my brother is concerned for my son

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No2Circ

Discussion Starter · Apr 16, 2006

So, I hear from my sister, who heard it from my mother, that my brother (whom I don't talk to much) is concerned that my almost 4 yo. will get teased in high school for being intact.

Now, he can't remember my son's birthday, but has time to worry about whether or not my son will get teased a decade from now?

I just don't get people sometimes.

He's almost four years old! Yes, I left him intact! Get over it already!!

Thanks for letting me vent.

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Ruthla

· #2 · Apr 16, 2006

Why on earth is your brother so concerned about his nephew's penis?

No2Circ

Discussion Starter · #3 · Apr 16, 2006

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Originally Posted by Ruthla
Why on earth is your brother so concerned about his nephew's penis?

He's concerned that I made the wrong choice, obviously. But not concerned enough to talk to me himself! (Or too chicken--he knows he'd get an earful.) I find the whole thing rather funny, in an annoying way.

alegna

· #4 · Apr 16, 2006

I think that you need to send back a message (through the same round-about path...) that you are SO worried that your brother won't be able to get it up soon because his penis has become so desensitized....

-Angela

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~Megan~

· #5 · Apr 16, 2006

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Originally Posted by Ruthla
Why on earth is your brother so concerned about his nephew's penis?

I'm not sure this is totally odd. I feel sad for my nephew who was circumcised. I'd feel sad for any boy who was and if I could I'd try to prevent it.

~Megan~

· #6 · Apr 16, 2006

oh, and to the OP. I'd take this as an opportunity to educate him on circ rates and other info.

DaddyJoe

· #7 · Apr 16, 2006

It's pretty simple. By being pro-intact, you are basically suggesting that there is something wrong with his penis. That it is damaged. He's just trying to come up with some way of reassuring himself that his penis is awesome and there is something wrong with his nephew's penis. Ego. It's sad, isn't it? On the other hand, it kind of sucks that our generation's model is slowly going out of style. There's going to be a lot of miffed men when intact is "in" and cut it out.

No2Circ

Discussion Starter · #8 · Apr 16, 2006

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Originally Posted by alegna
I think that you need to send back a message (through the same round-about path...) that you are SO worried that your brother won't be able to get it up soon because his penis has become so desensitized....

-Angela

that is hilarious!!!!!

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No2Circ

Discussion Starter · #9 · Apr 16, 2006

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Originally Posted by DaddyJoe
It's pretty simple. By being pro-intact, you are basically suggesting that there is something wrong with his penis. That it is damaged. He's just trying to come up with some way of reassuring himself that his penis is awesome and there is something wrong with his nephew's penis. Ego. It's sad, isn't it?

You're absolutely right. I just find it stunning that my brother hasn't gotten over it, four years later.

Bm31

· #10 · Apr 16, 2006

I agree with DaddyJoe. The whole teasing thing is just some mythology circ'd men buy into to make themselves feel better.

Frankly Speaking

· #11 · Apr 16, 2006

Somebody has said "The biggest problem intact men have is that somebody thinks they have a problem." Obviously, it's your brother that has the problem!

Frank

LoveChild421

· #12 · Apr 16, 2006

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Originally Posted by alegna
I think that you need to send back a message (through the same round-about path...) that you are SO worried that your brother won't be able to get it up soon because his penis has become so desensitized....

-Angela

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zaftigmama

· #13 · Apr 16, 2006

I was going to say exactly what DaddyJoe said. You're sending him a message that there's something wrong with him and he's defensive.

When you send back the message that you're worried about your brother not being able to get it up, you can include your sadness for his sexual partners as well.

Even if he's too chicken-shit to call you, call him. Let him know his message got to you and there's absolutely nothing for him to worry about. Your son is perfect as he is. With the circ rates falling, he won't be enough of a minority to get teased when he's in the locker room.

Take care!

LavenderMae

· #14 · Apr 16, 2006

No one can use that one with us because we homeschool but even if we didn't it still wouldn't be a concern.
I like Angela's suggestion!!

`guest`

· #15 · Apr 16, 2006

I don't think that he is feeling you are sending a mssg that something is wrong with him (the brother), I think that's overthinking it. Hello, talking about a guy here, and a penis. Pretty simple. he's worried the son will be teased.
In high school, anyone who is diff is teased. However, instilling in your son that he is great the way he is, being different, is important. There was a guy in hs who was pretty much the most popular guy, football, baseball, track, etc. and he was intact. (how do I know this

The other guys didn't tease him, because he was just himself and he was strong in himself. You will get teased for something, sometime, esp in HS just give your son that strength in himself, so it won't bug him or hurt his self esteem. You made a beautiful choice for your son, and that's what matters.

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njeb

· #16 · Apr 16, 2006

The whole locker room excuse is bs, anyway. When I first started posting here over a year ago, I asked my then 17 year old ds if he'd ever been teased for being intact. He said no, that anyone commenting on his penis would be the one teased for looking at another guy's equipment. We live in a very high-circ. area, too; I wouldn't be surprised if my ds was the only intact guy in his class.

Also, your ds probably won't have to worry. The circ. rate is falling in the U.S., so he won't be the only intact boy in his class.

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Marsupialmom

· #17 · Apr 16, 2006

I would inform my brother that his concern over my child's penis is making him wonder about his sexual preference.............humm that might be a good way for your son to respond (point that out to your problem).

Lets face it in high school if your son said "Stop looking at my dick, what is wrong with you." Things will stop. I know my ex had an hairy butt and was teased until he said something simular.

Microsoap

· #18 · Apr 16, 2006

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Originally Posted by DaddyJoe
It's pretty simple. By being pro-intact, you are basically suggesting that there is something wrong with his penis. That it is damaged. He's just trying to come up with some way of reassuring himself that his penis is awesome and there is something wrong with his nephew's penis. Ego. It's sad, isn't it? On the other hand, it kind of sucks that our generation's model is slowly going out of style. There's going to be a lot of miffed men when intact is "in" and cut it out.

Well said, DaddyJoe. I'd also like to add that I graduated h.s. in 1994 and after a couple of years in P.E., I can tell you we DIDN'T have to shower AT ALL. And from what I know of today's high school crowd, showering doesn't happen in U.S. gym class any longer and hasn't for quite a while now. No teasing.

So... if a child is born w/ one testicle, ALL boys should have one removed to match? Do you see the illogic in all of this insanity?

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No2Circ

Discussion Starter · #19 · Apr 17, 2006

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Originally Posted by Microsoap

So... if a child is born w/ one testicle, ALL boys should have one removed to match? Do you see the illogic in all of this insanity?

Of course I do.

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DahliaRW

· #20 · Apr 17, 2006

I've mentioned this before, but they ONLY time I ever overheard "male teasing" (when I was in Jr. High the opposing team's wrestling team used the girls locker room and occassionally after softball games no one would tell us they were in there and we'd walk in - oooops) was a guy being teased because HE WAS CIRC'D! I really don't think it happens much though. Of course, this was WA, but in my generation the circ rate is still pretty high. It's my son's generation that it's dropped to near 30%.

Oh, and we NEVER showered after gym, and I graduated in 1998. So I'd guess the same is true now. The only time the showers were used was usually after early morning sport's practices, and at least on the girl's side everyone averted their eyes - so I'd imagine it's similar with boys.

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