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Months ago I posted my horrors of living in this apartment. We're on the third floor, no yard, (now rats) and the neighbor below us had a week on calling the cops on us every single day for "noise" because my children were "playing too loud."<br><br>
Since that, I've been obsessive about keeping my kids quiet. No walking loud, omg stop running! No no skipping! No don't play doggy your knees are too loud on the floor. I know your baby sister likes you to play chase with her, but its too loud. No cars on the floor. The list of potential sources of noise go on and on...<br><br>
The floors are not well made here. Its an old old building with no sound proofing. When we walk across the living room floor it shakes everything on OUR walls and desks. I can hear the kids on the first floor playing and running and stomping, and thats with the 2nd floor in between us. So much of the problem isn't my fault. Its just the building.<br><br>
So anyway.. after awhile 2ndfloor admitted she was being a B*^&$ and that she was sorry. We eventually became friends. Not close friends or anything but we would talk. Since the first floor and I were okay neighbors, she became an okay one and we would all sit on the porch and talk, sometimes have dinner together, etc. Its been going well for over a year now.<br><br>
She left for another state to visit relatives for the week, and her kids stayed at the 1st floors house while the dh was working. I only saw them once the past week outside BBQing. I said "hi" for a few minutes and went on my way. Not to be snobby but I had to get dinner at the store.<br><br>
My dh comes up and tells me yesterday that firstfloor told him she is no longer friends with second floor. I'm like.. umm.. ok. They were much closer to each other than I was. (I just don't let myself latch onto people that way)<br><br>
So I was downstairs sitting on the porch yesterday when first floor comes out. She tells me why it all happened. (she was watching 2nd floors son, 11 yrs old and he trashed her house and got violent kicking and punching her. She's pregnant. She held his hands to restrain him and then called dad at work. Dad was fine with what she did, picked up son. Later son called mommy in another state and all hell broke loose. 2nd floor left 1st floor nasty messages on her phone threatening to put her hands on HER kids since she did it to hers, etc.. and called her names. They said they'd never speak to her again, etc.) I just listened and tried to remain impartial. I really hate getting in the middle of peoples fights.<br><br>
Then first floor said that its ok cause I was already in it anyway. I'm like HUH? She said that that week second floor had talked to her and told her that she's jealous of me because I flirt with her husband and want to sleep with him????! (he's um... not attractive at all.. and we're both married. I mean.. just.. NO. Never a possibility there.) She said that he says hello and goodbye only to me and never anyone else, and that at a birthday party the week before I took out my entire breast in front of him when I fed my baby. Um.. I've been nursing for almost four years. I think I know how to nurse without taking my whole breast out. But since of course.. I'm always flirting with him and want to sleep with him, it makes sense that I'd want to pull my whole breast out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Did I mention that my husband was sitting next to me when this all was supposedly happening?<br><br>
Then I found out that she has been calling housing behind my back and telling them that the trash issue (other tenants throwing it on the ground outside) is really just me doing it. When I know she knows it isn't us. And that our house is so messy that she called to tell them that too. Mind you, she's been inside here a handful of times unannounced and my vacuuming probably needed to be done with 2 cereal throwers in the house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But I specifically remember apologizing for the mess once, and she made this big "Oh this?! This isn't messy, besides you have kids. I know how it is. I would never come to a friends house and judge like that.It doesn't bother me at all!"<br><br>
She also asked first floor if I was at that BBQ and ate with them. "Was <i>Nature</i> there?" "Uh.. no. She only said hi and left." "<b>Good</b>!!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
So now... I'm feeling insecure. I haven't confronted her because she's a bit scary when she's like that. I honestly feel she's been taking peoples pills when she was out of state because.. she gets violently angry that is just.. not right. I don't feel like dealing with a screaming mad woman calling the cops and calling my kids names. I'm insulted about the whole, me wanting her husband thing. Really insulted. I mean, if she has a problem with HIM then she needs to take it up with him. If she wants me to ignore him, or stop talking to him in the hallway or whatever.. then FINE! I could have done that. I really don't give a crap about him. But to twist her own insecurities around as somehow being my fault? And to bring my kids and nursing into it? Hell I've nursed around them for the past 2 years. Its never been an issue. Suddenly I'm obscene and hitting on her husband.<br><br>
I'm sad and frustrated. We weren't true friends, but we at least got along.<br>
I thought.<br><br>
This petty S*&^ needs to stop. I hate the high school drama. Shame on me for even sticking my head out into the hallway and attempt to make friends with women.<br>
Women suck.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
