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Dh, myself and dd moved in with my parents 6 months ago when we moved back home. Grandpa is retired and dd gets to play with him lots every day. Grandma is very doting after work and on the weekends, too. Dh is rarely home.<br><br>
We just bought a house and will be moving in February. It's only ten miles from my parents house. Of course, dd is very upset and doesn't want to leave grandma and grandpa. She is excited about the new house and about getting her old toys back out of storage. She is also upset because sometime in June her nana (mil) will be moving in with us.<br><br>
We have moved with dd twice before, but this is the first time we've lived near family. And the first time she's had almost constant access to her grandparents. She is having lots of temper tantrums lately, which is totally expected but tiring all the same. Other than spending time with her, letting her have her tantrums and talking about the move, what can I do to try to make the transition easier? Anyone have a magic wand to wave and make it all better? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 

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No, I wish I had that magic wand for you, but I don't. However, I have btdt with my children. We moved back east after 6 years in California, and we lived with my parents for 9 months before we moved into our own house. I do remember a lot of heightened emotions in ds (who was 3.5 at the time), and to add to the changes in his life, I also gave birth to dd just weeks before we were moving. I think the one thing that saved us was school. Ds was in preschool for 3 hours/day, 5 days a week. And this routine persisted despite our move. I think that having the consistency in his day was something he could cling to and helped to keep his world together. And we also developed a new routine-- grandma would come by in the mornings to bring ds to school! He loved this special time with her and didn't miss her quite as much because he continued to see her every day. My only advice is that during a time in which so much is changing for your dd, try to keep a few things the same because I think all people take comfort in that kind of thing. Best wishes, and congratulations on our new home!
 

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Thanks for the input! We've been talking to dd about the move more and more and dealing with the emotions as they come up.<br><br>
Unfortunately, she's not in preschool and we don't really have any set daily routines except for going to storytime and going to church. We'll only be fifteen minutes away, so I'll make sure she gets to see them daily for a while.<br><br>
Thanks!
 
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