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Would you let your 4.5 year old watch The Incredibles and Monsters Inc.?<br>
Not just those movies but movies with some scary/intense action parts?<br><br>
We got the Incredibles book out of the library and ds reads it over and over and over. He loves it. It only gives the basics from the movie. Dh and I love the movie but I wonder if it isn't a bit mature for him. He has seen Finding Nemo and Robots and liked those.<br><br>
We are sort of on the fence as to introducing movies like this. So far he still seems content with the gentler stuff like Thomas and There Goes a Bulldozer.<br>
But he has been asking at the library for some of the "older kids" movies and I never know what to say.<br><br>
How do you deal with this with your kids?
 

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Go with your gut. He has his whole life to take in that kind of stuff, what's the rush?
 

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DD has been watching Monsters, Inc. since she was 2. Of course, her favorite movie when she was 2 was also Pirates of the Caribbean, so she wasn't your typical 2 year old. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> She's just over 5 now and has been watching the Incredibles for the last couple of days. She also still enjoys Little Bear, Maggie & the Ferocious Beast and the Upside Down Show. IME watching more "mature" movies doesn't decrease interest in gentler shows. Depends on the child, though. I wouldn't recommend PotC for everyone's 2 year old.
 

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I've never seen The Incredibles, but I like Monsters Inc. I am not sure when it first came out on video, but my now 7 yr old saw it when it did and liked it.
 

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DD (4) went with us to see Children of Men a few weeks ago, loves Pirates of the Carribean, the Harry Potter movies, and her current non-kid favorite is But I'm a Cheerleader. . . I wouldn't even think of censoring kids' movies.
 

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My DS is 3 and loves both of those movies. Of course, his favorite movie is Star Wars and the Harry Potter movies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
He's weird when it comes to cartoony type movies. they scare him way more than noncartoony ones do. Example: he refuses to watch most of the Disney movies because they are "too scary and have bad guys" but he will watch the whole Harry potter movie and not even blink.
 

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We do edit those movies for dd. She is 5. She just really doesn't like the intense parts. I feel better having her wait rather than risking her having a bad experience due to a movie scene.<br><br>
Goodness, I still can't watch E.T. because I saw it when I was young and it scared the crap out of me. Obviously, different people are wired differently.
 

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I think Monsters, Inc would be alright but I would hold off on the Incredibles. I just watched that with ds (5.5) and thought it would have better at an older age although he didn't find it upsetting. You really just have to trust your judgement and observe your kid's reactions since kids are so different and sensitive to different things.<br><br>
My ds really liked Jimmy Neutron, though it introduced a little new language ('kick your butt", I think was the phrase).<br><br>
For a while, ds thought he had seen movies when he had actually just seen previews. Dh would find trailers on the internet and show those to ds after previewing them.<br><br>
Ds loves Pokemon which isn't actually as bad as I thought. It doesn't really promote fighting, which had been my impression. The Pokemon creatures battle each other but it is more like karate to improve one's skill and earn a black belt. The word ds picked up from this show (there is always something) was "loser".
 

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Thanks everyone.<br>
He is a bit sensitive, and tends to get overstimulated by lots of action and loudness. When a character on a show cries or is very angry or shows strong emotions, ds cringes or acts uncomfortable. He saw some of The Lion King at a friend's house and made them turn it off because it was scary. Yet he he loves Spongebob, which I think is weird, since he has low tolerance to loudness, and I find Spongebob to be pretty obnoxious in that respect!<br>
There's no way I think he's ready for Pirates of the Carribean or Star Wars, those were a bit much for me at times, in a sensory way.<br><br>
The Incredibles seemed a bit intense but I may just try it out and stop it if he gets freaked.
 

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I find this is a hard one!<br>
So often movies that are rated 'G' but have really scary parts for young children!<br>
ie. Bambi (when the hunter comes isn't Bambi's mother killed?) and Sleeping Beauty (think of the evil witch in the flames)<br><br>
Dh usually gets movies from the local library and if we've haven't seen it, it can be very hard to tell how appropriate or inappropriate it is for dd to watch.<br>
We watch the trailers and I read the warnings on the case first.<br><br>
If something is really scary, I've found it was best for Hope if she saw it through to the end, with lots of hugs and comfort, to see it resolved, so she wouldn't have nightmares about it. Without having the scary parts resolved she has had lots of nightmares.<br><br>
We also talk back to movies. Things like 'Is that real?', I think it helps her to get a sense of reality vs fantasy.<br><br>
She has watched The Incredibles. She found it scary too. *I* found it scary!!! I saw it in the theatre and with the big screen and big sound I jumped each time the robot attacked! It took me 2 1/2 hours to calm down!!!<br>
(I am a highly sensitive person as described in Elaine Aron's book <span style="text-decoration:underline;">The Highly Sensitive Person</span> and I suspect Hope may be one too.)<br><br>
I often will ask Hope to watch the trailer if she's not sure and usually she'll know whether it's too scary right off.<br><br>
You know what? <b>Do whatever feels right for you and your family.</b><br>
I think that's the key.
 