While I wait for the cops to start showing up for noise complaints again... I'm gonna find a rock and crawl under it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
Since that, I've been obsessive about keeping my kids quiet. No walking loud, omg stop running! No no skipping! No don't play doggy your knees are too loud on the floor. I know your baby sister likes you to play chase with her, but its too loud. No cars on the floor. The list of potential sources of noise go on and on...<br><br>
The floors are not well made here. Its an old old building with no sound proofing. When we walk across the living room floor it shakes everything on OUR walls and desks. I can hear the kids on the first floor playing and running and stomping, and thats with the 2nd floor in between us. So much of the problem isn't my fault. Its just the building.<br><br>
So anyway.. after awhile 2ndfloor admitted she was being a B*^&$ and that she was sorry. We eventually became friends. Not close friends or anything but we would talk. Since the first floor and I were okay neighbors, she became an okay one and we would all sit on the porch and talk, sometimes have dinner together, etc. Its been going well for over a year now.<br><br>
She left for another state to visit relatives for the week, and her kids stayed at the 1st floors house while the dh was working. I only saw them once the past week outside BBQing. I said "hi" for a few minutes and went on my way. Not to be snobby but I had to get dinner at the store.<br><br>
My dh comes up and tells me yesterday that firstfloor told him she is no longer friends with second floor. I'm like.. umm.. ok. They were much closer to each other than I was. (I just don't let myself latch onto people that way)<br><br>
So I was downstairs sitting on the porch yesterday when first floor comes out. She tells me why it all happened. (she was watching 2nd floors son, 11 yrs old and he trashed her house and got violent kicking and punching her. She's pregnant. She held his hands to restrain him and then called dad at work. Dad was fine with what she did, picked up son. Later son called mommy in another state and all hell broke loose. 2nd floor left 1st floor nasty messages on her phone threatening to put her hands on HER kids since she did it to hers, etc.. and called her names. They said they'd never speak to her again, etc.) I just listened and tried to remain impartial. I really hate getting in the middle of peoples fights.<br><br>
Then first floor said that its ok cause I was already in it anyway. I'm like HUH? She said that that week second floor had talked to her and told her that she's jealous of me because I flirt with her husband and want to sleep with him????! (he's um... not attractive at all.. and we're both married. I mean.. just.. NO. Never a possibility there.) She said that he says hello and goodbye only to me and never anyone else, and that at a birthday party the week before I took out my entire breast in front of him when I fed my baby. Um.. I've been nursing for almost four years. I think I know how to nurse without taking my whole breast out. But since of course.. I'm always flirting with him and want to sleep with him, it makes sense that I'd want to pull my whole breast out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Did I mention that my husband was sitting next to me when this all was supposedly happening?<br><br>
Then I found out that she has been calling housing behind my back and telling them that the trash issue (other tenants throwing it on the ground outside) is really just me doing it. When I know she knows it isn't us. And that our house is so messy that she called to tell them that too. Mind you, she's been inside here a handful of times unannounced and my vacuuming probably needed to be done with 2 cereal throwers in the house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> But I specifically remember apologizing for the mess once, and she made this big "Oh this?! This isn't messy, besides you have kids. I know how it is. I would never come to a friends house and judge like that.It doesn't bother me at all!"<br><br>
She also asked first floor if I was at that BBQ and ate with them. "Was <i>Nature</i> there?" "Uh.. no. She only said hi and left." "<b>Good</b>!!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
So now... I'm feeling insecure. I haven't confronted her because she's a bit scary when she's like that. I honestly feel she's been taking peoples pills when she was out of state because.. she gets violently angry that is just.. not right. I don't feel like dealing with a screaming mad woman calling the cops and calling my kids names. I'm insulted about the whole, me wanting her husband thing. Really insulted. I mean, if she has a problem with HIM then she needs to take it up with him. If she wants me to ignore him, or stop talking to him in the hallway or whatever.. then FINE! I could have done that. I really don't give a crap about him. But to twist her own insecurities around as somehow being my fault? And to bring my kids and nursing into it? Hell I've nursed around them for the past 2 years. Its never been an issue. Suddenly I'm obscene and hitting on her husband.<br><br>
I'm sad and frustrated. We weren't true friends, but we at least got along.<br>
I thought.<br><br>
This petty S*&^ needs to stop. I hate the high school drama. Shame on me for even sticking my head out into the hallway and attempt to make friends with women.<br>
Women suck.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
While I wait for the cops to start showing up for noise complaints again... I'm gonna find a rock and crawl under it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: