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Hello,<br><br>
I thought I'd come to this thread for some wonderful advise on how to handle my ds. He's so interested in the world around him, he uses his hands to understand his world. Specialists are thinking he has sense integrated disfunction. I'm ok about him touching stuff at are house, because i've kept most dangers out of reach, the problem is when I take him out of the house. If he has to stand in any lines he has to run around touching everything. I try to controll him by either gently reminding him of our rules we discussed in the car ride, or reminding/bribe him gently of the next place(usually somewhere he really wants to go) if he kepts his hands to himself and stays by my side(i hate this one but it works 75% of the time), to a more strict voice use your eyes not your hands type deal right at first so he doesn't increase his touch speed to a point of max that I can't handle. If I let him touch one thing he thinks he has it in his will to touch everything either be humans or objects he interested in. If he passes the point of max touching, he'll have a fit, run in the back behind either be register or kitchen resturant(examples). I'm fustrated with him I don't want to take him any where in public, because I want us to have good days. This has been going on for awhile. I thought he'd grow out of this by four. Instead he has added a snotty behavior to the increased point of touching stuff... also i've added a strict mama behavior in public that makes people look at me like i'm insane. Some times people butt in and say stuff like " He wont hurt it" or "boy, isn't he hyper" It just depends on what end of the spectrum they happen to witness; the before or after the increased max point. Does any one have any kind advice or gentle techs... thank you...
 

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Someone else on this forum suggested saying "touch with one finger" to encourage them to touch gently and not break/disturb things. It sounds like a great compromise to me but it may not be what you are looking for. What I have found works for my ds is to tell him ahead of time what acceptable behavior is (sounds like you are already doing this) and then if he misbehaves quietly tell him, oh, sorry, we have to leave now, you were told not to do that. For some reason it works and while it can be a great inconvenience to leave without the groceries you went to the store for, it only takes one or two times.<br><br>
One other thought is to keep an interesting object handy in your pocket and offer it to him when he begins to get out of control. Sort of distract him away from touching everything else by offering him something tactilely interesting to touch (a smooth worry stone or a textured ball)...
 

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Amma,<br>
My 4.5 yr old is a sensory seeker too, although he's more of a whole-body-experiencer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> Like Siddie, I was coming in to recommend that you have a variety of fidgets for him to use--a spider ball, a pez dispenser, a ribbon to twist, Klix, a retractable measuring tape is elliott's favorite--just something to occupy his hands. We keep a shoe box of toys in the car, and elliott knows he can bring these items into wherever we are going. Combined with some deep pressure hugs during a trip to wherever (the grocery store, the dreaded home depot, etc) things usually go pretty well.<br><br>
Oh yeah, we also use natural consequences to diminish touching. Elliott knows if he's touching inappropriately (sharp things at Home Depot, glass jars at the grocery, etc.) he'll need to ride in the cart. Sometimes he chooses the cart from the beginning, but if not, and he wants to walk around, he's really motivated to be able to stay out of the cart.<br><br>
Check some of the sensory integration catalogs (sensory comforts, southpaw enterprises, et. al) for ideas for fidget toys (ad then buy them locally--it's usually much cheaper!
 

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Thanks for the great idea's. I'm going to try the one finger touch and the shoe box of items in the car. I was getting so down on our last outing, I was losing hope. I also wondered wimberly if, Elliot, ever wanted to bring the shoe box in the house to play with, if so, does he get used to the sense of touch of the toys/items that they don't work as an distraction in public. I would probally have to stay darn firm with my ds about the items, but think i'll try it anyways. I will also just keep items in his own pockets, my bag, and pockets. I really need to find something gooey that lint won't stick to.<br>
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We trade things in and out of the shoe box. If somethingfrom the box comes in, Elliott has to add something new (and quiet!)
 

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my Ds is 3 1/2 and touches everything too. what keeps im busy in the store is silly putty..heck when im tense that stuff does wonders for me! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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