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My son does not get scared easily. But, I know some children do.<br>
Yes, we allow him to watch those movies. He also likes Harry Potter and has never been scared.. and my pulse gets going with those movies!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Each child is different.
 

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I really think it just depends on the child. My 4 year old saw both of those movies from a young age. He also has always loved Harry Potter and his current favorite is Pirates of the Caribbean. He loves that kind of stuff and it doesn't really scare him. If he scared easily, I'd definitely restrict all of that.
 

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We recently let our 4 yo watch Monsters Inc. with us. We're going to wait a few more years for The Incredibles, even though he's seen the preview I know it would be too much for him. I can't wait until they're old enough for Star Wars (although my mother took me to see it when I was 3.5 and I loved it!)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My son does not get scared easily. But, I know some children do.<br>
Yes, we allow him to watch those movies. He also likes Harry Potter and has never been scared.. and my pulse gets going with those movies!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
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I love the Harry Potter movies too(haven't seen all of them) but some of the scenes freaked me out, like the first one, the girl's ghost in the bathroom, and the spiders. That wouldn't necessarily freak ds out though.
 

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My 3 yo ds thinks the talking trees in Veggie Tales Lord of the Bean are a little scary, so we would hold off on those movies. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I think most of the Disney movies are inappropriate for young children. Why is a parent always dying? I think we'll hold off until school age for those.
 

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IMO, the first few minutes of Finding Nemo is WAY more scary than the first few minutes of Monsters, Inc. A baracuda attacks and eats the mother and 399 out of 400 babies. Then, 5 minutes later, the only remaining child is abducted! Talk about a horror movie for kids! And what about The Lion King, Barnyard, Over The Hedge . . . even Stuart Little has a scary part.<br><br>
My DS, age three, knows by heart how many scary parts are in every one of his movies, when they are coming, and how long he'll have to find either my or DH's hand before it happens. I think the only movies we have that don't have any scary parts are The Wiggles and Hermie.
 

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you took your 4 yo to a cinema to see this - but it is rated r - i am amazed that she was allowed in to watch it.
 

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My son just turned 4 and saw both the Incredibles and Monsters, Inc. a while ago. We do censor some, but not very much. I'm fine with pretty much all "kids movies" and most grown-up movies. He's really into LOST and Grey's Anatomy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But he LOOOOVES scary things and those movies didn't scare him at all. Nor did Monster House (in 3D at the theater). He's always trying to get me to rent horror movies, but I won't because I am a big fat chicken myself.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks everyone.<br>
He is a bit sensitive, and tends to get overstimulated by lots of action and loudness. When a character on a show cries or is very angry or shows strong emotions, ds cringes or acts uncomfortable. The Incredibles seemed a bit intense but I may just try it out and stop it if he gets freaked.</div>
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OP, I think that you are safe with Monsters Inc. As far as The Incredibles go, I might wait for a bit. I know how hard it is sometimes when we are trying to do the best by our kids. I got blindsided by another mom the other day. Our sons are best friends since they were 3. She wanted to take our sons to see Ghost Rider. After seeing the previews we knew that there was no way that it was appropriate for our son. She was not happy with me & let me know it. Yikes! This is the same mom who won't let her son play video games because she is concerned that some of them are violent.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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I'm going to go on the record and say that it is a major pet peeve of mine that determining appropriate content for young children is somehow equal to censorship in some people's minds.<br><br>
My children are 5 and 3. I consider it a sacred responsibility to ensure that if they are viewing television or movies that the content and presentation are of a nature that is compatible with the way in which I am trying to raise them, that is, to be loving, kind, compassionate and happy children.<br><br>
I simply fail to understand how knowingly putting your very young child in front of a 2 hour movie filled with vulgarity, violence, betrayal, anger and adult themes can <i>at all</i> be a positive situation for them.<br><br>
So, perhaps I am in the minority here, but I believe children are children and adults are adults - yes there are differences in children's maturity and ability to deal with scary or violent content, but they are still children. They may talk and act mature when they hear and see these things, but cognitively they are still their age, KWIM?
 
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