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You guessed it I had my daughter. Here is her birth story:<br><br>
Contractions started pretty mild at 4:00 pm Thursday night. At first I wasnt sure if it was the real deal since they were so minor and it felt like more an upset stomach. The pattern started at roughly every 15-20 min. Within the next 30 minutes my body started cleaning itself out and I had my bloody show. It was at this moment I knew it was the real deal. So of course I did last minute packing of my labor bag, cleaning, and tied up loose ends like taking the dogs and DS to my parents house to be looked after. Within an hour or so of the contractions starting they were getting painful. There was no need to do anything like walk around to make them stronger or anything. I was able to work through the contractions till about 10 pm. At this time I was seriously considering going to the hospital already because the contractions were intense. I couldn't believe that in just a few hours they already hurt this bad. I wasnt able to sleep or relax through the contractions. I labored a bit more on my birth ball and on the toilet and moved over to the shower. The shower felt great but standing for so long got me tired so that didnt last long. Visualizing a pond at night with rain falling and thunder in the distance also helped relax me and put my mind somewhere else. Finally, I had my mom come over around midnight to help me through the contractions with massage and such. After about 30 min she said, "you do know your contractions are around 3 minutes apart right?" I was a bit surprised they were already so close together. They had been like this for a while but I just had not timed it yet. My contractions lasted each about 20-40 seconds so I didnt really think I was that close to going to the hospital. At that moment I felt very sick to my stomach and was on the verge of throwing up. Thats when I knew I WAS close. So I called my OB and let her know I was on my way and off my mom and I went to meet my doula at the hospital.<br><br>
I was so sick on the car ride over to the hospital I was sure I was going to be sick... but didnt. I didnt want to make a mess in the car so I held it in as long as I could. We had to enter the hospital through the ER since we arrived at around 1:00 am and they wheeled me over the labor and delivery. The moment I was wheeled into my delivery room I threw up. Lucky for me I had an empty stomach and a bucket nearby. I was able to refuse an IV and there was no need for antibiotics (YAY!) but I did consent to a hep-lock for just in case. I changed into my gown and got checked and they told me I was 5 cm and stretchy. I was ok with this but has wished I was a bit further. I had been 3ish cm since my last OB appointment the previous Monday. My doula was awesome and reminded me how my body was built to do this and that I was doing great. Its exactly what I needed to hear because on the way to the hospital I was really wanting some pain medication. I got checked again at roughly 2:00 am and was told that I was about 7 cm. I was ecstatic to hear that in just about an hour I dilated another 2 cm. I was working through the contractions on my own as I found when my doula massaged me or spoke to me it wasnt helping. She was there for my emotional support and to make sure I was as comfortable as possible with pillows, fanning, ice chips... that sort of thing.<br><br>
Around 3:00 - 3:30am (not sure since I wasnt really looking at the clock) the contractions got very very strong. I found myself humming through the contractions. It really distracted me from the pain and I focused on the vibration from my humming and told myself the contraction was about as long as 2 deep breaths and that kept me going. I totally lost track of time and after a while I found myself almost crying through some of the hardest contractions I have ever felt in my life. I suddenly found myself shaking. I knew this was it. I was shaking like a mad woman like I did when I had DS. Part of me was glad I was nearing the finish line but the other part of me was scared to death about what that final stretch was going to be like. I was scared that I had had no pain meds up until this point and that if I wanted something later that it would be too late. But I didnt have much time to think about it since the contractions felt like they were on top of each other and I had to focus on that. I got checked at roughly 6:00 and the nurse told me I was only 8 cm. She checked me while I was having a contraction so I wasnt able to really cooperate with her estimate. At hearing this news I broke down and cried and said, "I need pain meds!!! There is no way I can do this if I labored the last 4 hours like this and only went 1 cm!" Just then my OB walked in and I told her to get me the epidural. She said let me check you first. I was a bit upset by this since I was just checked but agreed to it. Well guess what? The nurse was really off and my OB said I was ready to push. This scared the crap out of me because it was at this moment I said to myself "oh my god, Im doing the natural birth I wanted. I cant do this. Holy crap there is no going back now."<br><br>
My OB put the squatting bar in my bed and had me do a few test pushes though I didnt really feel the urge to push. The pain was so insane I just told her I couldnt push. I really couldnt. I didnt know what I was doing down there. I had no control. I had not peed since I had got to the hospital and she asked me to pee.... I couldnt even tell if i was peeing, there were too many sensations down there. My OB again encouraged me to do a few test pushes and I did and OMG, the pain. Then all hell broke loose. **disclosure** ANYONE THAT DOESNT WANT TO READ ABOUT A NOT SO CALM AND SOOTHING BIRTH, DO NOT READ! As I was tests pushing this force came over me. I dont know what to call it but instinct. My body took over and I was no longer in control. Those two test pushes turned into REAL pushes. I wasnt even trying, I didnt want to try. I was even thinking a c-section was sounding pretty good right about now. But my body had other plans. While I was not pushing my body was. The pain was consuming and surprising that it was pushing on its own. At that moment I told myself there was no fighting this. I had to join my body and help it push. I felt like I was outside of myself. It was like two people pushing. I have to say I am guilty of scaring the other laboring mamas on the floor. I never thought I was the type of person to do that but again, I lost all control and this other woman was doing these things. I was the crazy woman that was screaming bloody murder. You could hear my blood curling screams all through the floor. Im pretty sure I even scared some of the staff. Hell, I scared myself with those screams of horror. But I could not stop. The nurses that were supporting me said "shhhh be quite" and I replied with "IM GOING TO SCREAM IF I WANT TO AND YOU CANT STOP ME!!" She then said "you are wasting energy" and I replied with "I DONT CARE!!" I dont know how I composed myself enough to reply to her and not cuss her out but there you go, my screaming banshee woman that took over was polite too haha! This went on for only about 20 min and then she started to crown. OMG, the ring of fire... wow... let me just say it aint no ring and for me it didnt last seconds. I have no words to describe it. And you know that pain scale they have in the hospital from 1-10? Well my number for the pain doesnt even exist yet. Yeah.<br><br>
So I felt her head come out and I thought that was it and kind of took a breath of air to relax only to realize it wasnt over yet. My body was still pushing and the pain was getting worse. WORSE PEOPLE! and then I felt the shoulders... wow... the shoulders... that was another ring of fire or tear of fire or whatever of fire you want to call it. Heck fire might have actually been better. I thought I was going to tear up into my most sensitive area. I felt I was pushing so hard my organs were going to come out of my butt... seriously. I even envisioned my uterus coming out... these crazy thoughts while laboring ha ha! At 6:21 am my daughter was born. All 9 pounds, 4 ounces of her. Yes, you heard me right, almost 9 1/2 pounds! After they announced the weight my mouth dropped i could not believe it. For a split second I honestly thought they had the wrong baby. She was 20 1/2 inches long btw. It was amazing. I needed 5 stitches and sewing me up was quite the painful experience as well. Well technically I didnt feel the stitches but the needle to give me the pain med for the stitches was excruciating.<br><br>
So while my birth wasnt a calm or blissful event, it was intervention free, all natural, baby and I are doing great and I felt awesome just hours after birth. I dont think I could have asked for anything more. So without further waiting I introduce you to Geneva Genesis (nickname Gigi) :<br><br><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4594279562/" target="_blank">http://www.flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/4594279562/</a>
 

