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just a little background. I hadn't really considered HB until about a month ago. My first delivery was "standard" lol ..epidural, you name it. I was young, and very uneducated about what I could and couldn't have say in. My second I had a natural delivery in a hospital. I felt wonderful, except for all the darn nurses standing around INFRONT OF MY VIDEO CAMERA! ugh
I've been reading about HB stories and a few sites, and I just keep thinking how wonderful it would be to get to know when I needed to push, etc. Not have anyone tell me anything! To get to sleep in my own bed! Before I had thought that HB was scary and unassisted was even crazy. Then aha! Knowledge! I just almost drool at how wonderful the experience must be of having a baby at home. It is making me very unsatisified with the hospital experience. My doctor is okay, but I've heard he "loves" to give c-sections. I will be talking with him this next visit to really press him as to what I want from a hospital experience.
I've said a few things here and there to dh about what I've been reading. I finally asked him the other day, hypothetically, "IF we had the $$, and lived closer in town (we live in the boonies!), if he would CONSIDER a HB?" He was like no. It really made me upset. We have a very good relationship, so I was miffed at the brush off. I told him that I didn't expect him to jump on board, but the least he could do is hear me out and be knowledgeable on the subject before deciding. He said it is not something he wants to know anything about. Anything could happen he says. Then he goes into "does the MW have a crash cart, oxygen, etc, etc"? I explained that I didn't know it all, but I really wanted to learn. THEN he tries telling me how he knows I want a natural birth, etc, and I can have that in the hospital, what is so bad about it?, etc?
It made me so mad, I just quit talking. How can he even pretend to know what labor is like? I just feel so sad that he can't even support what I feel is important. Has anyone else had a partner that didn't agree with them?
I've been reading about HB stories and a few sites, and I just keep thinking how wonderful it would be to get to know when I needed to push, etc. Not have anyone tell me anything! To get to sleep in my own bed! Before I had thought that HB was scary and unassisted was even crazy. Then aha! Knowledge! I just almost drool at how wonderful the experience must be of having a baby at home. It is making me very unsatisified with the hospital experience. My doctor is okay, but I've heard he "loves" to give c-sections. I will be talking with him this next visit to really press him as to what I want from a hospital experience.
I've said a few things here and there to dh about what I've been reading. I finally asked him the other day, hypothetically, "IF we had the $$, and lived closer in town (we live in the boonies!), if he would CONSIDER a HB?" He was like no. It really made me upset. We have a very good relationship, so I was miffed at the brush off. I told him that I didn't expect him to jump on board, but the least he could do is hear me out and be knowledgeable on the subject before deciding. He said it is not something he wants to know anything about. Anything could happen he says. Then he goes into "does the MW have a crash cart, oxygen, etc, etc"? I explained that I didn't know it all, but I really wanted to learn. THEN he tries telling me how he knows I want a natural birth, etc, and I can have that in the hospital, what is so bad about it?, etc?
It made me so mad, I just quit talking. How can he even pretend to know what labor is like? I just feel so sad that he can't even support what I feel is important. Has anyone else had a partner that didn't agree with them?