[catlvr976]

She always said that she wanted to bf for at least a year, but she had to go back to work when her baby was 6 weeks. She was not able to pump enough. I feel bad for her b/c when she told me, she sounded pretty down about the whole thing.

Some of you may remember me talking about her right after her baby was born; she wouldn't feed the baby until after a certain number of hours had passed. I did try and mention about how often dd would eat hoping that maybe that would make her see that bf babies eat very often.

Anyway, the thing with the baby is that she sleeps for a very long time. They were really impressed with how the baby would sleep when she started on formula. They told me that she slept for 11 hours straight after they started her on formula. Just the other day DH was talking to his psycho mother and she was telling him that BIL's baby slept through the night, she only got up at around 3 to eat and she's still asleep (this was around 10 in the morning). DH and I think she was telling DH this b/c dd still doesn't sleep through the night and was trying to get us to see that something is wrong with dd. Those of you who've read my past sagas about my MIL know what I'm trying to get at. DH said that he just told her "yeah, so?" DH told me that he saw the baby over at MIL's and he said that she was just sitting in the swing just staring off. I think he said this b/c when dd was her age, she was totally different, alert, smiling. Then again....all babies are different.

ANYWAY....

DH and I were talking about this. Do you think that it's odd for a baby to sleep so long? I mean, she isn't getting any type of stimulus b/c she sleeps for such a long time. Won't she be at risk for low weight gain b/c she isn't eating very often or is this normal for a ff baby? Their baby is 2 months old. I only ask this b/c I am curious. I hope I'm not coming across as some neb nose, I'm just curious about this.

Don't worry, I or DH will NEVER EVER say anything to BIL or his gf about this b/c it's not our place, but we were just wondering about this.

For those of you who've read my in law sagas and may remember them, DH was talking to his gma and she said to DH "Is the ped happy with Maddie's progress, is she meeting all her markers?" DH told her that the ped is fine with dd. He told me this and I was like what do they think is wrong with dd NOW? I told DH that at dd's next appt, he should run over there and act like something is wrong with her; that by doing that, it should make them happy since they seem to want to find something wrong with her. I haven't spoke to them since earlier this month, they've tried to say a couple things to me, and I've just given them very bland, yes or no, one word answers.

DH told me that MIL had the playpen up (I guess so BIL's baby could sleep in it) and she put dd in it (which angered me when he told me) and dd starting hopping up and down and MIL was like, look at her (DH said MIL sounded pleased) and (this is the best part) no sooner did she make that comment, dd started to fuss and wanted out of there. It's not the best that dd fussed, but it's the best b/c dd showed MIL that she DOES NOT want to be in the playpen (they think that dd needs to be in a playpen). I would've loved to be there to see how MIL reacted when dd fussed and wanted out. When DH told me this I told him that is one reason why I don't trust MIL with dd, that she'll do whatever she wants (regardless of what DH and I say) and that's why I don't ever want her to watch dd for us.

Thanks for reading.

 

[owensmom]

I wish grandparents could just be happy with their wonderful healthy loved grandbaby's and not need to have them approved by a ped every couple months like some item being built on an assembly line.

Maybe your BIL's babe will stop sleeping through the night... ds was totally bf'd and he slept great for about 3.5 months, like 7 hours in a row. Then he started teething and he hasn't slept well since! So it may not be the formula. It does seem weird that the baby is sleeping a long time... what time do they put her down so that she is still sleeping at 10am??

My mom always comments on whether Owen will sleep through the night, even if I tell her he only woke up once or twice. I finally said that I don't sleep through the night, I wake up once or twice, and I fall back asleep. Pretty common thing in humans, I think - wake up, scratch, roll over, yawn, drift back off to sleep. Kids just need a little love and help to get back to the drifting part...

 

[eclipse]

i've often wondered about the stimulation thing myself - my dd (3.5 months) sleeps 12 hours nearly every night, has one or two two hour naps during the day, and quite a few shorter naps too. she has slept through since five weeks and was one of those babies that slept over 20 hours a day from birth. this is the complete opposite from ds, who slept maybe 12 hours total from birth and at 2.5 can get by on 10 or less. i *have* noticed that she is "slower" at milestones etc than ds was (but ds was rolling over at three weeks, so its hard to compare). anyway, i do think the difference is in part due to the number of hours spent awake - ds had more time to practice than dd does.

ETA
i don't know about "in general," but in my case it wasnt' a difference beween bf vs ff - dd has never had any formula, but ds was supplemented early on for a variety of reasons (still nursing ast 2.5 though!!!). anyhow, i htink its just a difference in temperment and sleep needs. dd is very mellow, rarely cries, nothign seems to bother her - ds was a much touchier, high needs type.

 

[Peppamint]

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Originally posted by eclipse i've often wondered about the stimulation thing myself - my dd (3.5 months) sleeps 12 hours nearly every night, has one or two two hour naps during the day, and quite a few shorter naps too. she has slept through since five weeks and was one of those babies that slept over 20 hours a day from birth. this is the complete opposite from ds, who slept maybe 12 hours total from birth and at 2.5 can get by on 10 or less. i *have* noticed that she is "slower" at milestones etc than ds was (but ds was rolling over at three weeks, so its hard to compare). anyway, i do think the difference is in part due to the number of hours spent awake - ds had more time to practice than dd does.

Ditto! My dd was a tiny, sleepy baby who slept through the night starting at 2w old. She hit milestones at the late end of average (except for walking was the early end of average) and didn't crawl until she was almost a year old. She never had any formula, but my mom fed her bottles of ebm while I worked 1/2 days four days a week. She talked late (as in not very many words until after she turned 2) and I do feel like I have to work harder with her.

My ds had always been alert and while he was average size at birth (7lb 7oz) he has grown quickly and doubled his birthweight by four months. He is doing things early for the most part. He has been ebf and never had a bottle or pacifier.

My births were very different too and I wonder about that sometimes... with my dd I was induced at 38 weeks and given IVs full of pitocin and a shot of Nubain. She was fully vaxed. I sometimes think she just wasn't fully cooked, KWIM? With ds, I had a homebirth and went into labor on my own the day before my due date- no drugs and no vax. He was (and still is) alert from day one.