said, I have big babies. So isn’t it more likely that my dates are right, and the u/s showed I was 8 days further along than I was because my babies are big.</p>
<p>His method of reassuring me was that since I’m trying to VBAC again, they wouldn’t schedule a c/s until at least 41 weeks, and that puts me up close to the 1/1 date. And that when in doubt, they want to make sure they’re not letting me go past 42 weeks.</p>
<p>First of all, which is more likely? That even though I was charting when this baby was conceived AND he’s big like the others AND I had regular cycles, my dates are wrong? Or that this baby was secretly gestating a week before I thought he was? Second of all, if he’s as late as my last baby, I want to be induced, not go in for a scheduled c/s and have no trial of labor at all. This is the first mention I’ve heard about scheduling a c/s for a late baby because of my VBAC status.</p>
<p>Grr! The only good news is that I’ve now met with all the drs, and one of them stood out as being much more laid back, willing to wait until 42 weeks instead of 41 weeks, and said that given my previous VBAC of a big baby, size shouldn’t be an issue this time either. I’m seeing her for my next two appts, so I plan to ask her to validate the 1/1 EDD, and to talk to her about induction should I go past 41 weeks.</p>
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<p>My first was a scheduled c/s due to size (because after two hours of crying in the dr's office and having him tell us scary stories, we gave in), and my 2nd was a 10 lb 10 oz baby born vaginally after being induced at 42w2.</p>
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<p>If they don't change my due date back to 1/1, what are my options? I've already told my mom and my husband that I won't show up for a scheduled c/s, and they back me up. I'll have peace about a true emergency, but scheduling c/s because dr's are twitchy about my big babies is how I wound up having to fight so hard for vaginal deliveries in the first place.</p>
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<p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#006400;">Do you have your charts available I would print them out and bring them along to your next appointment. Show them how you arrived at your EDD and your experience with longer gestating babies.</span></p>
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<p style="text-align:center;"><span style="color:#006400;">I would ask for the rotation schedule for who is catching babies on what days from now thru next year. This way you can make decisions based on that knowledge. My thinking is that you have found some OBs willing to VBAC you and others who are scared of you, your babies and their liability. When labor starts I would think about whose up that day and base any hospital appearences on that. I also would talk to the midwives about who in their experience is going to be your best VBAC OB it may not be who you think. Also talk to the midwives about the OB nurses who will help, who will hinder, who will harm.  I would seriously consider hiring a doula/midiwfe to help you in labor should there be a distructive OB on call that day.</span></p>
 
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<p>Thanks for the advice! I do have my charts, I can definitely bring them in to my next appt. I hadn't thought about talking with the midwives there about their thoughts on the dr's, and on the OB rotation for the next month. Thank you so much for the advice, I think it helps to have someone with a clearer head offer suggestions.</p>
 

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<p>If they don't change my due date back to 1/1, what are my options? I've already told my mom and my husband that I won't show up for a scheduled c/s, and they back me up. I'll have peace about a true emergency, but scheduling c/s because dr's are twitchy about my big babies is how I wound up having to fight so hard for vaginal deliveries in the first place.</p>
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They should be placing your due date based on your LMP. 12/22 and 1/1 are a week and a half apart! That is a long time IMO. </p>
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<p>If it was me ;) I wouldn't schedule the cesarean until 1/15 or later. You control the scheduling they don't. Where I deliver wanted me to pre-schedule my cesarean (I am trying for a VBAC) at 42 weeks which would be 1/15. I didn't feel comfortable doing this at 33 weeks pregnant so I just didn't answer the phone. They haven't asked me about it. </p>
 

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<p>I agree with the other ladies. You know when you conceived based upon your charting. You grow big babies. You also gestate longer.</p>
<p>Do NOT schedule anything!</p>
 

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<p>I agree. YOU call the shots. I wouldn't let them do any more "sizing" ultrasounds, either. U/s in late preg is not a very reliable indicator of actual size and you've already proven that you can deliver "big" babies vaginally, anyway.. I'm sorry they are making your life difficult, mama. </p>
 

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<p>Update: I saw the OB I'm most comfortable with today. I'm scheduling the rest of my appts with her. I explained the EDD discrepancy, she actually took the time to look through my records (last week's doc said, "there are over 50 pages of records in here!" and went with the early date. Really? Who's paying whom here?) She said that my earliest u/s predicted 12/27, which is consistent with my 1/1. My 21 week u/s dated me at 12/22, but that's much less accurate. So she changed my chart to reflect the 1/1 EDD and sent my paperwork up to the hospital. No fuss.</p>
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<p>It's amazing to me how, even though I'm trying to be relaxed & patient, to trust my body & my baby, getting this date changed on my paperwork is a HUGE relief to me. I'm really glad it went smoothly, and I also think it gave me a little more trust in this OB, which I also think is helpful to the whole process. Thanks for the input, everyone! Hoping for a spontaneous labor & smooth delivery whenever my baby's ready!</p>
 

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<p>I'm thankful you saw a more reasonable OB to make that call.  I hope that ignorant OB doesn't attend you in labor!!</p>
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<p>As for your initial comment induction, it isn't recommended to induce VBACs. At least not the way hospitals do (cervidil and pit). That greatly increases the stress on the uterus and ups the rupture risk.  If you are up against a rcs, there are several things you can do and ways to more safely start a VBAC induction (foley catheter possibly, if not already dilated to 4, then breaking water, there are threads on here). And, you don't have to show up for your scheduled c/s. :).</p>
 

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<p>Glad to see that this other OB is being more reasonable. One other thing to remind them of is that the further you go the healthier the baby will be. A almost 2 week outside of the womb time frame is equivilent to almost a month in the womb. Fact</p>
 

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<p>Yep , I agree . After all , it´s your body and I really LOOOVE , when a doctor says , we won´t allow you to go past ...date ! What are they gonna due , tie you up and drag you into the OR ?</p>
<p>If you feel comfortable waiting , then do it , don´t let them tell you any scary stories and don´t let them pressure you into induction (that´s how I ended up with 2 unnecessary c/S) .</p>
<p>I really believe , that some babies just take longer , before they are ready to come out ! And it´s you , who calls the shots , no one else !<span><img alt="thumbsup.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/thumbsup.gif"></span></p>
 

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<p>YAY! Glad they went with the older US. They are much more accurate for dating :) Good VBAC'ing mama!</p>
 
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