This is a nightmare. My XH made darn sure I was tied to him and I spent a fortune in legal fees trying to break free of the town we lived in without forfeiting all custody of my son. This is just one more way abusive ex partners manipulate and control their victims. Because we were chained to that town and my XH, my oldest son and I still suffer to this day and he is 28 years old now.Can't help with legal specifics, but as a child of parents who lived in different states starting when I was 13, I would support a law stipulating that both parents must live within 10 minutes of the child unless exemption is obtained through family court. You're not married anymore but you will always be family.