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After listening to him for almost A YEAR whine, b*tch, moan and complain about having to use cloth diapers, I finally started looking up stuff about EC. We have a 2.5 year old who has a toilet AVERSION. Could this be because, ahem, we've forced him to tune out the "Oh, it's gross to poop on myself" reflex?<br><br>
One morning after trying to explain prefolds and a snappi to my husband, he said (of our 3 month old daughter) "Why don't you just do that Eskimo poop thing?" He was referring to a woman I know who explained that most cultures EC, example: Eskimo babies would have frozen poop stuck to them. Or something like that. We jokingly referred to it as the "Eskimo poop" method, aka something done by crazy people with way too much time on their hands.<br><br>
Now I *KNOW* that I'm crazy. I'm vegan, I had a homebirth, I named a kid Emrys. But I don't think I'm crazy because I want to EC. I think I'm pretty damned smart. I'm just so discouraged now... DH flat out REFUSED to have anything to do with it. I feel like crying.<br><br>
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That sounds frustrating. But you don't need to have his support to do EC! You can do EC part time, just make an effort to be consistent. When he's out, do naked butt or cloth. When he's home, you can just take babe to the bathroom for changing, offer potty, communicate, and they'll get it. "The proof is in the pudding" and all that.
 

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I agree with laurata...you don't need his support. My DH doesn't support or not support EC, he just thinks "whatever". He thinks it's cool that dd will use the potty though. (she is almost 4 m/o) He never takes her potty...he says "she doesn't like it when I take her...she cries." it's just an excuse, but I don't care. EC is awesome and I highly recommend it! the time to start is now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Good luck! Don't be discouraged!
 

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Hi,<br><br>
DH to mamalex writing here: I'm a veteran daddy of 14 month old Eliah. We started EC with him when he was 5.5 months old, and it's been an interesting road. At first, I thought it was a little bit much...we actually took him potty when he was a few days old (we knew about EC then) but the whole thing seemed like too much work to me. We were (and still are) learing how to be parents and didn't need the added complication of taking our baby pee and poop.....I mean, babies are supposed to wear diapers, right? It wasn't until after trying EC couple of months that I really understood how amazing it really was. I think it's important for the dad to be involved. It also was a way for me to communicate and connect with him...It helped me learn how to recognize and respond to his needs, and he learned that I was there for him. At this point I can ask him if he needs to go pee and he'll tell me yes or no. We still miss pees now and then...usually when I'm distracted doing dishes...but "potty training" really isn't the point here. We're connecting and communicating with our little human. Everything else follows naturally, I think. Once you catch a few pees, it's tough to go back. Also, try not to assign blame for misses because all you've got to do is clean it up and get the next one (or not).<br><br>
ps.-he's now 14 mos and out of diapers during the day since 12 mos <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jammin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jammin">
 

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im sorry.. you can do ECing parttime on your own. my DH didn't do ECing at the beginning basically because I'm SAHM and I'm with dd all day so I'm more willing to let her be naked or go without plastic cover on fitteds. In the mornings he gets up early with dd while I sleep in another hour or so. He would leave dd in diapers and change whenever she's wet. But then later he was willing to try put her on potty first thing in the morning. He felt so good when he "caught" her in dry diaper and pee in potty instead. He became more connected and became more interested and aware when dd needs to go in potty ... he was changing 3 diapers while I was sleeping in the morning into no diapers within 3 months. It takes time and patience but I gave him extra time to get used to the idea.
 

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I dreamed about catching a pee last night! :LOL I must really have the "EC bug", huh? I'm off to Toys R Us to get a Baby Bjorn potty--- I have a friend who ECed her son and I'm meeting her tomorrow so she can show me how to hold Izzy, who is apparently NOT liking the way I'm holding her now. So thanks everyone for the support--- I realized that, like most of the things I do, DH will probably clue in a little while later. When I first told him I didn't want to circ our son, he was like, "What on earth are you talking about?!?!" and now he's the biggest no-circ advocate this side of the Mason-Dixon line. Same thing with homebirth, homeschooling, no vaxing... all in all he's a good guy, but like most men (excluding the ones on MDC <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) he's pretty clueless.<br><br>
A friend asked me for some "late-starter" info. Anybody have a good link?<br><br>
Thanks!<br>
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Three months is not late-starting. Most families start around 3 months. The first window is before 6 months, after that they are considered latestarters, malnly due to increased mobility. We had more trouble with Ben at 12 months because he could get up and walk away. You may want to join one of the yahoo groups for EC, they are very helpful and full of information.
 

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My DH was like that when I came up with the EC idea!! He was like "Oh no, what is it now??" He did not wanna do it, but I sticked to it and after few weeks he was getting really excited about it and realized what a great "thing" it was.
 

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:LOL My friend's baby is 18 months. At that point, is it EC or regular potty-training?
 

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babies r us sells baby bjorn little potty $9.99<br><br>
and my dd started ecing 7.5mo .... she prefers to sit on BBLP on her own than me holding over sink or tub. thats the difference in early starter and late starter... shes more idependent and doesnt go pee if im holding her on her legs like newborn babies r while peeing IMO
 

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I think your DH will come around eventually, who can resist a little 3 mo old on a potty smiling after a poop? Come on! I did all the work when we first started, but DH joined in after a few weeks. Now he takes her when I'm busy with something. At your baby's age, she might like sitting on the potty more than being held (mine is like that). Have fun ECing! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My DH wasn't the most supportive. He wasn't against it, but he wasn't totally for it either, and only recently will he take DS potty (He's almost 3!)<br><br>
He can't deny that it DID work. It reduced the amount of diapers we used, and DS2 was trained MUCH earlier than DS1. Basically, since I am the SAHM, I do all of the diaper changing and diaper laundry, if I decide to take his diaper off and hold him over the potty it's not going to hurt DH. He did actually brag about his 4 mo DS using the potty a few times. LOL! Then again he also said several times when we were having a rough week "Just put a diaper on him!" (Like THAT would improve his awareness and help him in any way!) I DID use diapers on him for a while, just because with 3 other kids to chase after, I was stressed by the idea of no diaper at all, and stress is NOT good for EC.<br><br>
So, kudos to you for havong an open mind and looking into EC. I hope the "eskimo poop" method works for you as well as it has for us!
 
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