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and it's a really bad day in the Red Tent, & I just feel like biting anyone who gets close to me.<br><br>
How do I express, "Darling, I love you, & you have been so kind, but I am irascible & want to kill things & don't really feel like cuddling and watching a chick-flick tonight after all- I just want to sit with my heating pad & eat dark chocolate."?<br><br>
Because I really don't, and I am afraid I am going to snarl something rude. Is there a nice way to say, "Dear, tonight I am an asshat, & <b>I</b> don't even want to be near me."<br><br>
I feel awful. He made Sesame Chicken & took the kids to a movie! He cleaned the kitchen up after himelf! He deserves er, something pleasant that men enjoy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">, not a cranky old bear!<br><br>
Sigh. This is one ugly period.
 

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I don't know, if your relationship is anything like mine he already knows anyway and is probably expecting you to say what you posted <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I usually just say something like, you know honey if you'd like to play World of Warcraft (insert your partners favorite pastime done at home that you aren't needed for) you can..........long pause as he gets the hint <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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If I told Dh to go play WoW he'd have me checked into a pysch unit <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. I'd better think of plan B. (We had previous issues.)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Because I really don't, and I am afraid I am going to snarl something rude. Is there a nice way to say, "Dear, tonight I am an asshat, & <b>I</b> don't even want to be near me."</div>
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I would say just that. He knows you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
I hope you'll feel better soon.
 

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I got lucky, he ended up tired himself & we have a raincheck for tonight. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I have days like that but my DH just doesn't get it sometimes.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Because I really don't, and I am afraid I am going to snarl something rude. Is there a nice way to say, "Dear, tonight I am an asshat, & <b>I</b> don't even want to be near me."</div>
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Actually, I say it just like that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I always figured it was fair to give both dd and SO warning when I'm in one of those moods. I've also been known to come home from work and announce I'm giving myself a timeout for 20 minutes because I'm crabby. Then I go and soak my feet or have a shower, and they stay out of my way until I can un-crab myself a little.
 

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Me too...I call it my "disclaimer." I figure he can't read my mind, thank goodness, so I need to give him a heads up...a running start, I guess you could say. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Because I really don't, and I am afraid I am going to snarl something rude. Is there a nice way to say, "Dear, tonight I am an asshat, & <b>I</b> don't even want to be near me."</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Actually, I say it just like that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I always figured it was fair to give both dd and SO warning when I'm in one of those moods. I've also been known to come home from work and announce I'm giving myself a timeout for 20 minutes because I'm crabby. Then I go and soak my feet or have a shower, and they stay out of my way until I can un-crab myself a little.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I too usually just say it like it is...and dh appreciates it...and his eyes twinkle 'cuz I know he's secretly thinking "sheesh, she's being an asshat..." and since I'M the one who said it.... Malice I think it's great to give yourself a time out sometimes... I've started telling dd too recently (she's almost 2) that she simply has to WAIT while mommy eats dinner sometimes (before I am again at her beck and call) because if mommy doesn't eat she gets CRABBY! It works. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 
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