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We are planning a big move this Spring. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. I would love to hear from other moms or dads who have moved or are planning on moving their family to a different region. My nine yr old really doesn't want to move. She's crying this morning about the move. We constantly have people tell us why do you want to leave Denver and move to Philly? How are you coping with the move? Any suggestions to make the transition smoother? I would love to start a tribe for support.<br>
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My son is too young to notice (3 months) but I'll be moving cross country from GA to WA over the summer. I'm dreading the move itself! Nothing like driving cross country with the babe and 7 cats!
 

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We're moving in a major way (across an ocean) in approximately a year-plus, and are currently moving in a minor way (to a different area in our city) for the interim year-plus.<br><br>
And to be technical, we have approximately 5 weeks to go till the move, and we still don't have anywhere to move to.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><br><br>
Have packed a few boxes of toys and that's about it.<br><br>
Oh, and we have 4 at the moment, the oldest is 6yo.<br><br>
Am a little stressed. :LOL To say the least.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">
 

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DH, DD, and I are moving..but we don't know where yet. DH is applying for lots of jobs and we don't know where we'll end up! That's the worst part- the unknown!<br><br>
That, and the fact that I feel like my life is sort of on hold until then. I don't feel like I can start new things, like school, join groups, etc. when I might have to leave. I'm afraid of building more ties that will make it harder to leave. By the same token, I'm a new SAHM and am lonely! I want to meet other moms but am afraid of getting close to people because it will just make things hard later.<br><br>
Anyone else feel like this?
 

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We are moving locally (only a few towns away), but we will be first time home owners. We close two days after Christmas and we need to be out of our apartment two weeks later. Ds#2 has asthma so we have to cram in about three weeks worth of work (taking down wall paper, painting, redoing floors, sealing the basement,..) in less than two weeks. All while dh works and I pack with 3 kids ages 4 and under. Thankfully, my brother-in-law is a painter or I don't how we'd get it all done.<br><br>
Time to purge.<br><br>
the kids are getting a bit batty right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Bolt.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bolt">
 

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Stacey,<br>
I definitely know how you feel...we've had a rough time at it. I have a 2 yr. old and a 4 month old and we are in limbo. We moved before the baby was born and are in a temp apt until we can decide where to go...it sucks...I have no friends here and feel hesitant to start anything as well. Where are the places you are thinking about living? we have 3- Chicago, SF, san Diego.
 

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I definitely know how you feel...we've had a rough time at it. I have a 2 yr. old and a 4 month old and we are in limbo. We moved before the baby was born and are in a temp apt until we can decide where to go...it sucks...I have no friends here and feel hesitant to start anything as well. Where are the places you are thinking about living? we have 3- Chicago, SF, san Diego.</div>
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Well, we don't really know. He has an interview in Del Rio, Texas next week. It's a small border town that is 7 hours away from our family. I'm not thrilled at the prospect. :LOL<br><br>
Basically, he's applying for the same position all over the country, but his chances are better in a small town. The largere cities require more experience than he has right now.<br><br>
I LOVE Chicago. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> It rarely snows her at all! And the summers in Chicago are awesome. Do you have a preference to one of the three cities? Do you have any type of time frame as to whne you'll move?
 

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For those of you in limbo, is there a LLL meeting that you could catch just to make a bit of contact? Any community play groups? In addition to being without a destination, are you also without an estimated time frame until you move?<br><br>
merpk, where will you be moving to next year?
 

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I do attend the monthly LLL meetings, and that helps. I don't really have an estimated date, it could happen anytime. That makes things harder, especially b/c the thought of moving with a nb terrifies me!
 

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leomom - i feel the same way you do. we've only been in this area about a year and i've made some good friends but now that's all going to be ripped away in anywhere from 4 months to 10 months. i hate not knowing when we'll go, where we'll live, what we'll do with this house we have now and there's a possibility we'll have to move again not long after we move to washington. i started going to the local lll meeting last month - there were only 3 of us there but i really enjoyed it.<br><br>
i would just love to have everything settled.
 

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We have been on move mode for over two years. It's stressful not knowing when it's actually going to take place. It was between Philly and DC. We narrowed it down to Philly and now my dh informed me last week that it might be back to DC.<br>
We thought we would be out of here on three different occassions. This time it's for real. We sell our house this week and then we are renting back until April. One nice thing about the move is that dh has a conference in Orlando at the begining of April and we have a wedding in Miss. at the end of April so we are going to relax in Florida for the whole month!!!!! Then we will head NE up the Coast.<br>
I was worried that our friends would not want to stay attached because of the move. I have found the ones that I really want to stay in contact don't care if we are moving because they know we will always be friends. Our family and a few of our friends are looking forward to visiting us out East. It helps that three families that we are friends with have family out East so we know we will be seeing them. I have narrowed our group of friends down and a lot of that has to do with not only the move but because we are homeschooling now. It's been hard on my nine yr old because we just started homeschooling and she has met some great new friends. I have actually met some new friends through homeschooling as well. I heard a saying once that you have friends for a reason, a season and for life. I think it's harder on the adults when your kids are quite young. I know that through our kids we have been able to meet a lot of our close friends. I'm hoping that we will be able to meet new friends through other homeschooling families and through our church.<br>
I read a book <i>When Children Grieve</i> that I have found a bit helpful. There is a chapter on moving. Now I am starting to feel scared. I love my house. Two of my kids were born in our house. I tell my kids and our friends that if it doesn't work out we can always move back. We are lucky enough that dh's job will allow that.
 

