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My mom came to visit us for the weekend and brought my 8 year old neice. She was in love with my (6 month old) son. I thought it was so sweet that throughout her 2 days here she seemed to really change from thinking nursing was strange to accepting it and even thinking it was cool!<br>
Soon after they arrived I sat down to nurse him. She had seen me nurse him when I visited them a few months ago. It went something like this:<br><br>
She sat really closely, talking to him & making him smile. I got him latched on.<br>
Her face changed to a puzzled look.<br>
Her: You're still doing <i>that</i>?<br>
Me: Yep, this is how he eats.<br>
Her: How long will he eat like that?<br>
Me: For a long time probably.. it is good for babies to eat like this.<br>
Her: Oh. (smiled)<br><br>
She didn't seem to think it was that strange after that. She always sat next to us while I nursed and would tell Nathan to "finish drinking your milk!"<br><br>
Later at the zoo, I nursed him in the parking lot before we headed in since he was so hungry from the long drive & couldn't wait until we got inside.<br>
My mom: Molly, when you have babies are you going to nurse them?<br>
Her: Yeah but not <i>here</i>! I will go home and do it and then come back!<br>
Me: Well you'll be doing a lot of driving home then, babies eat a lot! It's much easier to just feed them when they are hungry.<br>
Her: *shrug*<br><br>
Later that night at home. She was playing with my camera and having a lot of fun taking pictures of everything. I was nursing Nathan.<br>
Her: Can I take his picture while he's eating? He is so cute!<br>
Me: Sure!<br>
Her: Oh ok. I didn't know if you'd be embarassed.<br>
Me: Nope, there's nothing to be embarassed about!<br>
Her: You're right!<br><br>
And then we were watching Happy Feet, and she was saying how it was gross & weird that the mama penguins "throw up" the fish into the baby's mouth.<br>
Me: Well I think it's kind of cool how God made the penguins so they know how to feed their babies in a special way, just like he made us with a special way to feed our babies.<br>
Her: Yeah! We breastfeed our babies!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I thought it was really cute because then she kept asking "Are you going to breastfeed him now?" and would ask questions like "How do you know when he's done?" I am hoping that as she gets older she will remember seeing me nurse him and view it as a normal, natural thing. No one else in our family breastfeeds. She said she remembers her mom nursing her little brother (she did briefly). I am hoping I had a positive influence on her this weekend!
 

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YEA! It is so important for the next generation to have a healthy attitude about breastfeeding.
 

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What a great story!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Its great to pass on the knowledge. ***If you want to change the world...you have to start with the children***
 

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that is awesome...one of the reasons i think i was so lucky in my breastfeeding experience was because i was raised by women who breastfed in front of me. i never thought it was weird or embarrasing, and i didn't really need to much "help" getting started when my son was born, because i had such strong memories of how babies were held and how you latched them on. you probably just made a bigger impact than you even realize!
 

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It's so wonderful that she has you as a role model. It's very interesting to note how her reactions changed as the week wore on. It seems that many adults have never gotten past some of these assumptions that your neice just had challenged. "Oh, I'd never do that HERE" and the like.<br><br>
The more people see BF as normal, the more it will BECOME the norm in society.
 

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What a great story! Thanks for sharing.
 

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I love it!<br><br>
I went home to visit my family a couple months ago. My nephew is 10 yo and my sister said to him on the way over "just so you dont get shocked, jen still feeds keira with her breast". You know what my awesome nephew said?<br><br>
"yeah mom, ALL mammals do".<br><br>
My sister said she felt like an idiot <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> But that she was nervous he would freak out if I unexpectedly pulled down my shirt. lol.<br><br>
I love my nephew. He comes from a purely ff family (as do I) so this is huge!
 

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AND you set her up to realize the breasts greater purpose: to feed children!
 

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I thought it was really cute because then she kept asking "Are you going to breastfeed him now?" and would ask questions like "How do you know when he's done?" I am hoping that as she gets older she will remember seeing me nurse him and view it as a normal, natural thing. No one else in our family breastfeeds. She said she remembers her mom nursing her little brother (she did briefly). I am hoping I had a positive influence on her this weekend![/QUOTE]<br><br><br>
I have to say that you never know what the seeds you plant will do. 16 years ago my cousin breastfed her baby at our house one Christmas. I was baby mad too and stayed with her when she went on the porch to nurse and we talked about it. It was my only experience with breastfeeding my whole young life. I went on to do a lot of babysitting for that baby and then when I had my own babies I breastfed. I really did remember that Christmas and how nice it was. And then I became a childbirth and breastfeeding educator and birth assistant. Now that baby of my cousin is 26 and pregnant, due in two weeks and sleeping in my spare room with her dh right now. They came down for a crash childbirth class, since they realized their lousy hospital obedience class was not enough. All from one Christmas nursing session on our porch.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol">
 

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I'm so glad she decided breastfeeding is great!<br><br>
I had a similar experience with my sister. My husband and I moved back to the city where I grew up (and she lives) one week before my first child was born. My sister saw me nursing my baby right after he was born, and walked out of the room. She thought it was gross. Over the past two years, she's changed from thinking it's gross to thinking it's great that I breastfeed him (and now his younger sister). She'll sit and talk with me while I nurse my babies, or she'll ask them if they need to nurse. I'm so glad she thinks it's normal, now.
 

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I still remember my aunts bfing my cousins. In fact, I still remember one embarrassing incident where I asked my aunt if I could feed my cousin (thinking that it would be a bottle <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: I didn't have any younger siblings, I was FF, and I guess my dolls all had bottles, I don't know??) everyone laughed at me, then explained that babies were breastfed (I think I was even eleven at the time, so I was old to not know that!!!) I don' t know if this ultimately influenced my choice to bf, but I think that your neice is off to a great start.
 

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I love that expression: "hospital obedience class". I'll have to remember it the next time I drop in on one of the Hypnosis and Childbirth boards I occasionally visit (just to check up on what's going on since my "Hypnobabies (R)" delivery with DD2.<br>
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That is so great! Positive examples like the one you set are just what's needed for the next generation. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I think it's wonderful!<br><br>
I like how you described that she would get really close and play with the baby while you nursed him. In my experience, kids have always seemed to want to really get in close while I'm nursing dd. I think it's innate <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
In fact, I have an 11-yr-old dsd and although sometimes I would prefer she not distract her sister while she's nursing<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">, I have found it very interesting that she ALWAYS snuggles up to me and plays with dd while she nurses. She has never been fazed by the idea of nursing - in fact probably more comfortable with it than me in the beginning! - and I'm just so glad that she gets the constant exposure to it so hopefully she'll choose to breastfeed when she has children. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"><br><br>
Since her mother didn't bf (and seems grossed out by NIP), and will not have more children, it's something I'm thrilled that I get to pass along to her as her stepmom.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb">
 

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thats awesome<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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