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I am sometimes feeling like a mean-greenie. I am environmentally and health conscious and when I have the opportunity, I am a hippie-extreme green person. Like if my husband wouldn't thwart it I would have a solar paneled house, a roof-top garden, etc. I live in an area of white, christian conservatives that are all very, very mainstream. not that there is anything wrong with white, christian conservatives--as in, I am not trying to be mean about those aspects of a person. well, they see how healthy my family is and they are always asking for advice and help, but then they see that my lifestyle is 'extra work or expense' and start making excuses for why they can't change their ways. I know I shouldn't get too emotionally invested in the health of other families but I get so angry at the lame, closed minded, laziness. I really don't want to try anymore and I sometimes don't want to be around these people because of the irritation it causes me. Am I being a jerk? unaccepting? overly concerned? Do you all have this problem? I'm just so tired of having to explain things, defend things, and be the odd-one-out.
 

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I know how you feel, but in my case the situations all revolve around parenting.<br><br>
My neighbor's son had (has) some issues and she would ask me for advice, but then argue every piece of information I gave her.<br><br>
Just one example: her son was really fussy. She asked me what she should do, and I suggested that she could try a sling. She immediately dissed that advice and just continued to complain about her son's fussiness. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
I've decided that she's one of those people who just likes to voice her complaints, and what she really wants to hear is an affirmation of what she's already saying. She wasn't happy until one day I said, "Yes. He's a very fussy baby. You're right, it's a stage you'll just have to live through."<br><br>
Maybe when your neighbors ask you for your advice, you can just give them the title of a good book on the subject they are seeking advice for. Then, you don't have to feel like your knowledge is being rejected.
 

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Yes, I know exactly what you mean!! Just last night we had some friends over, and were having a bonfire, etc. We ordered a pizza & they asked for paper plates. I explained that we didn't have any, but got them regular plates. They seemed put out! I mean, I'm the one that's going to wash them, what difference does it make!!??<br><br>
I'm starting to get used to people thinking I'm crazy.
 

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mhmm...I bought some cornplastic and recycled plates for a party cause I knew I would get that sort of reaction. People tick me off! i hate to feel so judgemental or like I look down on others but I think that only applies when the topic of analysis is subjective...like religion, not whether or not you kill the planet or your own health.
 
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