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Can you belive it? He was in town for thanksgiving and we hang out for the DC just as friends.......Well I walk on eggshells around him and I know he hates bfing in public but tells me how bfing is the best thing.. He told me in the past I acted like some african jungle woman...Well while he has been in town I have bf in a dressing room,car,with a blanket over me,and a rest room area but still covered up to please him<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:.............Well we left Target today and the little one started crying he wanted boobie,so in the parking lot probbly about a car lenth away from the car I wipped out my breast and let the baby eat...................I got told I was a sicko,gross,that my breast were disusting,what must people think of you,and want must younger childern think when they see you doing this in public......That I was a peice of shi%,and that I look like a slut,,,,,I had no respect for my self,,beacuse I let everyone see,,,,and bfing must not be specil to me beacuse if it was I would keep it secritive for myself and my child...........<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:: irked:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:.... .....On top of it all I was trying to exsplan that it was a natural and normal beautiful gift,that breast are made to feed babies and children and how his future wife would probbly formula feed with the support he has for bf....Well that made him mad and I got my window in my car punched so there is a huge spider web of craking in my window.....................Now I know why we are not togther...............He appoligised but still told me that I could cover up with a blanket or cover.....I am one that lets my boobie out in full view to feed my child,in a movie,the mall,the bookstore,a resturant....I dont care if Grandma,Grandpa,Children,your Husband or a nun sees thats what my booies were made for..............Sorry to vent<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> but I am really mad about it apoligie or not from him..............I hope everyone understands why I am so mad
 

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He PUNCHED your window over this?!?!<br>
He sounds VERY unbalanced & I wouldn't trust that temper with kids. Sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Yes very unbalanced............We got divorced.....He is ok when I agree with him controlling when I dont...Its his way or the highway.........He works out of town so much he can only see the kiddos for like 4 days every 6 weeks.....I am always with them...I have not seen him lash at the DC but your right I shoulnt trust him.....Thank You for the hugs =o)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yes very unbalanced............We got divorced.....He is ok when I agree with him controlling when I dont...Its his way or the highway.........He works out of town so much he can only see the kiddos for like 4 days every 6 weeks.....I am always with them...I have not seen him lash at the DC but your right I shoulnt trust him.....Thank You for the hugs =o)</div>
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It's a relief to hear you are always there, that's a great idea, one I would definately continue! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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He punched your window in your car and you still got into the car with him??? Momma, what are you thinking? I mean that in a very sincere way, not snarky. You should not subject yourself or your children to that abuse EVER AGAIN. Did you report the window to the police? If not you should.<br><br>
I think you are too close to the situation and maybe you don't see that this man is very abusive and you need to protect yourself and your kids from him.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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He punched your window in your car and you still got into the car with him??? Momma, what are you thinking? I mean that in a very sincere way, not snarky. You should not subject yourself or your children to that abuse EVER AGAIN. Did you report the window to the police? If not you should.<br><br>
I think you are too close to the situation and maybe you don't see that this man is very abusive and you need to protect yourself and your kids from him.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:</div>
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As I'm sure you know, this man sounds like he has a whole SLEW of issues going on. His warped views on your NIP are just part of all of those issues and problems that HE has.. nothing to do w/ you. You keep on with nourishing your babe and nurse wherever and whenever you need to!! I hope that his visit is over, or that it is almost over, and that you and your kids stay safe around such a volatile man. Many hugs to you.
 

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Moving this from Lactivism to Parents as Partners. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I hope he is paying for your window.<br><br>
I also hope that you consider reporting it when he gets like this. He is unlikely to get better, and if his children are girls and he is that unbalanced already about the female body.....<br><br>
Please consider reporting him if he is like this. It will strengthen your case in the future if he gets right out of hand.
 

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You need to call the police and tell them. You need to. This is far more then about breastfeeding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Definately something worth calling the police over. There is NO reason to punch out a window over something like that, let alone at all. I am personally a reformed violent person. I never hit anyone, but I did break a lot of things, and I regret EVERY single one of them.<br><br>
There has to be someone or something that tells him what he is doing is wrong, because obviously he doesn't see it that way.
 

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yup.<br><br>
You don't deserve to be treated like this.
 

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.Well that made him mad and I got my window in my car punched so there is a huge spider web of craking in my window.............<br><br>
I am sorry but you need to call the police and take a picture of the crime. He needs to pay for it and you need a record of this. I would call it domestic violence from a former husband. This should be documented so that you have the ability to use it if needed in the future to get you and or your child away from him. XH status means none of your life is any of his damn business. I wouldn't engage him in trying to convince. I would just state that since he is out of your life, he can stay out of your business. And don't be alone with him anymore. You need witnesses to his craziness!
 

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"I am one that lets my boobie out in full view to feed my child,in a movie,the mall,the bookstore,a resturant....I dont care if Grandma,Grandpa,Children,your Husband or a nun sees thats what my booies were made for.............."<br><br><br>
YOU GO MOMMA!!! I am right behind you!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Two words: "restraining order"<br><br>
Until he can control his temper, he should not be in any way near your child! And yes, he has harmed your child- he's verbally abused you in front of your child. That's called emotional abuse. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry momma. You keep on nip, you are right there is nothing wrong with it. Please report him, what he did was totally wrong.
 

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WOW...he punched your window because you were feeding your child??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: He is definitely severely mentally unbalanced. You need to report him,for sure. I would not trust such a person around my children,who knows what he may do!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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I would report the window to the police and get a restraining order. And who cares what he thinks about what you're doing? That's why he's the ex, he can stick his opinion up where the sun don't shine.
 

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Ignore him about NIP. Do <i>not</i> try to justify it, because it's none of his business what you do with your breasts, and you're doing the best thing for your child.<br><br>
Report your window to the police. I agree that you should get a picture. You need some evidence of his instability on file, because there's every possibility he's going to get worse. Even if you don't choose to go for a restraining order now, it may well be a necessity in the future. A man who will punch a car window because his ex is breastfeeding in public is tremendously unstable, and it's very likely that something else will set him off even worse.
 
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