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I'm heart broken. My 3.5yo has had a bit of nursing difficulty due to a bad latch lately. She has started pulling her tounge back when she nurses. I asked for help about it a week or two ago and I got a few responses. I thought that we had it worked out, but she is still doing it. I have to remind her multiple times during a nursing session to keep her tounge over her teeth. I have been very gentle about it because I want her to wean because she wants to...not because she is frustrated.<br><br>
Just a few minutes ago I was nursing her and trying to remind her to keep her tounge over her teeth. I unlatched her and tried to show her how with my finger...doing finger excersises like you would with a newborn to coax their tounge out. She just said she was done...no more nursing. She didn't want to pratice. I begged her to let me help her but she refused.<br><br>
I don't want it to end like this....I'm not ready for her to be done. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"><br><br>
I'm hoping that she will still try. We will see. She is usually so persistent. Ugh! I don't know what to do.<br><br>
I will move on though. At least her little brother is still nursing.<br><br>
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Thanks for the hugs everyone. I really needed that.<br><br>
I really wish there was more info out there for dealing with latch issues with an older nursling....everything is for newborns. She did nurse to sleep last night....still not nursing the right way, but I got through it. I read through the BAB and it said to consider using nipple shields. I went out to get some but they were all sold out. I will be trying a different store tonight.<br><br>
I want to fix this not make her quit. She's just not ready emotionally.<br><br>
Thanks everyone.
 

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Hang in there mama... My dd is 3 as well and I have been trying to break her habit of playing with my hair. She has done it since birth but now that she is big it can really hurt when she accidently pulls it out!! I was trying to break the habit gently but ended up needing to unlatch her everytime she pulled. She told me it was just too hard to learn and stopped nursing for a few days. (She also stopped a month earlier when her Nana told her she was to big to nurse grrrrr). I let it go for a day or so but would invite her to nurse at her normal times. Initially she just lay in my arms but then she just started up again. She decided she wanted to nurse still and came up with the idea of playing with her dolls hair when she nurses. She still pulls mine - which makes me crazy. But given the alternative - I am just using the gentle reminder technique again rather than the unlatch.<br><br>
Obviously your latch issue is tougher than this. I think though that 3 yrs olds are such wise little people that your gentle persistance will help pay off. I would try practicing with her when she is not tired and ready to nurse. Maybe try at different times of the day and make it sort of fun. Good luck though<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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