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My dh is not only NOT Mr. Fix-It, but I think he's Mr. Destroy-It. I am a sahm of 2 kids, constantly on my feet doing anything and everything imaginable, the only times I'm on my butt include nursing or playing X-Box (rare). Well, every time we finally have extra money (thanks to my frugality) he seems to break something, or do something stupid that allows something to fall apart. Example- he was pouring coolant into the car this morning and ran into the house to grab something before going to work. Drove all the way to work- and all the way home afterward- before realizing that he 'forgot' to put the cap back on the coolant thing in the car. Um, might we say DUH? How can you forget to do something that takes all of three seconds? I mean, what if he came home and my ds was whining and I said, "Oh sorry honey, I forgot to feed him today!" or if my dd was crying and I said, "Oh, sorry, I forgot that I was going to pick her up since she was crying"? I mean, c'mon! Does anyone else have to deal with this BS?
 

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Accidents happen. I have heard simular stories from people who take cars to mechanics. In the past I have lost gas caps, now they have straps on them so you don't loose them.<br><br>
As angry as you are, please forgive him. It was just an accident.<br><br>
Plus, I have burnt many dinners because I have gotten side track (I did this tonight). We had to run out and by new meat. I don't do this often but often enough. :LOL
 

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I agree that it was an accident. It happens, like Marsupialmom said. It's not like he intentionally left the cap off just to try to make you angry, or to throw money away. He was probably in a rush to get to work, and preoccupied with something. I say let it go.
 

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I make mistakes often, because I am a very, very impatient person (I think it, I do it, don't like much lag in between, kwim?). They most frequently don't cost us money. But DH often makes me feel like an idiot for making them ("how could you NOT notice that the washing machine was empty?! You just wasted SO MUCH water! I thought we were conserving!"). He is fastidious and rarely (read: I can't think of a single instance) makes mistakes of this nature, so he really doesn't understand where I'm coming from.<br><br>
Please go easy on him. It is easy to make mistakes when your mind travels a million miles a minute and enjoys side-trips. And no, it is not as simple as getting your act straight. My brain simply does this, I have very little control over it. It takes something that interests me personally or creates ongoing activity to hold my attention. I need to make a conscious effort to remember things like gas-caps, locking doors, etc. Thankfully I find my children supremely interesting <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">.
 

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gosh...that's such a little thing...sounds like something I would have done...I have driven home from the gas station several times with the cap off...one time I left it on the back of the truck, luckily it fell in not out...<br><br>
If my husband would have done that I would have found it funny to be honest...
 

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I have lost so many caps it's not funny <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag"><br><br>
And I've also been mad at my dh for doing/not doing many innumerable details...9 years into it, I'm finally learning to let go of the socks on the floor, cap on the toothpaste thing (except when I'm PMSing), because I find that I'm not a perfect person, either. Unfortunately <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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Melissa<br>
I totally hear you! My X is like this and VERY Adult ADD (although he won't admit it). I guess the biggest problem I had was not his "mistakes", but that he couldn't admit that he sucked at doing things around the house, couldn't admit he was forgetful, and wouldn't find ways to remedy the situation. I'm talking everything from walking into the house with mud on his shoes to repeatedly forgetting to pack dd's backpack for school after their time together. He still does these things today, but it doesn't impact me anymore....after all, he's the one who has to go back to his house to retreive her things. However, I do see that it has a tremendous impact on dd and she's beginning to feel that she can't rely on him (DUH!) because he is forgetful and can't keep committments. Poor thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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