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Its kinda a funny story and its kinda aggravating too ...<br><br>
My DH keeps making comments to my daughter that she is almost done nursing (she will be one on 11-1). I told him that I am not in a rush but he still makes the comments. He said it again this weekend and I said I am in no rush to wean her. And he said in all seriousness: "You're gonna nurse her until she is five, aren't you?" He finally gets it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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LOL!!<br><br>
Thankfully my DH totally supports me nursing my ds3! I tried soooo hard with ds2 with no success, he knew how bad it hurt me to not be able to, and FINIALLY I get to a year with my ds3 and MAN am I proud! DH knows I am so he is like.. you wean when your and ds3 are ready. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I love that man!
 

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good, maybe he'll keep quiet about it for 4 years and in the meantime enjoy how beneficial it is to your entire family! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Good, I'm glad he's going to get with the program! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
The other day at the park, I was chatting with an acquaintance. She nurses her 2 1/2 year old daughter at the park all the time- the little girl comes over for a flyby nursing and then runs off to play again. I always smile and have made nice comments about it, and she knows my 4 year old is nursing.<br><br>
But that day, when her daughter ran up and asked to nurse, the mom tried to put her off, offering a cup or a snack. The girl said no and really wanted to nurse, so eventually the mom let her. I laughed and remarked that mine was nursing all the time lately, to make her feel comfortable. I had never heard her mention weaning. Then she said<br><br>
"(DH) is getting ready for her to be done soon. He didn't want my older boys nursing for so long, but <i>his limit</i> goes up with each one!"<br><br>
I was speechless, truly. How does her DH get to set the limit? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I was only night nursing my 16 month old by the time he was 13 or 14 months, but somehow DH wasn't aware that it was still happening since he didn't see it during the day. He would be awake in the morning when ds asked to nurse: "Surse! Surse!" DH asked what he was saying, and I told him ds was saying "nurse" "He's still nursing? I didn't know you were still doing that." (DH often gets up really early and reads or gets on the computer while he waits for morning to come and get ready for work, so he's often out of bed before ds wakes.) That has happened a few times with DH forgetting or not noticing, then saying "I didn't know he was still nursing." It's kinda funny to me.<br><br>
He's never said when he thinks the babes should be weaned, but he's certainly aware of the mainstream assumption that babes only nurse for the first year.
 

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My dh understands under NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that my kids will nurse as long as THEY need to, he supports it, too, to whomever chooses to comment. However, I have heard him grumble that, as much as he likes the family bed, he'd love it if ds were done night nursing because he'd like to be able to just be NEAR me at night! Does your dh know all the benefits of nursing past a year? Perhaps if you made it a medical/psychological issue, and showed him how much of an advantage your child will have over others' kids, it'd help him get over the totally socially imposed aversion to his child nursing past a year!
 

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My 14.5 month old not only twiddles but likes to, how would you say it... cup my other breast with his whole hand and "jiggle"! I, too cannot nurse him without the other boob unencumbered or there will be problems! But sometimes the way he handles my breasts feels like the fasinated exploration of a teenage boy kwIm? My son twiddles, jiggles, strokes, and rubs the entire area. Sometimes he will even pop off the nursing breast to examine that nipple and give it some "hands on" attention. When he does that, he will often look up at me and giggle as if he's thinking, " Mommy has Boooobies, hehehe!"<br>
So what I have found though all of this is that I kind of don't like it too much when DH wants to do his own twiddling. Anyone else in that boat?<br><br><span style="color:#FF0000;">Oops replied to the wrong topic with this, please disregard.</span>
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My dh understands under NO UNCERTAIN TERMS that my kids will nurse as long as THEY need to, he supports it, too, to whomever chooses to comment. However, I have heard him grumble that, as much as he likes the family bed, he'd love it if ds were done night nursing because he'd like to be able to just be NEAR me at night! Does your dh know all the benefits of nursing past a year? Perhaps if you made it a medical/psychological issue, and showed him how much of an advantage your child will have over others' kids, it'd help him get over the totally socially imposed aversion to his child nursing past a year!</div>
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Just think, when they get older, your dc can sleep on the *outside* of the bed!
 

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My dh laughs at me because when I was pregnant I was only going to nurse 6 months, then I had the baby and decided to nurse for a year now ds is 6 months old and I am pretty sure we will do child led weaning.<br>
DH has started asking if I will have him weaned before high school :LOL
 

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Just tonight, dh asked aren't you almost done? (ds will be one nov. 9) I said no, he said I want my boobies back! Well no luck buddy... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> i know that he will support me as long as it is a good thing for both of us!
 

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I guess I'm kinda lucky...DH is NOT crunchy, but he puts up with me (usually <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">).<br><br>
When DD was about 9 months ( I think), I asked him how long he thought babies nursed for. He said "Hmmm...I dunno; like two I guess." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I weaned DD at 19 months ( I was 3 months pg), DS has just turned 21 months with no signs of wanting to stop nursing anytime soon, and I haven't heard any comments of the 'when are you going to be weaning him' variety; which I'm very grateful for <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Just think, when they get older, your dc can sleep on the *outside* of the bed!</div>
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Actually, he slept on the outside until he got old enough to move around. Now he's such an active sleeper that we put him in the middle to keep him from rolling right out. I suppose I could get a child's bed rail, but this has been the *free* option! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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