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She's beautiful! Congratulations!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Wows! Nice job mama! you did it! you did it! you did it!<br><br>
Have an awesome babymoon! How's BF going?
 

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holy cow is she gorgeous! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> What a beautiful baby girl! Congratulations, OPM!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><br><br><br>
And I am totally impressed at your composure with the nurse who told you to quiet down and that you were wasting your energy. I can't imagine in the same situation that I wouldn't have responded with a word that rhymes with truck and "off" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . My theory is this-- if the hospital doesn't want loud laboring women to scare other laboring women they should get better soundproofing on the L&D rooms. Good job birthing your big and healthy baby girl!
 

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DDC crashing to wish you much joy! Your daughter is absolutely beautiful!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congrats! What a powerful birthing and you really did great getting through it and doing all that work! She is beautiful and I love the hair clip! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Awesome job mama!!! She's gorgeous <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congratulations. She is just lovely!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Congratulations!!
 

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Congratulations OPM, she's beautiful! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congratulations!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Your daughter is beautiful.<br><br>
FYI with my daughter I also totally lost control during the pushing phase and was screaming my head off. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> But like you it was worth it because I had an all natural intervention free birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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GiGi is beautiful mama, and what a GREAT stroy!! I was on the edge of my seat reading this. You did a wonderful job and I'm so proud of you. Congratulations mama, and thanks again for sharing your story!!!
 

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oh my! gigi is gorgeous!<br>
congrats on having your natural birth - even if it wasn't blissful, you did what you needed to do to birth your baby! you should be so proud of yourself!
 

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So glad that you advocated for yourself and did exactly what you needed during labor. Many congrats on your much wishedfor healthy baby girl!
 

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Wow! She's stunning! Congratulations x 10,000.... And you go mama! What a wild story! I'm so proud of you for powering on through great intimidation, nausea, raw pain and every other kind of obstacle that could be thrown at you. You were unstoppable! Woohoo!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congrats, mama! So happy for you and Gigi. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Congratulations!!!!<br>
I was giggling....NERVOUSLY...reading your story.<br>
I hope you heal up real quick!
 
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