[Gigi2214]

Hi...
I'm a stay at home mom of 2 babies. I'm 23 and my daughter is 2yrs and 5mths and my son is 11 mths so my hands are full!

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My husband and I have Comcast cable and have the DVR that is like Tivo and we can fast forward and pause anything. Well, my daughter has gotten so spoiled by this that whenever the cable goes down or we accidentally erase one of the cartoons she throws a fit. She has been very good with the "terrible 2 tantrums" but I really don't know how to act towards this.

Can anyone relate to this?

 

[MamaBug]

Moving this to Toddlers

 

[octobermom]

We also have the DVR I like many things about it and over all dont want to give it up but we have had to inforce some very real boundries. 1) TV is rare we dont forbid it but honestly we just keep busy with other things DH and I like a small handfull of stuff we record it and see it after DD is alseep ussualy and TV may be used a litle more if someones sick ect.. but our rules are
1) we sit and watch while I hate children vegging in front of a TV we found it was way worse to have it "just on" so if she wants to watch Clifford she sits down with me and watches it she can hve water but we dont eat infront of the TV (sit down have a snack then you can see a show) when the shows over TV goes bye and its shut off untill the nexttime.
2) no fast fowarding though commercials most of her shows are comecial free but we do have some with comercials. FF or skipping made her hyper and impatient.
3) WIth the exception of some movies we have recorded and show on our family movie night once a program is watched it gets deleted. We have plenty over time to have to choose from but over all when the eposide is over it gets deleted.
4) no whinning you may ask you may say pretty please you can not like the answer stick out your lip and sulk but I will not tollorate tantrums and meltdowns because I say no TV or enough. If we get melt downs TV goes off completely ussually for a few days. Its not to punish its just if its going to cause that much "pain" its going away for a while and we will find other fun things to do instead.

Deanna

 

[limabean]

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Originally Posted by octobermom 2) no fast fowarding though commercials most of her shows are comecial free but we do have some with comercials. FF or skipping made her hyper and impatient.

I've found the same thing. At first, we fell into the trap of rewinding and letting him see particularly funny parts over and over again, but now he says, "Again" all the time, so I've started not manipulating the speed at all while he's watching.

I also noticed that he'd watch 5 minutes of one show and then ask for a different show, then ask for something else 5 minutes later. So, now the rule is we choose one show and then either watch it or turn the TV off and do something else -- no flipping between shows or watching half of one and half of another.

TiVo even affects *my* brain -- I'm so used to fast-forwarding commercials (or rewinding to replay parts I don't hear) that I find myself reaching for the radio dial to try to RW or FF in the car!

I love lots of stuff about TiVo, but it definitely has the potential to decrease patience and shorten the attention span, IMO.

 

[Gigi2214]

Hi Limabean..

omg! ahahhaah

My husband and I have said the same exact thing. It has gotten to the point that my attention span has gone nuts. My daughter is in her chatter box stage so we pause the TV all the time because she goes on and on..

I definitely will have to try that. Only have one show on at a time. Having cartoons on definitely helps when I have to cook.

 

[WinterBaby]

My daughter and niece are preschoolers now, but have TiVo in both their respective homes, and have always been TiVo spoiled. We never really have issues at home, but when we go to other people's homes or are staying at a hotel, trying to explain we can't pause the show to use the bathroom/eat/play or rewind and watch that funny bit again a few more times becomes tedious and doesn't seem to sink in or go over well. Heck, pause is the remote feature my daughter has masteresd, heh. Not so bad I guess that TV you'd like to see is one of those things you put on hold for real life instead of the other way 'round. In all the homes they're normally in, there's Tivo, so they get awfully put out it's not a universal television viewing thing. But then again, so do I, LOL.

 

[dynamohumm6]

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TiVo even affects *my* brain -- I'm so used to fast-forwarding commercials (or rewinding to replay parts I don't hear) that I find myself reaching for the radio dial to try to RW or FF in the car!

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I do the same thing.

 

[CookieMonsterMommy]

You could wean her off the tv all together.

Or have her go cold turkey.

 

[Gigi2214]

I couldn't do that... my poor babies.. I give them their share of T.V. I feel it's part of being a kid. Like everythingin life, you outgrow it. It helps me get things done around the house. She's been better about it in the last few days. I've been keeping it on one cartoon at a time. If she isn't watching then I'll turn it off. I try not to FF or Rew infront of her

that's a little hard.. we are all victims by this!

 

[St. Margaret]

Shucks, I always thought having a DVR would be great because we could record stuff (for older kids) and skip the commercials. I know by the time I have kids old enough to watch any TV the corps will have changed how they advertise (more in the shows, etc.) but still, actual commercials are my #1 most hated part of TV. I loved that we could not have to buy videos but just record stuff and skip the more overt propaganda, lol. Well, by the time they watch TV, maybe they'll be able to be calm about FF. And it's still a good feature for older kids, I guess.

