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I have this online mama friend who I have corresponded with for almost a year via email, messaging, etc and I pretty much got stabbed in the back by her! I am so in shock! We have been fairly good friends, talking on a daily basis, sharing pics of our dc, sending each other items that would work well for the other persons kids, etc. I don't want to get too much into the specifics, but I had vented to her about another friend (who we will call C) who said something to me in passing that was hurtful. I really didn't think it was a big deal, but since I'm hormonal and pregnant it did probably upset me more than it should have. So anyway, I talked to my online friend about the minor hurtful thing that C said, because I thought we had the type of friendship where we could confide stuff like that. Well I knew that my online friend and C sometimes chatted via email since we are all part of a big group of mothers with babies the same age. Well it turns out that she told everything I said to C (along with quite a bit of embellishment it sounds like) and now I've been yelled at by a bunch of the people in this group now!<br>
Somehow I went from being the one who had my feelings hurt to being some 'a horrible lying witch' <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> I know I probably should have just kept what I thought inside my own head, but I didn't what I said was that big of a deal at the time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/guilty.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="guilty"> I probably shouldn't care about it since this all has to do with a bunch of people I don't know IRL, but after a year of corresponding I felt like I DID know them! I'm really a nice person I swear! I don't badmouth people!<br><br>
I have to say though, I'm not the first person to have been ridiculed in this group before, so I guess everyone really enjoys their drama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I'm so hurt by being made to be everyone's drama fix for the month. I suppose I'm better off without dealing with people like them, I'm just still in such shock! I'm definitely going to keep to myself online from now on I guess! Thanks if you read this far and actually understood half of what I said.
 

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Rebecca, you can confide in your friends. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br>
I am sorry that it has turned out that this person simply isn't a friend. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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Thanks Lory <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I'm definitely glad to have you as a friend! Thanks a bunch again for yesterday!
 

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Boy do I ever know where you are coming from! Some people thrive on drama. But when it is their turn to need to vent they expect to get all the sympathy in the world. I'm sorry you had to deal with that! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sorry Rebecca <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. It sucks that this was someone you thought was a friend, and she turned on you just because she felt like some drama, or some attention, or whatever. That stinks anytime, but when you're pregnant and hormonal and vulnerable....it just sucks MORE.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I have never understood people who like to tell someone what someone else says about then....don't we all say things when we are hurt or upset that we don't necesarily mean...why anyone wants to run to a person and say "so and so said this and this and this about you"....that is so grammar school (and I didn't even do it then)....I don't like to hurt people or make them feel uncomfortable (esp when there is no beneficial reason to), but apparently some people thrive on that. So sorry that you got stabbed in the back...it hurts when you find out you can't trust those that you thought you could
 

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Ugh! That stinks. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Hugs to you! Why is it that some folks never grow out of this jr. high-ish behavior!! I guess I just have so many better things to expend my energy on....it really bothers me, really really bothers me a lot!
 

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that person simply isn't a friend. I'll admit, I gossip but never about a friend. A person you confide in isn't exactly the person you want to betray, kwim? I think that the secrets you share bring you closer to one another. I have made several friends here and if one of them betrayed me like that I would just feel awful. I'd probably cry, but then I would realize that some people seem like they are your friends but they are really just unable to commit to a true friendship.<br><br>
I can't make it better or feel better or make it right, but I can give a shoulder to cry on and an ear (or two) to listen.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"><br>
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I haven't been here much and I don't know you but I wanted to offer you hugs too!!!<br><br>
I just went through an awful splitup of an online group - and it really tears you up inside! I was seriously hurting, and it shocked me how much I had grown to really care about all those women! Its crazy to me how close you can get to someone who you never meet.<br><br>
Anyway - sending you thoughts of love and healing!!
 

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That sucks, some people always have to have drama. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake">
 

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I use to belong to a group online, and after seeing them turn on other members, I left the group, knowing that it was just a matter of time before they could turn on me as well. Obvioulsy these people weren't really your friends in the first place, they aren't worth you time.
 

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Thank you so much for all your kindness! I've calmed down now and I'm not so upset/pissed off anymore. I suppose that I should be happy that I know what kind of people they really are, rather than to continue wasting my time. I'm sure I'm much better off without them, its just still such a shock that they would accuse me of this since I'm one of those people who actually worries too much about making sure no one gets their feelings hurt. I know in my heart that I did nothing wrong, it was just hard to have people accusing me of being so awful and to know that all those 'friendships' are all gone. Thanks again for the support, I really needed it!
 
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