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My DS (1) has been biting kids at daycare. This happened a few weeks ago where he bit 3 kids at DC, then stopped for 3 weeks. ( I thought the phase had passed or that teeth came in). Then for the past two days he has apparently been targeting a little girl also 1 at daycare and has bit her 3 times. I feel horrible about it.....and we have been working with him at home on not biting people. He had been biting me for quite awhile, and I would explain to him why we don't bite, it hurts mama, etc. I know that he's only 1 and really doesn't get the explanation, but I feel like I have to say something. I have even yelped a bit when he bit me really hard and caused a large bruise.....I thought the yelping would have made a difference too, but it hasn't seemed to.<br><br>
If anyone has ideas or has experienced this I would greatly appreciate the feedback. I remember when I was looking for daycare, I specifically asked about biting, because I assumed my DS would be the bitee, not the biter. I feel so bad for the kids that he as bit, and worry about how their parents feel about having their kids bit at daycare. I also worry about my DS losing friends at Daycare, or having kids be scared of him because they are thinking he is going to bite them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I often think (or make an excuse) that it is teething....it often seems to correlate when he is getting a new tooth. I should also let you know that when I try to give him something he can bite, he isn't interested in that...teethers, wash cloths, fabric, etc.
 

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Just wanted to say my little guy (2) is biting at home and I am at a complete loss. I never thought this would be my kid. You are not alone!<br><br>
~Tracy
 

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Ugh...biting. I am the parent of 3 bitee's. My kids never went through the biting stage but all three have been/are the targets of the little stinkers who are in it. It's a natural phase, especially between 12 & 18 months. Teething combined w/frustration for lack of ability to verbally communicate their needs. I swear, I wanted to cry last week when my little guy (8 months) came home w/a big bite mark on his arm. 3rd time around, though...I understand it's a phase.<br><br>
My day care tries to shadow the biter as much as possible and remove them when they're too close to the other kids. Timing is crucial too. Over tired kids bite more often (I'm told).<br><br>
Hopefully your little one passes through this stage quickly. It's no fun. I sometimes think it'd be just as hard to be the parent of the biter.....although the biter doesn't have teeth marks left behind.
 

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My niece used to bite us, and it was always when she was overtired. Is your little guy getting enough sleep at daycare? Are they following his cues or is he on a classroom schedule?
 

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I'm also looking for advice for my twins.
 

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My DD was the bitee too - the trick for the babysitter we shared with our friend's DD who was the biter was to basically shadow the biter, as the PP mentioned. For her it was when she was tired, when they'd begun playing more rough (bouncing on floor cushions, running around like maniacs, etc), and when she was teething. She was also aggressive in other ways (tackling, VERY painful hugging). Things that started as hugs and kisses would rapidly escalate into a full body tackle and massive bites (with flowing blood and everything. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">).<br><br>
Both forms of aggressiveness ended up all being intertwined - she would basically attack both with biting and hitting/tackling when she got over excited. The babysitter used to take her aside and play hard with her for a little while in a safe and controlled way (tossing her into a pile of cushions, lifting her in the air, etc) that would sort of get it out of her system. Then after all the excitement, the sitter would begin doing some more calm activities with both kids together and things went much more smoothly.<br><br>
It's a tough tough time. I'm not sure I can really suggest much since yours is at daycare. It seems like your DCP should have experience with this. I know our friends were mortified when they'd see Adia and it made me feel bad too b/c I know it's not their fault. I hope the parents of the bitees of your child can try to see it from your perspective. Good luck!!
 
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