I am spoiled by DVR, too-- I LURVE being able to stop and rewind. I do it constantly when I'm watching something with Italian in it so I can try to figure out what they are saying (I am learning Italian) and when I am somewhere else and can't stop it, I get frustrated!

 

[marylanza]

Since all of you in this thread have experience with DVR's and Tivo...have any of you tried the new KidZone feature that Tivo has come out with?

A friend of mine has it and loves it...but she is such and evangelist for Tivo! Have any of the Tivo users in this thread tried it?

I plan on getting one if it truly does what it says.

Thanks,

Marly Lanza

 

[gigi22]

No, I'm not sure what you mean. What I have is DVR with comcast cable. I have On Demand which has all the cartoons when I want. Everything from Noggin (my favorite)

, Nick Jr., PBS....etc.

What is Kidzone like?

 

[CookieMonsterMommy]

gigi, you're not allowed to have 2 separate accounts here...

But on topic (sort of), you really might want to look into what the AAP and WHO has to say about young children and TV watching. Very interesting stuff. If you're interested I'll post links.

 

[TurboClaudia]

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Originally Posted by limabean TiVo even affects *my* brain -- I'm so used to fast-forwarding commercials (or rewinding to replay parts I don't hear) that I find myself reaching for the radio dial to try to RW or FF in the car!

: me, too...

~claudia

 

[octobermom]

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Originally Posted by CookieMonsterMommy You could wean her off the tv all together. Or have her go cold turkey.

Weve gone TV free we nearly killed each other

: One of the icky things about apartment livng in an area that reaches 125 on average during the summer. I know we don't need it and luckily we had more space when she was younger and even now she averages maybe 1-3 hours total in a week, its just not something we are totally willing to give up.

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Deanna

 

[CookieMonsterMommy]

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Originally Posted by octobermom Weve gone TV free we nearly killed each other : One of the icky things about apartment livng in an area that reaches 125 on average during the summer. I know we don't need it and luckily we had more space when she was younger and even now she averages maybe 1-3 hours total in a week, its just not something we are totally willing to give up. : Deanna

That's what works for your family.

Maybe this is what "works" for Gigi's family too. But I'm just mentioning this because there are hints in the post that this little girl is addicted to the TV, if not at least highly dependent upon it's being on (as is mom).

The GD (Gentle Discipline) forum will be able to offer awsome advice on handling temper tantrums.

Kelly

 

[Gigi2214]

I logged on by mistake. I was trying to figure out my password and forgot I had another account which is gigi22. This is not the one I use. After I posted is when I realized I logged in under that name.

 

[Gigi2214]

I must say that in these past few days, I've been talking to DD about this Tivo craze and she has made a dramatic change. When she starts whining and getting cranky over a cartoon.. I tell her to say mami (whatever cartoon she wants to watch).. and please. When she's not watching she's fine with it and I turn it off and we'll do some activities together. I think it was more my fault for giving in. I do a lot of chores around the house so sometimes I wouldn't realize it and just give in.
Overall, I can't complain.. she just likes to relax when we aren't doing any activities and lay on her little couch bed and watch some t.v. I see no harm in that.

 

[octobermom]

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That's what works for your family. Maybe this is what "works" for Gigi's family too. But I'm just mentioning this because there are hints in the post that this little girl is addicted to the TV, if not at least highly dependent upon it's being on (as is mom). The GD (Gentle Discipline) forum will be able to offer awsome advice on handling temper tantrums. Kelly

Yep I agree, TV is an occasional enjoyment around here it works for our family but I totally agree even small amounts can be too much for some kids. We've on occasion allowed too much (ussually around a illiness) and I can see my DD start to go

: and I have to pull back or even say no more for a few days. TV around her is a "treat" and treated as such.

 

[octobermom]

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Originally Posted by Gigi2214 I must say that in these past few days, I've been talking to DD about this Tivo craze and she has made a dramatic change. When she starts whining and getting cranky over a cartoon.. I tell her to say mami (whatever cartoon she wants to watch).. and please. When she's not watching she's fine with it and I turn it off and we'll do some activities together. I think it was more my fault for giving in. I do a lot of chores around the house so sometimes I wouldn't realize it and just give in. Overall, I can't complain.. she just likes to relax when we aren't doing any activities and lay on her little couch bed and watch some t.v. I see no harm in that.

Sounds like things are getting better. We basically keep busy so there just isn't much time for TV anyways. Also she really oly has 3 shows she really likes Clifford, Seseme street, and Max and Ruby/