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I have heard 3 people ( out of 12 or so) in my breastfeeding support group claim their child self weaned at 8 or 9 months. Two of these woman I don't know very well but the other is a neighbor of mine and I know her pretty well. Her son is now 1 1/2 yo and she claims he self weaned at 8 months. It really annoys me when she claims this because I feel that she actually led him to self wean with out realizing it. She went back to work because she "had too" when she actually didn't they just live beyond their means... anyways... she didn't pump at work but supplimented with formula, and tried to nurse when she was home.<br><br>
I am just curious how likely it is for a baby to "self wean" at such a young age. If the mother had tried hard enough would the baby have nursed longer? Could it have been a nursing strike and the mom just over reacted and called it self weaning?<br><br>
I am hopeing to nurse for at least a year and let DS self wean from there (I really hope he doesn't self wean before 2 years) so I just want to be prepared if the likely hood of him not making it that far is big. Also, at the moment BFing is my anit depressant, the best I have found so far. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> So I am hopeing to keep it up for a long time.<br><br>
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Well, I think that some women do things to lead to early weaning. And I used to have the same gut reaction to hearing someone say that their 9-mos. old or 8-mos. old, etc. had self-weaned.<br><br>
That is until it happened to a friend of mine. Her baby started to wean at 9 mos. Her baby didn't get bottles- ever, was nursed whenever she wanted to, and my friend is a very attentive Mom. She started to cut out nursings around 9 mos. and it was a huge struggle for my friend to get her to continue. She finally self-weaned at 13 mos. I KNOW my friend tried EVERYTHING to keep her nursing. Right before she weaned herself at 13-mos. she was nursing one time per day (in the mornings) and drinking nothing else. My friend was seriously worried about her becoming dehydrated. After she weaned her dd started drinking water and a tad bit of milk (not more than 2-3 ozs. per day) and she is still that way.<br><br>
So, what I'm getting at is that while it's rare for a Mom who is not supplementing and practicing AP to have a baby wean that early- it's not impossible. Try not to judge.
 

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my opinion is that if she didn't pump when she was at work and only nursed when she was able to, then her supply went down... and supplementing probably didn't help either. Maybe she didn't enjoy nursing very much? It sounds like she didn't, (based on what you are saying) it's hard to determine what really happened, because every child is so different, and even though I have never seen a baby self-wean before a year, it very well could be, although, again, by what you are saying, the mother didn't have much interest in nursing. In my personal case, I pump every 2 hours at work to keep up with my supply, and it has helped tremedously, in fact -if anything- my supply has gone up, and like your friend, I am lucky to not "have" to work, so if I saw that my baby was having problems with breastfeeding then I would quit immediately.<br>
I think it also has to do with how determined you are about bf'ing. IMHO I have been able to breastfeed succesfully because I put my heart & soul into it since the beginning.<br><br>
and also, I wanted to say that I really hope you're able to keep it up for a long time!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">'s
 

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I selfweaned at between 7-8 months. I think it may have had soemthing to do with my milk allergy though. It has been many years since I was a baby and a lot of things have changed in the breastfeeding world.<br><br>
My mother tells me that I started nursing only once a day by the time I was 7 months old and then just stopped, she tried to give me the breast, she tried to express it and give it in a bottle, she tried to give me formula, but I didnt take any of it. I went straight fromt eh breast to whole foods and water. I am allergic to milk and back then they didnt have soymilk and such, so I drank a lot of water.<br><br>
I think it is possible, but very rare and most likely brought on by something.<br><br>
Like I said I think mine may have had something to do with my milk allergy because she never did an elimination diet.<br><br>
Weird?
 

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A combination of factors can make a baby lose interest in nursing at 8 or 9 mos. It is not a true weaning. Humans are meant to nurse until 2-6 yrs of age.<br><br>
If a mother has done CIO and baby is not nursing for a 10 hour stretch at night, and doesn't nurse before naps, this reduces supply overall.<br><br>
If a mother has introduced several bottles during the day (either her milk or ABM), this can lead to nipple confusion.<br><br>
If the baby is in daycare, or with babysitters a lot, his opportunities for bfing are less.<br><br>
If baby takes a pacifier, this will satisfy some sucking needs and he will need the breast less.<br><br>
Baby is very busy and distractible at this age. Some need to be encouraged to nurse in a dark quiet room. If the mother is not willing (or doesn't know) to do this...baby won't nurse and will look for a cup or food.<br><br>
If the baby bites the breast and mom yells, has a cold and is stuffy, is having lots of solids or other milks, these can lead to a nursing strike that a mother may mistake for weaning.<br><br>
Of course, if the mother is pg again, this can reduce supply and some babies will then refuse to nurse.<br><br>
The majority of babies pick up an interest in bfing again at around 12 mos. If mom has given up by then, they won't see this natural return.
 

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Thanks DaryLLL I will keep those things in mind as my son gets older. I definitly wasn't judging the mom(s) at all, I know she is trying to be a good mom and doing what she thinks is best. It just seemed like a lot of moms that BFed (3 out of the 12) had their kids wean early and I wanted to avoid that if possible. She does CIO, wasn't pumping at work, was supplimenting, had her son in day care, etc. But she really did love nursing. She had a lot of trouble getting started, thrush, mastis, cracked sore nipples, breast infection, lots of negative comments from her controling mother telling her to just quit.<br><br>
Anyways, thanks for the suggestions I didn't mean to come off as judgemental. I just want to keep it up for a good long time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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