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Wow, I'm glad you started this thread Kelly! We are contemplating a big move from Southern California to Charlottesville VA after school is out in June. It's very overwhelming right now because we are in the process of fixing up our house to sell, we're expecting a baby in March '05, and my 15-year old is totally against the move. My husband and I are native Californians but have been looking to get out of here for awhile now. Most people understand why we want to move -- rising costs, terrible traffic, awful air quality, an educational system that's going downhill -- but at the same time they wonder how we can leave because, well, it's California!<br><br>
I'm so excited and anxious about all of this...a tribe/support group here is right up my alley! I look forward to getting to know you all.<br><br>
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I'm in the same boat -- a potential move cross country this coming summer with a 4 month old, a 7 year old, a (hostile) 15 year old and two hyper dogs. Can we say STRESSFUL?! :LOL
 

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Well, dh just started his 7 hour drive for the interview he has tomorrow. I feel really guilty, because I secretly hope he doesn't get it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: Not only do I not want to move, I REALLY don't want to move there!!! I feel like a really bad wife, but I just can't help it...
 

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Noticing there are several mamas-with-teenagers moving ... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/privateeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="private eyes"> ... yaowza. Good luck on that score. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Remembering back to my teen years how I didn't even want to go on a trip because I might, what, not even sure now, miss a good party? Can't imagine moving far with someone with that issue ... how are you/they dealing with all this?<br><br>
Am very hyped up myself, I just found our new apartment today. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Though am saying that with trepidation ... the application process for an apartment in NYC can get weird ...<br><br>
So picked up the kids from school right after seeing the apartment, telling them about it ... and DS#1 (who's 6yo) finally reacted to the whole moving thing. "I'm scared." So I say (totally forgetting my "How to Talk ..." lessons <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/privateeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="private eyes">), "There's nothing to be scared of, we're only moving 30 blocks away, and besides, we're all doing it together."<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Bad me. Am supposed to acknowledge the feelings, right? "You're worried about moving," or "you're scared about going to a new place," or something like that, right?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
The smaller ones don't seem to care, though DS#2 (who's 2) seems to keep worrying about where his toys are suddenly, as if every toy he thinks of but can't immediately find is missing forever. Which seems relevant/related, IYKWIM.
 

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So picked up the kids from school right after seeing the apartment, telling them about it ... and DS#1 (who's 6yo) finally reacted to the whole moving thing. "I'm scared." So I say (totally forgetting my "How to Talk ..." lessons <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/privateeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="private eyes">), "There's nothing to be scared of, we're only moving 30 blocks away, and besides, we're all doing it together."<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Bad me. Am supposed to acknowledge the feelings, right? "You're worried about moving," or "you're scared about going to a new place," or something like that, right?<br><br><br>
From what I read they do tell you to acknowledge their feelings otherwise they will just keep it in. They also said to go to room to room of your house and tell each room goodbye and talk about memories from each room. Try to set up the kids rooms first and try to set them up similar to how they were in your old house.<br>
Here are some links I found <a href="http://www.mindconnection.com/library/relocation/kidsandmoving.htm?NF=1" target="_blank">Kids and moving</a> <a href="http://www.usps.com/moversnet/kids2.html" target="_blank">Moving</a><br><a href="http://www.usps.com/moversnet/kids2.html" target="_blank">What Kids Who are Moving Should do</a> <a href="http://www.century21.com/smoothmoves/default.aspx" target="_blank">Smooth Moves</a><br><br>
How is it going so far? Every week my nine yr old keeps telling me she isn't moving and I found out she is scared about having an ugly old house! When we went house hunting this summer every house was outdated. We have a house that is updated. My biggest fear is that it will be haunted <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/scared.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="scared"> We watched the Sixth Sense last week to check out the Philly scenes.
 

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So the apartment we thought we were moving to this coming week ... we may not be getting. Whenever I call the management office they put me off, say "call back later" type stuff. And then finally said they'll call back ... and they didn't. We submitted the application last week, and I know it's the holidays, but the end of the month is coming, and the end of the month comes with or without holidays, and we do need to know, you know? So what's the problem?<br><br>
Am sure that it's because we have <span style="font-size:xx-small;">b'H</span> 4 children and they don't want 4 children in a 2-bedroom apartment.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake"><br><br>
Heck, we all sleep in one bed, so why do we need more bedrooms?<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Will call them again tomorrow. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead">
 

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Hi! We're in the middle of a long, drawn-out move ourselves. I have a job, DH now has a job, but we are living w/ my parents waiting for our house to sell... of course that is hard on all of us. I will be so glad when I am under my own roof again and can call the shots a little better.<br><br>
Anyway, just wanted to mention that I am in SW Virginia (Roanoke). Charlottesville is a pretty, pretty area, and UVa is a great school. What's more, we moved to Roanoke (the first time) when I was 16, so I know how your 15 y.o. feels. It isn't easy. I went from a small school where there were 100 in my class to a school w/ 400 in my class. That was the most terrifying part, plus the schoolwork was harder. Just be there and be supportive... it's tough because it turns your whole world upside down. I still feel like I have a split allegiance to my two high schools, and in some ways I feel closer to the classmates at the school I didn't graduate from. Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Moving here too....From Boulder to Portland. At the end of January. Am I packed? Nah. Do we have a place to live? Nah.<br><br>
We do have a truck! :LOL<br><br>
This is the fist time I will have lived outside of Colorado for more than just the summer. (I lived in CNY for three summers) I am excited - but I have a LOT to do.
 

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So called the management company. We did not get the apartment. They said DH's salary was too low. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
So we have an extra 2 weeks till we have to move, we're trying to get it upped to the end of January. Not sure where we'll move if we don't find someplace.<br><br>
This is getting scary ...
 
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