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for Sept. 12-17. So, that would be my late 38th/early 39th week. In Ft. Bliss, TX, which is 18 hours away by car.<br><br>
Would anyone like to take a gander at when my ds2 was born? That would be 38 weeks, 6 days.<br><br>
I bet he's going to miss the birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I bet he doesn't. I had my first two babies on their due dates. Dh had to be in CA on the due date of Baby 3. She wasn't born that day. In fact, he unexpectedly got to come home a few days after that. Then she came. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I was exactly a week "late". I totally think it was a mental block.
 

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Awwww....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
That's awful! It's only five days, though. A baby has a much bigger window of when it could be born (my two births were 10 days apart). I really, really hope your baby stays put during that time. Our bodies often know when birthing circumstances aren't right...I wonder if maybe your baby will come earlier or later? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">
 

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Sorry mama! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
That being said, read the book "She Births" there is a powerful birth meditation that includes picking the time and place of your birth. I wanted to have my baby in the middle of the night in my bathroom (I know it sounds odd), I read the meditation many times and when I got stuck in a long transition in the living room my MW suggested I go take a bath and not one minute into the process I was on all fours and 3 pushes later had my ds#2 (it was 5am, still dark).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">for Sept. 12-17. So, that would be my late 38th/early 39th week. In Ft. Bliss, TX, which is 18 hours away by car.<br><br>
Would anyone like to take a gander at when my ds2 was born? That would be 38 weeks, 6 days.<br><br>
I bet he's going to miss the birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"></div>
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DDC Crashing to ask if you are talking about PCS (a move to a new unit) or a Deployment? if it is a PCS move, you can file for a deferment or to go early, based on hardship and other things, we filed ours because his date would make me miss finals at school. He will find out more when he starts getting paperwork to fill out.
 

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*hugs*
 

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My dh is actually a reservist and this is for a class he has to take (so it is the 5 days and no more). It was originally scheduled for August but got moved to September at the last minute. I asked him if it was something he could reschedule, but this is the only offering for the rest of the year and now that orders have been cut he can't cancel anyway.<br><br>
I'm hoping the mental block will be enough to keep baby in until he gets home. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Well I will cross my finger during that time and you cross your legs and we'll all wish for the best.<br><br>
I totally understand how this is frustrating, any way he can try to get back in the early class. Maybe if he told his branch manager, s/he could keep am eye out for the chance to swap someone who wants to delay.<br>
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That's so not fair!(((hugs))) I hope that the baby chooses the date wisely.<br>
My first three births were all a bit of will he be there type.My third I even tried calling DHs command since they were being unreasonable( I personally knew 5 other mothers whose DH were allowed to stay home and mine was supposed to be leaving the ship soon so he wasn't essential anymore they were just being uncool)My second baby DH would have been home at 36 weeks and at 32 weeks the deployment was extended so he didn't come home til 2 weeks after the birth.<br>
Do you have a support system in case he isn't home?Hiring a doula really saved me for my second birth since I had to go to back up plan C.Sigh with the military even reserves it's always best to use pencil on the calendar and have a back up plan.
 

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I bet he won't miss the birth, it's only 5 days and I think generally our bodies know the "right" time to birth. I know my body has always picked the perfect time, though admittedly it wasn't when I would have picked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Do you have help in case he is gone? And just as importantly, will you <i>ask for and/or accept</i> help in case he is gone? It will all work out. Are you planning a homebirth?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I hope it works out.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I bet he won't miss the birth, it's only 5 days and I think generally our bodies know the "right" time to birth. I know my body has always picked the perfect time, though admittedly it wasn't when I would have picked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
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I do have some help. My MIL will be coming to keep the boys during the birth and, since she doesn't work, could certainly stick around for a bit afterward.<br><br>
The big thing is labor support. If he is gone, I'm pretty sure I won't have anyone. My sister acted as my doula last time, but she is due 10 days before me. She says she'll do her best to make it, but if she has her baby before me she just won't be able to.<br><br>
I'm looking into doulas, but I really hate to spend the money on one, as terrible as that sounds. Especially not knowing if I need one or not. I don't even know if there are any in my area anyway (we are in a little blip of population surrounded by a lot of nothing).<br><br>
But I have no problem asking for help or letting others help. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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